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Just wondereing when is it appropriate to close the Match? First received the match 12.20. He did not request communication, I did, that was on 12.28. He did respond to my first questions and sent his Cant' Stands/Have's. I sent mine also, that was 12.29. It is now 1.2 - 3 days since last communication. When is it appropriate to close the match?
- January 2nd, 2009, 07:50 am
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Are you communicating with others? If so then relax and wait. If it's over 7 days send him a nudge and see what happens. If you want to move on, move on. If you close him and he sends you a final message then you can re-open later if you want.
- January 2nd, 2009, 09:42 am
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Depends if it is a free weekend you are working on or if you have a regular membership. If someone has a lot of matches they may put more effort into their most promising ones and let the others stagnate until they have time to get to them. Some just poof and never get beyond that. So just use your best judgement. The way I look at it, if I am really interested in someone I am not gonna sit on it. I am gonna make an effort to move the communication along in a speedy manner. If I don't have any communication for 5 days, I close figuring that they are really not that interested.
- January 2nd, 2009, 10:31 am
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Everyone's different, but I usually wait a week or so and then close, figuring that if he's interested, he can ask to re-open.
- January 2nd, 2009, 11:20 am
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I have decided that I am not going to close people any more, unless I literally am trying not to hear from them. My reasoning is that it seems as if EH gives inactive members up to 20 matches. As ScottK pointed out, each time an active member closes an inactive member as a match, this drops the inactive member's matches under 20 - which is likely to generate another match with this inactive profile for someone else.





If I don't want to communicate with a match, I will just give them a score that puts the match in "maybe." If I am in communication with them and they poof, I will just leave them there. If for some reason they try and re-establish communication later, I will close them unless they demonstrate some reason for me to want to start talking to them again.





I am through with closing matches and just recycling a bunch of inactive profiles into the system.
- January 2nd, 2009, 12:37 pm
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Bluecondor wrote :

I have decided that I am not going to close people any more, unless I literally am trying not to hear from them. My reasoning is that it seems as if EH gives inactive members up to 20 matches. As ScottK pointed out, each time an active member closes an inactive member as a match, this drops the inactive member's matches under 20 - which is likely to generate another match with this inactive profile for someone else.





If I don't want to communicate with a match, I will just give them a score that puts the match in "maybe." If I am in communication with them and they poof, I will just leave them there. If for some reason they try and re-establish communication later, I will close them unless they demonstrate some reason for me to want to start talking to them again.





I am through with closing matches and just recycling a bunch of inactive profiles into the system.
Good thinking. I am going to try that myself. It's quicker to move a match to "maybe" than to close them out, so this will save me time too!
- January 2nd, 2009, 01:54 pm
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mszoufan wrote :

Bluecondor wrote :


I have decided that I am not going to close people any more, unless I literally am trying not to hear from them. My reasoning is that it seems as if EH gives inactive members up to 20 matches. As ScottK pointed out, each time an active member closes an inactive member as a match, this drops the inactive member's matches under 20 - which is likely to generate another match with this inactive profile for someone else.





If I don't want to communicate with a match, I will just give them a score that puts the match in "maybe." If I am in communication with them and they poof, I will just leave them there. If for some reason they try and re-establish communication later, I will close them unless they demonstrate some reason for me to want to start talking to them again.





I am through with closing matches and just recycling a bunch of inactive profiles into the system.


Good thinking. I am going to try that myself. It's quicker to move a match to "maybe" than to close them out, so this will save me time too!
LOL! Since I only have been getting one or two matches the past two weeks, the time demand of closing matches isn't a factor in my case.
- January 2nd, 2009, 03:01 pm
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I have had a notice from EH before that I have reached my maximum number of matches and that more matches would not be forth coming until I dealt of some of them. So if you never close a match out, isn't that gonna affect whether you get anymore?
- January 2nd, 2009, 08:52 pm
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Altair wrote :

I have had a notice from EH before that I have reached my maximum number of matches and that more matches would not be forth coming until I dealt of some of them. So if you never close a match out, isn't that gonna affect whether you get anymore?
How many did you have? (Just so I know how often to thin out the herd)
- January 2nd, 2009, 09:03 pm
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :

Altair wrote :


I have had a notice from EH before that I have reached my maximum number of matches and that more matches would not be forth coming until I dealt of some of them. So if you never close a match out, isn't that gonna affect whether you get anymore?


How many did you have? (Just so I know how often to thin out the herd)
I 2nd this request. It sure would be nice to get real/actual numbers, especially since I suspect this is something EHarmony won't tell us!


Also, have you noticed that if you DON'T Close someone out once you hit that mark, and so you don't get any new Matches...


What happens when one of those existing Matches Closes *YOU*?


Do you receive a new Match in place of that existing Match?


Or does EHarmony not deliver you a new Match UNTIL you acknowledge the Close of the Match as well?

If any of you that are in this position could respond/test this, it would be MOST appreciated!





- January 2nd, 2009, 10:46 pm
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