I'm not sure I like, "Who Has Viewed Me"


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lucky173 is offline lucky173 Post #1  March 1,2008, 5:33am
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I just saw this option this morning and my first thought was yuuuuck. First reaction was that I didn't like it. But I'm not sure really. I guess maybe it's that I wasn't really crazy about what I read when I clicked on it. The same 3 people viewing my file yesterday, 2 days ago, etc etc... There were a few listed that had viewed a few days ago or longer that have been closed matches for awhile. I thought "closed" meant just that - closed?? I didn't go and check if I could still view their profiles as a "test" because I don't want them seeing that I'm viewing them after having closed them long ago.

The majority of my matches haven't viewed my profile at all, even some that have closed me out. How's that possible??

Some of those I'm in comm. w/ have viewed in the last day or so, but haven't responded for longer than that. What's that about?

What do you all think about this feature? I'm up in the air, but mostly I don't think I like it much.
 
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all things considered...i think it is a toss up with me too. i am someone who tends to review profiles frequently because i don't remember too much or i get them mixed up...and I like to review a profile before I respond to questions, etc, (again, cause I get them mixed up or I forget who is who)...as was mentioned on another board, I am probably going to appear like a stalker!! LMAO!!! Too funny!!

I like knowing who has viewed my file though and such...helps weed people out if my profile has not been viewed.

If I had to make the a decision...I think I could live without the function of "who's viewed me"
 
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Blue_Angel,65623 wrote :

all things considered...i think it is a toss up with me too. i am someone who tends to review profiles frequently because i don't remember too much or i get them mixed up...and I like to review a profile before I respond to questions, etc, (again, cause I get them mixed up or I forget who is who)...as was mentioned on another board, I am probably going to appear like a stalker!! LAO!!! Too funny!!

I like knowing who has viewed my file though and such...helps weed people out if my profile has not been viewed.

If I had to make the a decision...I think I could live without the function of "who's viewed me"
I do also, especially if it is a few days before they communicate again. I also like to review the ones i closed just in case i change my mind., the ones closer to home anyway.
 
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lucky173, wrote :

I just saw this option this morning and my first thought was yuuuuck. First reaction was that I didn't like it. But I'm not sure really. I guess maybe it's that I wasn't really crazy about what I read when I clicked on it. The same 3 people viewing my file yesterday, 2 days ago, etc etc... There were a few listed that had viewed a few days ago or longer that have been closed matches for awhile. I thought "closed" meant just that - closed?? I didn't go and check if I could still view their profiles as a "test" because I don't want them seeing that I'm viewing them after having closed them long ago.

The majority of my matches haven't viewed my profile at all, even some that have closed me out. How's that possible??

Some of those I'm in comm. w/ have viewed in the last day or so, but haven't responded for longer than that. What's that about?

What do you all think about this feature? I'm up in the air, but mostly I don't think I like it much.
Lucky I'm not a big fan of it at all. It's sort of like Blue Angel said, I don't always remember who is who and I might look like a stalker with multiple views. Even with the anonymous option it's pretty easy to figure out who it was because it has to be a match.

I also usually wait a few days before I close people out that I'm not interested in.I don't want them to get their feelings hurt if I close them out as soon as I receive the match. Now they'll know I've viewed them multiple times before I do. I know kind of odd on my part but I've seen a number of comments on this board about being closed out to soon so I try to consider other peoples feelings.

Also you can always go back and view closed profiles. Some of my recent who's viewed me are from people I closed a few weeks ago.
 
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I am mixed about this. On one hand, I do like seeing who has viewed my profile to determine who is active and who is not. On the other hand, Ialso look at someones profile often when replying to reread some of the questions and answers.
 
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lucky173, wrote :

I just saw this option this morning and my first thought was yuuuuck. First reaction was that I didn't like it. But I'm not sure really. I guess maybe it's that I wasn't really crazy about what I read when I clicked on it. The same 3 people viewing my file yesterday, 2 days ago, etc etc... There were a few listed that had viewed a few days ago or longer that have been closed matches for awhile. I thought "closed" meant just that - closed?? I didn't go and check if I could still view their profiles as a "test" because I don't want them seeing that I'm viewing them after having closed them long ago.

The majority of my matches haven't viewed my profile at all, even some that have closed me out. How's that possible??

Some of those I'm in comm. w/ have viewed in the last day or so, but haven't responded for longer than that. What's that about?

What do you all think about this feature? I'm up in the air, but mostly I don't think I like it much.
I have to say I like this feature. It doesn't bother me at all that they look at my profile multiple times, I do the same thing to remind me about different people. If I have already closed them or vice versa, I no longer let my pics be available. they can read all about me that they want to.If we didn't mind them reading it once why should we minds it again, or even again?I have had many close me out that I wish would have given communication a try.
 
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Lucky, you can use your Closed feature and see all the people you have closed or those that have closed you. Naturally you can tell when someone has viewed your profile on the introduction screen.
 
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Once again I just want to say I like this feature and I hope that e-harmony will leave it as an option for those of us who want to use it.
 
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You can set your settings to Show my views as anonymous views. It’s under the match settings where you choose match distance, religion, etc.I thought this feature would be useful but it’s not if matches set to anonymous.I would rather see a last logged in and be able to see this for everyone.On the who viewed me screen you can hover over the name and a popup displays their picture and some basic info. I wish this was on the main match screen.
 
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I love this feature!!! I like to see which of my matches has actually looked at my profile. That way, if they have not initiated communication within a few daysof viewing me, and I'm ambivalent about opening communication with them, I feel comfortable closing them out myself due to lack of chemistry. I also love it because, after a few guys have closed me out, they've gone back to look at my profile a few times and that makes me laugh. If I didn't like the feature, I probably would just never look at it. But I just love it.
 
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