That's because the media has mostly largely refused to publicize bad stories about VIOLENT women. But give them time-they are starting to turn on women. And some women ARE violent. Talk to 1,000 men like I have and you start to see patterns.

Not all men are the evil doers the BIASED media tries to make us out to be. That's called fear reporting. Even mosquitoes can be made out to be the bad guy, if give enough negative media press.

Some women do things like Parental Alienation which directly results in thousands of fathers commiting suicide. But you never hear about THAT on TV. I'm just making a point that not all women are Angels as some are lead to believe. Some even are predators and hurt GOOD MEN.

As for your dilema and that of others, I'd suggest you write on your E Harmony profiles that you prefer to become friends first before meeting. It will save you and them a lot of grief. And maybe save you a lot of poofing on the end of some men.

Men too are expected to have as much respect as you want from them. We don't want our chains jerked. I'm not saying you do it. But to me, emailing forever is a losing proposition. Most women are like private dectectives; they want information to decide who to throw to the curb BEFORE they have ever met the guy.

Online dating is just like a job search. Give out too much info on the phone/in emails and most likely you will NEVER get to the interview. I'm not trying to be cruel or insensitive to you. You are free to have your rules.

Kindly expect men to act like men. And please don't insult us for ACTING LIKE MEN. That's like insulting a woman who likes to shop. "Gosh I told her I wasn't looking for a woman who likes to shop. And she just had to stop and look into that dang window!"

Please do the men matches a service and strongly emphasize on your profile you need time to get to know someone before meeting them. If they can't read your profile, then it's their fault if you close them out for not caring about your feelings.

I wish you luck.