ScoobyWho is offline ScoobyWho Post #1  September 29,2008, 11:17am
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I can't believe I'm actually posting this, but I wanted to get some feedback.


After 6 months on eHarmony and over 1500 closed matches, I've finally met someone; someone perfect for me. I'm 32 and she's 31.


To give you a little background, after about 3 weeks of emailing, we finally decided to go out on a limb and meet in person. It didn't take long before I was completely captivated. 5 minutes after the date was over, I was sent a text saying that she had a great time. The next day was spent emailing and texting back and forth which resulted in our second date happening two days later. I couldn't believe it was going that well. On our way back to her place so I could drop her off (no, nothing physical has happened yet as I'm fairly old-fashioned and don't want to ruin things), I asked her out on a third date in which she responded with an "of course, absolutely". Again, the next day was spent emailing and texting back and forth. The last was me saying how about dinner next Tuesday (4 days in the future). Well, Tuesday is tomorrow and I haven't heard from her. It's very odd. The question is now what?


At 32, I can't believe I'm acting like I'm in middle school by asking such a silly question. Let's just say the butterflies are there. Any advice?
 
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tooblunt is offline tooblunt Post #2  September 29,2008, 11:29am

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Why not just call, email,or text herto confirmdinner tomorrow.....
 
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m8se69 is offline m8se69 Post #4  September 29,2008, 12:13pm
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When you say "you haven't from her", does this imply that you have tried contacting her since? If not, perhaps she's waiting to hear from you. Either way, I'd call her soon so you don't end up somewhere alone.
 
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m8se69,276962 wrote :

When you say "you haven't from her", does this imply that you have tried contacting her since? If not, perhaps she's waiting to hear from you. Either way, I'd call her soon so you don't end up somewhere alone.
Nope. I haven't contacted her since because I left the ball in her court. And of course I didn't want to come off as being too "pushy". If I don't hear from her by a specific time tonight, I'll make the phone call. If only we could figure out what the other person was thinking!
 
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Go with an attitude that says, hey...there were2 good dates...what have I got to lose?


You may just find out that there's another side to this story that is best left in the dark anyway.


Or, on the positive note, she's feeling the same as you, and you 2 will laugh about it years from now!
 
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ScoobyWho, wrote :

I asked her out on a third date in which she responded with an "of course, absolutely". Again, the next day was spent emailing and texting back and forth. The last was me saying how about dinner next Tuesday (4 days in the future). Well, Tuesday is tomorrow and I haven't heard from her. It's very odd. The question is now what?
You took her out 2 times and did not feed her?? Why did you wait until the 3rd date to offer her food?? Maybe she got tired of going hungry when she was with you.


Her "of course, absolutely" sounds like an after thought.... hmm... maybe she ordered a pizza instead.


Maybe you're moving a little too fast for her. All these phone and txt msgs... give her some breathing room to sort out what's going on and give her time to evaluate you.


Right now it seems like you're going by the textbook senario on dating and I think she has an idea ofwhat the textbook says should happen on the next chapter but isn't ready for that yet. A lollipop everyday becomes the norm. A lollipop once a month becomes a treat.


Good luck





 
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Mowsa is offline Mowsa Post #8  September 29,2008, 2:41pm

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yep you better just ask again...maybe she replied and you didn't get it. sometimes i will be in the middle of texting and wait and wait for a response, only to check my sent messages and see a big red x last to my last message - signifying that it wasn't sent.
 
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Just call... It is quite possible that she did not get your text, yes things happen when technology goes haywire... Call and ask the girl out, don't give up so soon.... GOOD LUCK!
 
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I agree, just give her a call


Good Luck!
 
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