Do men understand that women may not be comfortable meeting right off the bat?


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westend_woman is offline westend_woman Post #51  July 3,2009, 8:51am
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The guys in my area whine about having to drive 20 mins in the city ....I have given up.
 
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westend_woman wrote :
The guys in my area whine about having to drive 20 mins in the city ....I have given up.

Do you have "congestion pricing?"

I wouldn't be keen on being taxed to go on a date, either.
 
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GILKEY wrote :
Of the 6 OPEN matches I met in person when I was a member of E/H I drove 60 miles to meet one, 89 miles to meet one, 120 miles to meet two, 250 miles to meet one, and 270 miles to meet the one I married. (one way distances)
So if I have mine set at 20 miles max am I being unreasonable? LOL
 
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So if I have mine set at 20 miles max am I being unreasonable? LOL

If you knew you would meet your future husband by increasing your radius, would you do it?
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redevil999 wrote :
Well then you better rest up! And, welcome to eha
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Thanks for the warm welcome, and the prescribed rest - I think I needed that.

But I'm all rested now, so shall we dance, Frog?

My post count is easy to explain - exchanging humorous one-liners with various species around here boosts it right up!

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D_Lion wrote :
If you knew you would meet your future husband by increasing your radius, would you do it?

When I was matching, I had the shortest distance too – which I felt was reasonable considering the goal I had at the time, which was just casual partners while I was still in school.
I'm not all that sure that a husband is my end goal. It's a fair question, but I don't plan on staying in North Carolina for much longer so a long drive isn't really something I'm up for. When I do move, it will probably be back to Ca or to Fl. so I'm not all that open to other states either.

I guess if I was more motivated I would be more flexible.
 
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I surely understand this, and I am a man. I do like to get to know someone a little bit through email OC first, then progress to a phone call or a couple. Then if there is chemistry I ask for a date.

Though if the emails go on too long then I feel that potential chemistry in a relationship can be lost and then it's just friends...

I am still learning (re-learning) the dating thing again but I am learning to trust my gut feelings on people.
 
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redevil999 is offline redevil999 Post #58  July 4,2009, 7:42am
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
PS. I'm harmless, really. I'm just a hedonists for the most part, seeking pure peasure and joy, at almost any cost. The only thing that turns me red is when I see great pain or injustice. Truly.
Well then you should fit right in. Most of us are harmless and hedonistic! There are a few loose cannons, but they're the exception. Just watch out for split personality posts ("I hate women, but theiy're wonderful, except when they're evil and destructive...") you should be able to recognize those, right?!
 
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healthb wrote :
Actually, I knew a gal who tried EH and did not put up her profile picture. She, too, is absolutely drop-dead gorgeous. She just wanted a man to get to know her for herself first, which I understand. Although it did not help her connect with her EH matches.

In the real world, however, it's our face that first greets a person, not our personality (unfortunately).
At first I tried using EH without a photo posted but the results were less than satisfactory. (I really want someone to choose me because of who I am rather than the way I appear.) So I relented.

I tend to close matches without photos because when I first started internet dating, I met some men who did not post pictures but sent them to me in emails. Only one was really unattractive...he happened to be a very nice man though. All the others were either married or in relationships. It took me awhile to catch.
 
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redevil999 wrote :
Well then you should fit right in. Most of us are harmless and hedonistic! There are a few loose cannons, but they're the exception. Just watch out for split personality posts ("I hate women, but theiy're wonderful, except when they're evil and destructive...") you should be able to recognize those, right?!
Oh, I can now. They don't call me an Enthusiast for nothing around here . I was even assigned a Quick Study tag before, probably as a motivational tool to help me learn about that and even more wonderful stuff - like women-hating men, PC, extreme feminism, and even the unsurpassable power of the self-help industry.

I just wish I had met someone like you at the door, just so I could get a concise summary of the course, so that I wouldn't have to learn it the hard way, and move on to hedonistic pleasures from the start...

But hey, never too late to have another like-minded friend around here
 
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