LauraLynn is offline LauraLynn Post #1  March 26,2008, 5:19pm
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I am a new member (couple of months) and am very disappointed in the response. The overwhelming majority of matches never respond at all. Guys - - give me some feedback on what is an average response time. I have closed matches after 3-4 weeks with the reason being that they never responded to my request to communicate. I have even gotten to the middle of communication or open communication and then nothing, so I've closed the match after a few weeks. Am I being premature? Should I leave these open indefinitely, figuring they will eventually get around to my match? I have been matched with over 300 (WOW!!!!), and have sent at least first questions to all but about 30. Easily 98-99% don't respond at all, or at least haven't responded yet, and some of these matches are going on two months. Am I closing them too soon?
 
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tx1michael is offline tx1michael Post #2  March 27,2008, 11:12pm
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I think your experience is pretty typical based both on what I've read here in the forums and from personal experience. I've been an EH member for about 8 months now. I have to admit though there have been a couple times when I've been busy (and honestly a bit demoralized with EH) that I've gone weeks between checking on my matches, so I've been guilty of being a slow responder to a few people myself. [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif[/img] I'm trying to be a bit more proactive now though.

Regarding how long to wait before closing, one thing I saw someone suggest a while ago is to put them on hold if they don't respond after a few days (I usually give them a week or two myself). I found that works pretty well. It's not as permanent as closing them outright, but it frees up space in your "Communicating" tab. Once you're thoroughly satisfied they're never going to reply (which seems to be most of them) you can cull them from your On Hold tab. I think the ones you have that are two months old would be safe to close. In all likelihood they are inactive accounts.

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Something from another thread was that some of your matches that you send first communication to and never hear from may be in that freebie 30 days and never subscribe at all. With as many matches as you have (lucky!) I think tx1michael's suggestion of using Hold is a good one.
 
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LauraLynn, wrote :
I am a new member (couple of months) and am very disappointed in the response. The overwhelming majority of matches never respond at all. Guys - - give me some feedback on what is an average response time. I have closed matches after 3-4 weeks with the reason being that they never responded to my request to communicate. I have even gotten to the middle of communication or open communication and then nothing, so I've closed the match after a few weeks. Am I being premature? Should I leave these open indefinitely, figuring they will eventually get around to my match? I have been matched with over 300 (WOW!!!!), and have sent at least first questions to all but about 30. Easily 98-99% don't respond at all, or at least haven't responded yet, and some of these matches are going on two months. Am I closing them too soon?
LauraLynn,



I to am in the same boat, I'll send women questions. And they won't reply either.



So how long should I wait for a response?
 
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serenefirefly,76489 wrote :
Something from another thread was that some of your matches that you send first communication to and never hear from may be in that freebie 30 days and never subscribe at all. With as many matches as you have (lucky!) I think tx1michael's suggestion of using Hold is a good one.
Quite honestly I'm very disappointed and disillusioned with EH and the matches I'm getting. I get very few matches, and those I do get don't respond to communication. It's very frustrating to reach stage 3 communication with someone, wait 2 weeks, send a nudge, wait another 2 weeks, then close because I'm sick and tired of waiting. And the new who's read my profile section I can tell that they've looked at my profile!! Why are people on this site if not to communicate and get to know people. If you're not interested, close it, it's as simple as that.

I've just about had it and considering cancelling my membership because this obviously isn't working.
 
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tallos05 is offline tallos05 Post #6  March 31,2008, 7:31am
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I have only been doing this forabout 1 month ... but as i have over 150 matches and only about 30 have responded. I have also seen this effect .. but i do know that the free acounts are most of these... as of right now I have had 5 ppl that i have gotten to open communitcation.. 3 were phyco. But all in all i do have a few that are in the communication steps that i like there profile.. i though about 1week ago after going thorugh about 120 of them ... and getting closed out on and reciving 3 phyco matches... if there were any real ppl out there ... theni got 3 communications in 1 week all very impressive and seam to be wemen that fit what i want. .. just hang in there and see.

I also have had 1 of them not respond untill this week .. i got that match on the 2end day of having this account. so dont close them ... they may just come back in.
 
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jen123 is offline jen123 Post #7  April 1,2008, 8:20pm
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Maybe I am to picky , but if someone sends me questions, essp of a persoanl nature ,then receives ny answers at does not respond w/in 2 days , I close I am only interested in men who are

stepping up to the plate and want to pursue knowing me. Anything else is NOT gratifying .
 
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