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Dating can be tough. That's why we've created a new way for you to get the answers and support you need - 24/7. Expert advice, a forum to ask questions and share insights with others, and a resource for better relationships - it's now all just a click away!
 
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lovinglife is offline lovinglife Post #2  November 6,2007, 7:11am
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It's been almost 2 weeks since I have received any new matches. I've communicated with all the previous matches and prefer to meet new people. Is this typical?
 
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DOP is offline DOP Post #3  November 8,2007, 10:59am
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I had an idea while listen to Dr Warrens CD series "Finding the Love of Your Life". I thought wouldn't it be great if these guys had a regular Podcast. As far as I'm aware there's nothing else like this out there and I'm sure it would be a big hit. There's a whole host of topics which could be discussed and visiting experts could also be brought in for various topics. I would love to have eHarmony on my iPod during my daily commute to work.
 
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Zuleika is offline Zuleika Post #4  November 9,2007, 7:57am
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This is exactly what eharmony was missing. I think your advice and community site is a great idea. Eharmony members now will have a site to discuss ongoing issues and concerns which will help in the search process.
 
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Digger77091 is offline Digger77091 Post #5  November 9,2007, 7:06pm
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What happens when you lose interest? That's the way I feel right now. I've been alone for a long time and I've gotten used to it. I've got my cat to keep me company and the idea of bringing someone else into my life just seems like so much of an unnecessary hassle. Most of the women I know couldn't carry a conversation in a paper bag. I'm sick of hearing about cosmetics, movie stars and babys. Aren't there any women out there who have some real interests like art or music or science?
Besides, most of the women I know my own age have let themselves go to pot. Most of them are fat and I can't stand fat women. Hell, I only weigh 115 lbs. The most I have ever weighed is 130lbs and that was when I was in the army. That was a long time ago. The idea of having a sexual relationship with a woman who weighs more than I do absolutely revolts me. Actually, I'd just like to hang the whole business up and go do something else. I don't need a mother or a boss to tell me what to do and I'm sick of being compared to someone else all of the time.
 
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Digger77091--Sounds to me like you want to be alone. Not all women are like what you say and you have a lot of "hangups" to start with. Either you haven't looked or tried very hard or are looking in all the wrong places for a companion/friendship. It reminds me after being married to a man for 24 yrs (& 3 grown children) and he wanted out because he thought the "grass" was greener, then changed his mind-but I decided not to play the roller coaster with him and went thru with the divorce-now he says he regrets it and we are friends only-finally. Well, I was single for 8 yrs after and placed myself on a dating internet service only to have a man write and tell me "how ugly I was, & a little overweight-tho I am 6'tall, I didn't have enough hair to suit him and had no idea why he picked me to vent at-but I did write back and told him I try not to judge a "book" by its cover and that I at least, have a personality. I later met a very opinionated controversial man who was tired of being alone and I saw potential in him as a friend. Well that was over 3 yrs ago and we are not only best friends but have "married" on our own terms (though not on paper). We talk, do things together, travel, pay bills as though we are one, make love-like I've never known could be so wonderful, and most of all we go to church together and RESPECT each other. By the way did I tell you he is 5'7" and weighs 143, and I am 6' and heavier than him by a bit (not just becz of my larger bones and height-yes some of it is FAT!)? Time to grow up digger and face the music or go it alone with the cat.
 
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You hate fat women? I'm not overly fond of them. I'm 50 year's old and most of the women I see are overweight. I'm 6'1"tall,185lb's. I've spoken(WRITTEN)to women that weigh more than I do.I don't find that to be sexually appealling.I love pleasing a woman.A 5'5" woman that weigh's in at 150lb's doesn't really turn me on.I won't settle for a fat woman because I'm lonely.I know I could love her,but the fat thing would deter me from wanting to MAKE love to her.Marriage IS suppossed to be for life,but life doesn't always turn out that way.Do they let themselves go after they(thought)find the man of their dream's? I'm a very,sexual being.Maybe my problem is,I used to be fat.Now I'm not.My major problem is I have peripheral neuropathy in my feet.I sometime's use a wheelchair.I CAN walk,just not far,without pain in my feet.I know women think,if he's in a chair,can he still perform like a man is suppossed to? Yes,I can. I still wake up at the circus. In a tent. Am I really asking you(myself)this question? Can I overlook the weight issue,if they can overlook the chair? Yes,I can,to an extent. I really do,like a FEW extra lb's.How many is the question.Hmm...As far as being compared,that's a human trait.Can you measure up to her ex? She did marry him.He had to have been good.Just please,don't blame ME,for what HE did to YOU in the end.I asked you for honesty,I'm being honest.I know the chair is for life,is the fat? I don't need it at home or going out to dinner or visiting friend's.I do at Walmart.I know some match's are closed because of it,but hey,I'm still looking.Will I find her,or will she find me? Hi honey,I'm home!OUR'S!
 
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To Digger77091- I supposed you're Mr. Perfect in every way. You would be doing the all of the women of the world, fat, skinny, or otherwise a huge favor by remaining alone! Sounds like you're in love with yourself.
 
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wiselady is offline wiselady Post #9  November 12,2007, 10:05pm
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by Wiselady, November 12,2007
To Digger77091- I see a positive side to you that others missed. Bet you're more intelligent than most pepple realize, dreamer of future things that are not too easy to experience,i.e., sentimental, sensitive, compassionate, listening to the sounds of a wider world, music and the arts bring that to us and taking on challenges that will bring out the best in others,that's hard to find in some us. Keep going with all the hope possible and seek friends that have a new vision now and then. Thanks for serving our country.
 
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Marie_32 is offline Marie_32 Post #10  November 12,2007, 10:59pm
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Some are lucky... they have the chance to complain about the people that they meet... lol... looks... I think that physical appearance is nothing... what lays in one's heart and mind interests me much more.
Thanks eHarmony for allowing me to "have a chance" at meeting someone here. Will see if I am recuperable...
Hope I'll be "matchable" soon... there are no matches for me here... (yet)but I am patient... it is one of my quality "they say"..


 
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