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mrdoc2005 is offline mrdoc2005 Post #1  January 14,2009, 5:02pm
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Please do not take this wrong. However, it seems ever women and her sister is looking for someone to make them laugh. While I understand that is important is that all you are looking for in a mate/partner/relationship.
Do not mistake me; I want to find someone I can have funny with. I also want someone to love me and someone I feel free with and able to share all my inner most personal feeling and ideals with along with sharing my heart.
When I read a profile that says “someone to make me laugh” period, that person moves low on my list.
Again, I know this may make me sound like a jerk. I am just trying to share how that reads to me.
 
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I kind of agree with you and I used to get the same feeling when reading that. Now I see it more as a catch phrase. Aren't we all looking for someone that we can laugh with and have a good time with? But often when a woman writes "I'm looking for someone to make me laugh" as the only thing she's looking for in a partner it makes me think she's looking for a standup comedian :P
 
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I think this is one of those phrases that depends on the "priority" of how important this is...like does she expect you to make her laugh every day, several times a day, etc.


For me, I just consider a shared sense of humor a part of chemistry...someone that "gets" me. People either click or don't get each other's jokes.


For me the biggest turn off is the men's profiles that on that question just say "they are looking for someone attractive"...no defining traits...nothing. Again it is one of those things that the definition is in the eye of the beholder so doesn't come across writtenvery well.
 
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bravethestorm,432210 wrote :

I think this is one of those phrases that depends on the "priority" of how important this is...like does she expect you to make her laugh every day, several times a day, etc.


For me, I just consider a shared sense of humor a part of chemistry...someone that "gets" me. People either click or don't get each other's jokes.


For me the biggest turn off is the men's profiles that on that question just say "they are looking for someone attractive"...no defining traits...nothing. Again it is one of those things that the definition is in the eye of the beholder so doesn't come across writtenvery well.
men really say that? Wow. Good to know.


Women usually dress up their desire for attractiveness into an entire package.
 
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... Just looking for an ounce of spelling ability. Dictionaries are now a $1 each; is this too much to ask?
 
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Hi, I have just joined EH a week ago. No one wants to talk to me. I get closed for other. What is other.
 
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justme2c,432500 wrote :

Hi, I have just joined EH a week ago. No one wants to talk to me. I get closed for other. What is other.
It's a lame way of a guy saying "I'm not interested." Usually it means that he thinks you are fat. But since you don't look fat, I'd say it's because of something in your profile.
 
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This is an interesting post for me, because I kinda thought men in general (I know there are exceptions!) don't want to talk about innermost feelings and all that "mushy stuff" right away Wouldn't it scare you to death to meet up with a woman who, on the first date, wanted to open her heart to you and spill her closest secrets and feelings? All in due time, I say.


I mention humor in my profile because I like to laugh and have fun,but it's certainly not ALL I'm looking for. Life throws us curve balls and being able to laugh at some of the insanity is, to me, an indicator of resilience. (See? There's a serious side to humor too!) It's just one component of a person, but in my opinion, an important one.
 
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