I am turning nineteen in April. I know that right now most of you probably view me as a child... which is understandable, given that many people my age are incredibly immature. Anyways, I find myself at a crossroads in my life, and I am wondering if it is socially acceptable for me to be subscribing to eHarmony. I'm a wise 18, and I have a huge past with several experiences that have caused me to mature much sooner than the men (and women) my age. I am in college and I work hard. I understand that most teens/young adults take these yearsto "have a good time", meaning party hard. I joined eHarmony for many reasons; growing up, I had low self-esteem and extremely low standards for my partners (because, in my opinion, I wasn't one to be choosy), which led to several poor relationships and the last being abusive. Still, I'm a very strong individual and I have taken these experiences and gained from them a much stronger sense of self and standards that I intend to maintain. I have been single for half a year now and am ready to find someone who is looking for a committed, long-term relationship. But with these guys? I don't think pot smoking binge drinkers who hook up with several girls in a night would cut it, and that's all I ever see (I'm in a sorority... yes, I do participate in other environments as well, but still haven't found anyone worth pursuing).


My reason for this post is to ask your opinion. Am I too young to be using eHarmony? Which is more important, physical age or mental age? I find it most likely that I will wind up with someone several years older than me, because I need an individual who can challenge me intellectually, and most guys my age aren't quite there yet. Thoughts? Advice?