pailin is offline pailin Post #1  November 1,2011, 10:58am
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I am a 30 year old single mother of 3 and it seems that it's really hard to find any man on EH that is serious in dating or interested in dating a single mother. Has anyone here found any success?
 
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I've contacted a few single mothers on eHarmony, but they always close on me. They accurately conclude from my age and my job that I'm not ready to take care of someone else's children. As long as you make it clear on your profile that you're not looking for a provider right away, you might have more luck.
 
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I am a 30 year old single mother of 3 and it seems that it's really hard to find any man on EH that is serious in dating or interested in dating a single mother. Has anyone here found any success?
I'm a single mom to one, I have had great luck on eH in the two years I have been using the site. Four relationships and many first dates.

Having three kids is a lot for a person to take on, it won't be for everyone...but all you need is the right one

You're very pretty, that will help you a lot Have you posted your profile for review?

I know when I started out, I wasn't getting very many responses...I think because most of my time, at that point, was chasing around a 1 year old, so I didn't have interests, hobbies...new movies, music anything really to talk about. My profile was all things based around my daughter, and I think I scared off all the good guys (I met a few creeps).

So maybe try posting it and people will give feedback? It helped me a lot.

I hope you find that special guy soon
 
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inthevagueschemeofthings wrote :
I've contacted a few single mothers on eHarmony, but they always close on me. They accurately conclude from my age and my job that I'm not ready to take care of someone else's children. As long as you make it clear on your profile that you're not looking for a provider right away, you might have more luck.
How old are you? I do close guys under 26 (did you know that the average age people consider a person to be an "adult" is 26? Totally blew my mind, but it's totally how I see it too). It might sound mean, but I don't want to inflict parenthood on someone younger than that...I know when I had her at 25, I didn't feel ready . I also close guys that have a lot of pictures of them partying because they aren't in the same place as me...I don't want to stop someone from living their life they way they are before they're ready
 
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Faraday wrote :
I'm a single mom to one, I have had great luck on eH in the two years I have been using the site. Four relationships and many first dates.

Having three kids is a lot for a person to take on, it won't be for everyone...but all you need is the right one

You're very pretty, that will help you a lot Have you posted your profile for review?

I know when I started out, I wasn't getting very many responses...I think because most of my time, at that point, was chasing around a 1 year old, so I didn't have interests, hobbies...new movies, music anything really to talk about. My profile was all things based around my daughter, and I think I scared off all the good guys (I met a few creeps).

So maybe try posting it and people will give feedback? It helped me a lot.

I hope you find that special guy soon
http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...y-profile.html (Please review my profile..)
 
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http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...y-profile.html (Please review my profile..)
Ah, I'll go check it out. Thanks HG
 
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I am a 30 year old single mother of 3 and it seems that it's really hard to find any man on EH that is serious in dating or interested in dating a single mother. Has anyone here found any success?
I'm a single mom and don't have a problem getting dates. In fact, online dating has given me so many options that I have no problem getting a date on any weekend I want. It was tough to settle on one, but I think I have found "the one". If I had access to this type of dating when I was in my twenties, I would have been able to find the right one earlier rather than bumping around the college campus hoping for serendipity.

You might need to analyze your profile a little more. There could be things you could be saying that may attract more men or conversely, there may be something that you are mentioning in your profile, other than the kids part, that could be detracting from your profile.
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pailin wrote :
I am a 30 year old single mother of 3 and it seems that it's really hard to find any man on EH that is serious in dating or interested in dating a single mother. Has anyone here found any success?
I'm a single dad, and I have no trouble getting dates. And I know many single moms, who have no trouble getting dates. I don't believe the fact that you're a single mom is holding you back so much, and as others have pointed out you're very attractive.
 
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Faraday wrote :
You're very pretty, that will help you a lot Have you posted your profile for review?


So maybe try posting it and people will give feedback? It helped me a lot.

I hope you find that special guy soon
interesting...how can we submit a profile for review?
 
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interesting...how can we submit a profile for review?
Click on the "using eharmony" tab on the main boards, click "create topic" copy and paste your eH profile (it doesn't always copy easily so make sure you get everything) and fill in the thread title with "profile review m/f age"
 
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