How long were you on EH before getting a date?


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kyjohng is offline kyjohng Post #1  December 8,2008, 7:41pm
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Not sure this topic has been covered in its own thread but wanted to know how long were you on EH before getting a date?


I ask because I have been a member for over 6 months, with a pretty detailed profile posted, and have only made it to OC on two occasions. Neither of them lead to anything other than a handful of emails.


Other disucssions talk about frustrations people have with 'incomplete profiles', or 'trial members' or whatever. Though I believe that EH is sincere in trying to find compatible matches based on 29 dimensions, I have to say that the results are very disappointing for me. I wonder if it is harder as we get older? (I am 50)


But, I would like to hear of other people's experience.


Thank you in advance for your replies.
 
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I've met one person in real life out of eHarmony, and that happened several months ago (around three or four months after I joined). I'm 28, and I can guarantee you that it isn't any easier when you're still in your 20s. I've done some independent reading on eHarmony's matching process, and found it not nearly as insightful as the commercials claim it to be. It matches you on similarity alone based on your answers to the questionnaire. I just look at the website as an opportunity to meet people I wouldn't have otherwise met rather than a system that is going to find me someone to spend the rest of my life with.
 
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Would you believe under 70 hours. Joined on a Free Communication weekend. Got first matches that Saturday morning. Flew through to OC with two women. Dated one that Monday evening, the other two weeks after the match. Neither went anywhere. Dated third woman six months after joining. Nothing since. I'm 51.
 
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kyjohng, wrote :

Not sure this topic has been covered in its own thread but wanted to know how long were you on EH before getting a date?


I ask because I have been a member for over 6 months, with a pretty detailed profile posted, and have only made it to OC on two occasions. Neither of them lead to anything other than a handful of emails.


Other disucssions talk about frustrations people have with 'incomplete profiles', or 'trial members' or whatever. Though I believe that EH is sincere in trying to find compatible matches based on 29 dimensions, I have to say that the results are very disappointing for me. I wonder if it is harder as we get older? (I am 50)


But, I would like to hear of other people's experience.


Thank you in advance for your replies.
I never got a date and I was on for about 6 months. I don't use the dating site of EH anymore. Online dating isn't for me. It's just not natural and too many weird things go on.I like the Advice Boards better.
 
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In one weekendI went on a first date with 2 of my matches. That was exactly one year ago. Nothing since. I am 40.
 
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1 man who wasn't into 'big women' but is 'well hung' and as long as I don't mind picking him up because he can't drive his chopper because he just got a DUI... we could get it on.


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JFo is offline JFo Post #10  December 8,2008, 8:38pm
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It took me less than a month to meet a match on eHarmony. I took the personality profile on March 4, 2007 and met her on March 31. I was 27 at the time.
 
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