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Everyone has been way too easy on this creep. I am so glad you closed him!!!! don't ever ever ever let yourself get that far with a weirdo creep like that again!!! yikes!!!!!!!!!! really..yikes!!!

the last straw was definitley him asking for more pictures and saying 'you know how us guys are' GAG GAG GAG. I am so glad you dodged this bullet!!

And to Truth Seeker....you have only seen one or two women in your life who are too thin? Get out much?
- March 30th, 2008, 10:52 am
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niceandnosey wrote :

Maybe he's taking too much Zoloft, I don't know. You should close him- 6 pictures! What does he want, a poster??? He may already have turned one of your pictures into a poster- YES, CLOSE HIM.
Thanks for a good laugh and for the good instincts. Anti-depressants are common enough but his obsession with her image and his abbreviated answers would give me cause for pause. What is he doing with her pictures anyway - making a scrapbook?
- March 30th, 2008, 05:36 pm
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I don't see what's wrong with him. He seems like a nice, funny guy. Have you ever seen "must love dogs"? I'd give him a chance if I were you.
- March 30th, 2008, 08:57 pm
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I don't see what's wrong with him. He seems like a nice, funny guy. Have you ever seen "must love dogs"? I'd give him a chance if I were you.
- March 30th, 2008, 08:57 pm
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rninerie, wrote :

I would like opinions on some answers which I considered "odd" from a recent match. They were answers to questions sent during the communication process. The guy seems nice in some ways but these answers threw me off track. Just wondering if I am reading too much into it? I can't recall the exact questions verbatim, but you will get the idea.

Question: How is your current emotional health and does life look good to you right now? Answer: Life looks great, I'm on Zoloft!

Question: What are you looking for in a relationship partner? Answer: You

I gave him the initial benefit of the doubt and actually got to open communication. He had stated previously that he had a good sense of humor, so I asked him if the Zoloft answer was a joke (I really thought it might have been). He replied no, that he was on a low dose of Zoloft. I don't have anything against people needing anti-depressants, but I still can't get by the way he initially presented it. Just seems weird. Now in his second note he asked if I had more pics because "you know how us guys are." I already have six pictures (yes, full length too) posted on my profile. I am thinking CLOSE...but am I being too hasty? It's not like the matches are beating a path to my profile.

Rninerie,

I'd give him another chance...maybe he had a bad day when he responded. Ask a few more open-ended questions like, 'tell me about your typical day or week". See if he takes the time to truly respond or does he just want your pictures. You have to go with your gut.
- March 30th, 2008, 09:09 pm
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rninerie, wrote :

I would like opinions on some answers which I considered "odd" from a recent match. They were answers to questions sent during the communication process. The guy seems nice in some ways but these answers threw me off track. Just wondering if I am reading too much into it? I can't recall the exact questions verbatim, but you will get the idea.

Question: How is your current emotional health and does life look good to you right now? Answer: Life looks great, I'm on Zoloft!

Question: What are you looking for in a relationship partner? Answer: You

I gave him the initial benefit of the doubt and actually got to open communication. He had stated previously that he had a good sense of humor, so I asked him if the Zoloft answer was a joke (I really thought it might have been). He replied no, that he was on a low dose of Zoloft. I don't have anything against people needing anti-depressants, but I still can't get by the way he initially presented it. Just seems weird. Now in his second note he asked if I had more pics because "you know how us guys are." I already have six pictures (yes, full length too) posted on my profile. I am thinking CLOSE...but am I being too hasty? It's not like the matches are beating a path to my profile.
This guy is bizaar...beyond his weird and inappropriate answers. He is asking for more pix when you already have 6 on their including a full-length one. There's no valid reason for that. I would hit the close button myself. You'd have better luck with an emotionally (making sense) healthy guy on this site (if you get lucky enough to actually get matched with such a man), on your own, or even remaining alone is better than beiong with a weirdo like this guy presents himself to be.

