Carrie1515 is offline Carrie1515 Post #1  March 21,2008, 12:37pm
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Is there a forum for this? My other female friend and I are having a terrible time finding matches on E Harmony. We are 60/61 in great shape, intelligent, friendly, nice, still employed, active, and definitely not "dogs". Are we on the wrong dating site? Is EHarmony for just younger people? Are there men in Michigan here in the data base that want to meet women our age? I think all the matches I've been sent are too far away and the ones I do get in my area never respond back. I suspect they are non paying members just browsing. I've been a member 2 months and still have yet to get a match that talks to me. No dates. Nothing. We'd be interested in men up to about 65-66 but I've been sent profiles of men 78. No thanks. He could technically be my father. I've just lost 95 pounds, want to get back to dating, but I have no idea where to start! I don't feel old. I'm very depressed about all this. Any suggestions, people? Thanks, Carrie1515 in Lansing, MI (the mitten state).
 
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Carrie1515, wrote :

Is there a forum for this? My other female friend and I are having a terrible time finding matches on E Harmony. We are 60/61 in great shape, intelligent, friendly, nice, still employed, active, and definitely not "dogs". Are we on the wrong dating site? Is EHarmony for just younger people? Are there men in Michigan here in the data base that want to meet women our age? I think all the matches I've been sent are too far away and the ones I do get in my area never respond back. I suspect they are non paying members just browsing. I've been a member 2 months and still have yet to get a match that talks to me. No dates. Nothing. We'd be interested in men up to about 65-66 but I've been sent profiles of men 78. No thanks. He could technically be my father. I've just lost 95 pounds, want to get back to dating, but I have no idea where to start! I don't feel old. I'm very depressed about all this. Any suggestions, people? Thanks, Carrie1515 in Lansing, MI (the mitten state).
I'm 55 and I think you should start your own group just for people like us who are 55+.


I always put my age range as 50-65 because I am, frankly, not interested in guys who look and act older than I do.


I hope to hear from you again. I could use the conversation and ideas!
 
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I would like you to have a section to 'drill down' further 'qualify' participants. Maybe something like - "looking for permanent committed relationship - importance to you rated 1-5" ; 5=most important, 1=not so important. Men are sliding in not really intending to make a connection; they're unresponsive, and kinda slow. What's this no photos posted! Are you kidding? They would never accept a woman sight unseen! eHarmony had the reputation for offering marriage potential partners. I think they are becoming the players of the Match.com set who want free escort service, serial dating, serial monogomy at best-not faithful or committment minded. Sugardadyforme.com for players and business type$. eHarmony is kind of disappointing. I'm thinking of asking for a refund for the time remaining. Any suggestions?
 
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Carrie1515, wrote :

Is there a forum for this? My other female friend and I are having a terrible time finding matches on E Harmony. We are 60/61 in great shape, intelligent, friendly, nice, still employed, active, and definitely not "dogs". Are we on the wrong dating site? Is EHarmony for just younger people? Are there men in Michigan here in the data base that want to meet women our age? I think all the matches I've been sent are too far away and the ones I do get in my area never respond back. I suspect they are non paying members just browsing. I've been a member 2 months and still have yet to get a match that talks to me. No dates. Nothing. We'd be interested in men up to about 65-66 but I've been sent profiles of men 78. No thanks. He could technically be my father. I've just lost 95 pounds, want to get back to dating, but I have no idea where to start! I don't feel old. I'm very depressed about all this. Any suggestions, people? Thanks, Carrie1515 in Lansing, MI (the mitten state).
I'd like to join your forum, Carrie. I'm 58 and have set my matching preference at 53-63; although, I'm sent matches from 50 to 65. Funny, but I actually got matched up today with a guy who I had met from another dating site that turned out to be not so perfect, if you get my drift. Anyway, he and met for one date and then he disappeared. I later found out that he was still married! Now he's on eHarm. I enjoyed closing him out today! Living in San Diego county, I get plenty of matches every day; however, I'm finding that men in my age group are lazy or timid and tend to notinitiate contact. Not to brag, but I look much younger than my age, am fit, and have posted nice photos.(I believe that the men in my age group are holding outfor the girls in their 20's and 30's who they actually think they have a shot with.)I'll ocassionally have a match initiate communication but they are usually outside my preferred geographic range. After being a member for three months and getting little activity from my matches, I decided to bite the bullet and send icebreakers to 30 of my matches. Almost immediately, I got responses from 6 of them and am currently going through the GC process with them. I waited a week after sending the icebreakers, checked to see who was viewing me, and closed out the matches who never looked, assuming they were non-paying members who had already flown the coop. A week after that, if the matches who viewed mehadn't responded to my icebreaker, I closed them out, too. So, I'm down to six matches, in Open Communication with two (who told me they had never been contacted first by a match and were flattered) and expect to have a date for this weekend. It'd be my first date in months. But, one of my first questions to my date will be to ask why hehadn't initiated contact with me. I really didn't think that I was going to have to work so hard on this site to meet someone in my age range. But, what the heck? I'm determined to try get my money's worth out of this.


So, my suggestion to you and your friend is to work your lists. Give your new matches a week or two to initiate contact, and if they don't, send them an icebreaker or the 1st round of questions. You can bet that they're not getting contacted by the20 or 30-year old girls!We paid for membership, so what do we have to lose?
 
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Carrie1515, wrote :

Is there a forum for this? My other female friend and I are having a terrible time finding matches on E Harmony. We are 60/61 in great shape, intelligent, friendly, nice, still employed, active, and definitely not "dogs". Are we on the wrong dating site? Is EHarmony for just younger people? Are there men in Michigan here in the data base that want to meet women our age? I think all the matches I've been sent are too far away and the ones I do get in my area never respond back. I suspect they are non paying members just browsing. I've been a member 2 months and still have yet to get a match that talks to me. No dates. Nothing. We'd be interested in men up to about 65-66 but I've been sent profiles of men 78. No thanks. He could technically be my father. I've just lost 95 pounds, want to get back to dating, but I have no idea where to start! I don't feel old. I'm very depressed about all this. Any suggestions, people? Thanks, Carrie1515 in Lansing, MI (the mitten state).
wtg on the weight, Carrie!
 
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