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Not what they think. What the member and her match think. If you remember, one of the first questions they asked in the questionnaire are "Rate the following words as to how each one describes your physical appearance." and "How important is it that your partner be physically attractive?". That's it. I hope this answers your question, PY.

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I actually would not assume that those questions are used to assess "actual" appearance (certainly not attractiveness). Rather, they are assessing feelings and attitudes toward one's appearance. In fact, at least some of the items are likely not part of the appearance factor at all, but part of another (e.g., the self-concept scale). Without seeing the underlying scale structure, we don't really know!
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It is an integral part of the survey you take in the beginning. There are several questions where you rate the importance of appearance to you and where you rate how "attractive" you believe you are as the standard definition of attractive is today. Wording is different and our perceptions are definitely our own. I am sure it is scientific and over my head... I just trust it to some degree. Since physical attraction isn't one of the most important aspects of attraction to me, it isn't that important...
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neardc wrote :

I actually would not assume that those questions are used to assess "actual" appearance (certainly not attractiveness). Rather, they are assessing feelings and attitudes toward one's appearance. In fact, at least some of the items are likely not part of the appearance factor at all, but part of another (e.g., the self-concept scale).
Perhaps to 'feelers' the question would be that way. If so, then to them the whole questionnaire is a test of feelings and attitudes towards one's identity. It isn't. I do not see how "Rate the following words as to how each one describes your physical appearance" asks for feelings or level of self-worth. It asks for an objective, honest opinion.
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I think it's a very loaded question for them to ask. People, based on their self-confidence, will either overrate or underrate themselves. That's only going to lead to less compatible matches. I would much prefer it if eHarmony gave us specific criteria to choose from regarding appearance. Things like height, weight, hair color, eye color, etc. It could be set up with check boxes and we could select as many as we would like, or we could select one checkbox that says "All". We could then use a scale to rate the importance of each (as we can with with distance, smoking, and drinking).


Obviously, I know that for people who don't receive many matches anyway (such as myself), thiswould onlyfurther limit the number of matches they receive, but consideringthesmall amount ofinfo we get about our matches from their profiles, I'd be willing to bet thata significant numberof the "I don't like the matches I am getting" comments would disappear.
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There is something called "Eyealike" that actually does facial recognition


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I prefer what eHarmony has. I would rather base on if a person believes she is Well Groomed, Handsome, Athletic, Overweight, Ordinary, Fit, or Sexy rather than getting sheer traits and vital statistics that *I* find well-groomed, handsome, athletic, overweight, ordinary, fit or sexy, but she doesn't. What a woman thinks about herself is what she becomes.
- November 22nd, 2008, 07:31 pm
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