whathafunk is offline whathafunk Post #1  March 19,2008, 1:25pm
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In my "Who's Viewed Me" folder today, it says that someone viewed my profile anonysmously. How does that happen if eHarmony matches us based on our personality profile and how can I view others anonymously? Could this be one of the people who I have been matched with but has not responded to my attempts to communicate?
 
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I think there's a way to change your setting so that when you view someone's profile, you can set it to anonymous, rather than your name and location. I think it's under my settings.



It's one of your matches, but obviously you're not going to know which one unless you can rule some of them out.
 
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Red Sox Girl is offline Red Sox Girl Post #3  March 19,2008, 3:50pm

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This will be one of your matches who has chgosen to be listed as anonymous when they view you - could be either someone who you are in communication with or could be somone who has not yet responded. But it could also be someone who is in your closed match list also.
 
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ScottK is offline ScottK Post #4  March 19,2008, 7:35pm
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Red Sox Girl,71736 wrote :
But it could also be someone who is in your closed match list also.
I think eharmony has changed this part of the "Who's Viewed Me".

I believe "Closed" matches no longer show up in the list.

I think this, because I have noticed that I had someone in my "Who's Viewed Me", before they Closed me, and then they disappeared from the list when after they Closed me.

In a way, I don't like that... It would be interesting to see which of my Closed matches are looking back at me. Perhaps I like to think they are thinking maybe they made a mistake in Closing me. [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif[/img]
 
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whathafunk, wrote :

In my "Who's Viewed Me" folder today, it says that someone viewed my profile anonysmously. How does that happen if eHarmony matches us based on our personality profile and how can I view others anonymously? Could this be one of the people who I have been matched with but has not responded to my attempts to communicate?
I've had that notation as well. I think they ought to eliminate it as a possibility, however it gets done. I find it rather frightening. Almost like a 'stalker' is out there. I'm trying to avoid having the whole world have access to me and information about me, or at least limit it and am not at all comforted to see an 'anonymous view' in my records. Give me a break. If you aren't willing to let someone know you viewed their information you don't belong on a legitimate dating (or relationship) site.
 
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Crystalsea,76802 wrote :
I've had that notation as well. I think they ought to eliminate it as a possibility, however it gets done. I find it rather frightening. Almost like a 'stalker' is out there. I'm trying to avoid having the whole world have access to me and information about me, or at least limit it and am not at all comforted to see an 'anonymous view' in my records. Give me a break. If you aren't willing to let someone know you viewed their information you don't belong on a legitimate dating (or relationship) site.
It's one of your matches, so it's not like the "whole world" can look at your profile. It's limited to that group.



I can understand the decision to view anonymously out of a fear of being seen as stalkerish if you view someone's profile numerous times (when actually you've just got a poor memory for details, or are trying to figure out which match was the one with six Dobermans or had a love of sushi, etc.)
 
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It is correct that anyone closed no longer comes up on the who has viewed me. Regarding anonymous it is correct it can not be anyone but one of your 'active' matches. The setting is 'my settings' then you select view profiles as anonymous and you will not be seen with your name/city.
 
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Interesting, I always wondered about this.
 
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whathafunk, wrote :

In my "Who's Viewed Me" folder today, it says that someone viewed my profile anonysmously. How does that happen if eHarmony matches us based on our personality profile and how can I view others anonymously? Could this be one of the people who I have been matched with but has not responded to my attempts to communicate?
I SENT A REQUEST INTO EHARMONY FOR AN EXPLANATION, ON THE FACT, OF ANONYMOUS PROFILING. I WAS NOT PLEASED WITH THEIR RESPONSE. IF A PERSON DOES NOT WANT TO BE IDENTIFIED THEN THEY SHOULD NOT ALLOWED ON EHARMONY. IF, EHARHMONY WANTS TO BE THE BEST SOCIAL/DATE SITE IN THE U.S. AND ABROAD THEY,(EHARMONY); SHOULD GIVE/WRITE A PROGRAM THAT WILL ALLOW INDIVIDUALS THE CHOICE OF WHETHER AN ANONYMOUS VIEWER CAN VIEW MY PROFILE/A PROFILE OR NOT BE ALLOWED TO VIEW IT!! THERE IS NO REASON FOR ANYONE TO VIEW MY PROFILE AND BE ANONYMOUS. FOR ME; THIS A RED FLAG.CHEERS,
 
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Bethica is offline Bethica Post #10  May 27,2008, 9:28am
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It seems silly to view anonymously. After all, to view a person you must be matched with them, and currently open. Good grief - if I only have one match open and I see that some "anonymous" man has viewed me, he won't be open for long.

I HOPE all my matches view my profile. That's part of the process, isn't it? To be closed by someone who hasn't even given me the courtesy of viewing my profile is like smiling at a man across the room and receiving a rude gesture in return. But, anonymous viewing? Just inane.

I agree, eH should allow a setting for refusing views by "anonymous" matches.
 
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