Lucius is offline Lucius Post #1  November 20,2008, 5:49pm
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About half a dozen times now, I've communicated with women using guided communication. We go through one step a night. Things seems fine.


Then it stops. Nothing. I wait a week. Nothing. Another week. Nothing.


I know people are generally busy, but if we get halfway through guided communication at a steady pace, why would it suddenly stop? Leaving a guy hanging is not polite.


1) if you're no longer interested, you should have the guts to close out the match, rather than wait for him to get bored and close it for you.


2) if you're life is too busy to keep up, close the match.


3) if you're playing some sort of game such as 'playing hard to get', I will be the one to close the match, as I am not a patient man.
 
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PY is offline PY Post #2  November 20,2008, 6:09pm

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TWO weeks of waiting? You ARE patient.
 
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curlygirlyNY is offline curlygirlyNY Post #3  November 20,2008, 6:24pm
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I was just venting to a friend about this very thing! This has happened to me three times in the past two weeks and they initiated the communication. I don't get it.Especially after I see in the "who's viewed me" section that he has looked at me twice since I answered his questions. I say, if you don't like my answers close me. I'm not the least bit offended. But I have to tell you Lucius, you are a lot more patient then I am I wait one week and I close. Actually, I wait one week in all situations. We are all busy but I feelif a guy doesn't have10 minutes within a week toanswer multiple choice questions, he doesn't have time for me at all. I'm sorry I can't offer any explanation, because I don't do that, but I understand how annoying it is.
 
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Lucius, wrote :

About half a dozen times now, I've communicated with women using guided communication. We go through one step a night. Things seems fine.


Then it stops. Nothing. I wait a week. Nothing. Another week. Nothing.


I know people are generally busy, but if we get halfway through guided communication at a steady pace, why would it suddenly stop? Leaving a guy hanging is not polite.


1) if you're no longer interested, you should have the guts to close out the match, rather than wait for him to get bored and close it for you.


2) if you're life is too busy to keep up, close the match.


3) if you're playing some sort of game such as 'playing hard to get', I will be the one to close the match, as I am not a patient man.

I get this also and I figure that she is juggling multiple matches and keeps checking the photos to see who is more attactive.


Depending on how she looks, I might put up with this for a week, but never more, then I close them out.
 
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Altair is offline Altair Post #5  November 21,2008, 4:19am
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why wait on them? Close the match and get on with it. there are those will want to talk to you.
 
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Contrary to what some of the posters here advise, I would keep the match open. It seems that at least half the people here date only one person at a time,and somecommunicate with only one person at a time. If that's the case with someone you're communicating with, then they're holding things off for the time being. It's also possible that they're already in communication with too many people at the same time and are waiting for things to settle down. That's the situation I was in.


Just because you think your ego's bruised because you aren't everyone's first choice doesn't make closing the match the wise move if you ask me.


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