Are there any longitudinal studies to follow up these couples?

People are human beings - there are good ones and there are bad ones. I had what seemed like a storybook experience with a match from eH - we seemed to be perfect for each other, fit so very well it was unbeleivable. Friends, lovers and soulmates. We were married for just over a year and half and the first year was blissfull. She had a restless spirit and some deep psychological issues that only surfaced after more than a year of marriage. She listed monogamy and honesty as "must haves" - but in the end apparently those traits only applied to the person she wanted to be with - not something that was important for her to offer in return.


The eH experiment is a good way to match people together with compatible personalities, and they do their best to screen out poor candidates, but intelligent people who are self-deluded can easily slip through the cracks.


If you think that just because someone has all the right things on their profile and says all the right things - hey,they have been screened by the eH process, and it just FEELS SO RIGHT... that you can then expect to short-cut the process of really getting to know them really, really well - then you are taking a big chance. It didn't work out for me, but I don't blame eH. During the entire first year of the marraige wewere very closeand were absolutely best friends. Even a long engagement would not have given me a clue as to what she was capable of. She didn't really know what she wanted and when she got what she thought she wanted, it didn't satisfy her deeper needs. I will always believe that she had some deep emotional pain that she had never faced and was looking for another person to provide her with inner peace and emotional satisfaction. Those are the kinds of things you have to work out for yourself. Another person will never "fix" your inner pain. But I'm sure she's still out there looking for the magic relationship that will deliver the goods.


SIGH... C'est la Vie. There are no shortcuts, but I still beleive that eH will improve your odds.


Good luck to all...