RED FLAGS going off everywhere with this guy...read the signs and move on.
- March 31st, 2008, 01:18 am
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Think I would close the match. Listen to your gut, rarely are your instincts wrong. He may be a nice guy, just not the one for you.

Good luck

- March 31st, 2008, 03:31 am
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rninerie, wrote :

I would like opinions on some answers which I considered "odd" from a recent match. They were answers to questions sent during the communication process. The guy seems nice in some ways but these answers threw me off track. Just wondering if I am reading too much into it? I can't recall the exact questions verbatim, but you will get the idea.

Question: How is your current emotional health and does life look good to you right now? Answer: Life looks great, I'm on Zoloft!

Question: What are you looking for in a relationship partner? Answer: You

I gave him the initial benefit of the doubt and actually got to open communication. He had stated previously that he had a good sense of humor, so I asked him if the Zoloft answer was a joke (I really thought it might have been). He replied no, that he was on a low dose of Zoloft. I don't have anything against people needing anti-depressants, but I still can't get by the way he initially presented it. Just seems weird. Now in his second note he asked if I had more pics because "you know how us guys are." I already have six pictures (yes, full length too) posted on my profile. I am thinking CLOSE...but am I being too hasty? It's not like the matches are beating a path to my profile.
Yeah so ... HE IS MESSED UP!!.. I too have had a few clingy answers.. like "YOU" and "as long as im with u im good" .. they Dont even know the real U .. and there already throwing themelves at u .. Follow the advice of the ginger bread man and "RUN RUN RUN .. as fast as u can ..."

Im not normaly one to shy away from a person.. but with the messed up answeres i have gotten ... your problem looks mild.But if u realy want to mess with one ofthere ppl... answer back in an even more cryptic way.. so u made it to open comunication.. he asks .. u ifu like to be an at home mom ... so just answer back with ... I have fish that i babby sit every day and i do a damn good job.. I think im ready to make the step to children...Itsgota be ezer to put dipers on kids.

Just a fair trade of stupidity... and that does on tdo it.. change your e-mail address .. move to a diferent city and go into witness protection. LOL good luck
- March 31st, 2008, 06:43 am
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I would like opinions on some answers which I considered "odd" from a recent match. They were answers to questions sent during the communication process. The guy seems nice in some ways but these answers threw me off track. Just wondering if I am reading too much into it? I can't recall the exact questions verbatim, but you will get the idea.

Question: How is your current emotional health and does life look good to you right now? Answer: Life looks great, I'm on Zoloft!

Question: What are you looking for in a relationship partner? Answer: You

I gave him the initial benefit of the doubt and actually got to open communication. He had stated previously that he had a good sense of humor, so I asked him if the Zoloft answer was a joke (I really thought it might have been). He replied no, that he was on a low dose of Zoloft. I don't have anything against people needing anti-depressants, but I still can't get by the way he initially presented it. Just seems weird. Now in his second note he asked if I had more pics because "you know how us guys are." I already have six pictures (yes, full length too) posted on my profile. I am thinking CLOSE...but am I being too hasty? It's not like the matches are beating a path to my profile.
I would close...that niggling feeling is telling you something...
IT sounds pretty freaky to me, but if your other communication has been basically normal then it could have been a bad hair day or bad brain day. Everyone has the right to be loopy sometimes, right?
- March 31st, 2008, 06:50 am
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I would be cautious as well, but perhaps he is responding in this way based on something you wrote in your profle. Think about your question and how you worded it. You did ask him about his current emotional state. In your profile did you say you were seeking a man who was honest, and upfront? His answer was honest and upfront. His request for more photos weird if you already have a lot of pictures posted.

If you are not getting a lot of matches (I wasn't at first either), eHarmony suggests that you increase the range of distance. I didn't want to at first and kept my distance low, to a 1/2 hour driveable distance. Then you will get more matches, and see what is truly available as a match. If the distance is too great you can always close your match.

Good Luck!
- March 31st, 2008, 08:10 am
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