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I just waded through the last 3 or 4 days of matches. Over 75% of them have no picture and have only 5 questions answered. This tells me that they are not a paying member. What a waste of time!


Also, I checked my "who's viewed me". No one has even viewed me for a little over aweek now even though I get about 10 matches per day.


I've quit initiating communication all together with guys because I've only had 2 or 3 even respond (in about 2 1/2 months time). One DID go to open communication, but it is not going to go anywhere.


So frustrating... I have until mid-February before my membership ends, and I'm not sure I even want to keep checking my matches or EH in general. EH has the most quality matches of any other dating site, but it does me no good if they are non-paying members or don't respond to communication. I know others share some of my frustrations...
- December 30th, 2008, 12:06 pm
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What to say what to say to this.
Hm....Im a paying member. I feel you. if i dont get someone hotter, and this interested in me...im not repaying.
I did meet a great girl. And we talk.
so...there.
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- December 30th, 2008, 02:09 pm
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I think members can keep viewings anonymous so you may not see them view you. And you are not the only one getting non members as matches mszoufan. It is kind of frustrating as you don't know if they are or not. As non members you know they can not reply, answer questions, or do anything or even see your pic so why would they care? You on the other hand are wondering why this guy won't communicate or answer your questions. And you never will know either. I imagine there are a lot more non members than there are members. But don't give up because of all the bum matches. All it takes is one - the right one - to fulfill your dreams. By the way, is your pic the one you use on the dating site? If so they must all be non members that can't see your pic or are blind. lol
- December 30th, 2008, 05:54 pm
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Yes, EH does bite. I've had 61 matches and only 3 have viewed me. I'm guessing the other profiles are nonpaying members. Who wouldn't view a person's profile when matched?
- December 30th, 2008, 09:37 pm
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Well my sister gave me an EH present of registration when I lived in CA and I never met anyone. For some strange reason I thought I would try again since I have relocated to OH and joined EH yet again. Same exact scenario - I get matches - send questions to all - and I would say there is about an 80% no response. What is up with this - this is truly a waste of money! I did have one phone conversation out of over 600 matches.I don't get it? I will not renew and will never join EH again - 2 times burned - I won't go back for 3. EH needs to do something to fix this site so that it actually works and individuals actually respond........How many "nudges" have you sent??????
- December 31st, 2008, 07:03 am
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I guess I get quite a few more views from my matches, nearly half. If you're a "new" member, as in joined within the past month or so, you may still be getting a lot of stale matches (people have not been active for a long time). IMHO, the longer you're in the system, the more likely it is you'll get matches who have joined recently and/or are more active.

I'd certainly stick it out through your remaining membership.
- December 31st, 2008, 08:09 am
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KungFuFtr wrote :

Yes, EH does bite. I've had 61 matches and only 3 have viewed me. I'm guessing the other profiles are nonpaying members. Who wouldn't view a person's profile when matched?
Someone in another thread pointed out that many people only check EH through email, which means that they don't actually log on to view profiles. Maybe they only log on when they really want to meet someone.





I wish they had more options available on EH, like if you could check a box that would reveal to matches when you are online or when you have logged in to EH. It would be nice to know if our matches are even active members.
- December 31st, 2008, 09:21 am
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mszoufan, wrote :

I just waded through the last 3 or 4 days of matches. Over 75% of them have no picture and have only 5 questions answered. This tells me that they are not a paying member. What a waste of time!


Also, I checked my "who's viewed me". No one has even viewed me for a little over aweek now even though I get about 10 matches per day.


I've quit initiating communication all together with guys because I've only had 2 or 3 even respond (in about 2 1/2 months time). One DID go to open communication, but it is not going to go anywhere.


So frustrating... I have until mid-February before my membership ends, and I'm not sure I even want to keep checking my matches or EH in general. EH has the most quality matches of any other dating site, but it does me no good if they are non-paying members or don't respond to communication. I know others share some of my frustrations...
I have only been a member for about a month- I am very disappointed.


I am very new to this method of meeting some one. I have been on my own for a very long time- very independant.


I have only one communicating member- and he is in Alaska.


I had to narrow my distance for several reasons as I was getting several matches a day from all over the country.


This is very tiime consumming. I do not have internet at home so I use the office (after hours)- library or a friends.


I have only had 3 "who viewed me" in the last 10 days.


I have had many "closed" due to lack of photo.


Now I finally have a photo posted but NOT the best. NO ONE to take a good digital photo available.


I signed up for 3 months- I am not sure I will use EH after that expires.


- December 31st, 2008, 05:06 pm
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I was in the same boat as you are. I agree with the points everyone brought up. I cancelled my subscription for those reasons, as I didn't see the point in spending the money, and getting little in return. I had communication with other members, with some going to open communication, only to go nowhere.


I'd recommend to keep trying until your membership ends, because you never know. At that point, evaluate whether or not you want to give the membership another subscription period. It's understandably frustrating, but don't give up yet.
- December 31st, 2008, 06:39 pm
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I thought that I would get someone to respond. I had more matches sent before I became a member. Now that I joined, I may get sent one a week. I have yet to have anyone answer a set of questions. I would love to just see how this is suppose to work. I read the success stories. I'm beginning to wonder if those are real stories or just a come on.


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