NextChapter is offline NextChapter Post #1  October 16,2008, 6:09am
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Do any other women find the Christian Carter ads offensive? I really resent the implication that failed relationships are the woman's fault, and I have yet to understand what credentials this person has to be such an expert on the subject. Andit appears that he is advocating that we change ourselves to catch a man when eHarmony touts the importance of being ourselves and how the right person will love us for us...anybody else have a problem with that?


Back some time ago, I purchased the ebook from Carter "Catch Him and Keep Him" and it always seemed that he'd raise the questions but the answer was always in the next book or program that I'd need to purchase...
 
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MoneyHoney is offline MoneyHoney Post #2  October 16,2008, 6:26am
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They are definitely not confidence-boosters, that's for sure! I especially hate the forlorn looks on the women's faces, too!
 
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I have never seen one. My ad blocker blocks ALL ads on eHA and I have never seen any ad on here.
 
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Are these ads on eHarmony or on Advice?


The ads are not the same for everyone and I have not seen the one that the OP mentions but some of the ads are quite annoying, particularly the animated ads.


FYI the little research I have just done on Christian Carter is that he is a self proclaimed expert on dating and a women's dating coach. It seems his main claim to fame is that he has written and published an e-book on what women do wrong in the dating game.


It would seem that maybe I have as much authority on the subject based on the number of posts I make on the Advice boards.
 
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NextChapter is offline NextChapter Post #5  October 16,2008, 11:18am
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Gr8Guyn2008,295867 wrote :

Are these ads on eHarmony or on Advice?


The ads are not the same for everyone and I have not seen the one that the OP mentions but some of the ads are quite annoying, particularly the animated ads.


FYI the little research I have just done on Christian Carter is that he is a self proclaimed expert on dating and a women's dating coach. It seems his main claim to fame is that he has written and published an e-book on what women do wrong in the dating game.


It would seem that maybe I have as much authority on the subject based on the number of posts I make on the Advice boards.
The ads are on both eha and eh - the one that's glaring at me as I type this is "Still waiting for his call? Why he hasn't called and what you can do about it..." Shows an attractive woman looking soulfully at a cell phone just out of her reach. Others read something along the line of "Attention Single Women - what you don't know about men can hurt your relationships" (or something along that line), or "You had a great date, you were into him and he seemed into you but you haven't heard from him since...what can you do?"...there are many variations of the same ilk, but the real prizewinner is (paraphrased) Sure, you have him now, but can you keep him interested? The implications aren't helpful, and when you click on the links, it takes you to Carter's list of programs that, of course, you can purchase.Like I said, I purchased his e-book perhaps a couple of years ago and there are no answers - just more questions (heck, I can come up with that myself!), but he tries to lure you into the mistaken belief that the answers are in this other program that you can also purchase. So not only do the ads make me as a woman feel demeaned, but the approach he takes to get and keep us hooked also does - I mean, really! I would sincerely hope that no intelligent woman is desparate enough to fall for this load of hooey! I just wonder why in the world eH fell for it.
 
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Money. They put up his ads, he pays them.
 
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If anything, I would be more impressed with "Mystery" from the "Pickup Artist"VH1 show! =)
 
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NextChapter is offline NextChapter Post #8  October 16,2008, 12:04pm
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Tantalus,295952 wrote :

Money. They put up his ads, he pays them.
Say it ain't so, Joe!You mean to tell me that eHarmony is more interested in making money than finding me my soulmate?! Well, there goes another dream out the window! You know, if I don't watch it, I could get cynical...HA!
 
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Can't say I've seen them either.
 
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The ads stink.


They must have so much money being the industry leader, it doesn't make sense to have them.


I doubt they need them to stay in business. Oh well, just curious what their response would be.
 
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