shortsassy59 is offline shortsassy59 Post #1  October 29,2011, 3:41pm
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Ok, have been on EH for about 6 weeks. One phone call, a few questions, about 55 guys even looked at my profile. Pretty quiet. Can not figure out why would these guys join and not even look at a profile. This is getting depressing. And yes I have sent smiles or questions, about 90 percent of the time I get nothing back. It must be brutal out in the dating world. And yes I am 52, am in great shape, have been told many times how nice looking I am, and easy to get along with. Oh well, I guess I just have to sit tight. Anyone else have the same bad luck?
 
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emma_hazards is offline emma_hazards Post #2  October 29,2011, 4:00pm
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Not my experience, and I joined about the same time. Might be your profile. Might be your pictures or lack thereof. Might be your settings. Difficult to say without more detail.

Consider posting your profile under "Using eHarmony" on these boards to get feedback. Might be very helpful.

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I agree that success stories isn't where you want this thread to live. I hate to say it, but it has been my experience that online dating is a young woman's game. I've been at it a year (I'm 60) & while there have been a few men I have dated, there have been times when nothing has happened for months. It is discouraging, but then I have a bit of success & think maybe it can work for me. But there's no doubt that it gets harder for women as we age.
 
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I just joined to test the site for a month. I have used other internet sites. There are a lot of "games" going on at other sites. Being a Christian I was looking for something with some substance; but I look at where I live too, a lot of pretentiousness, even amongst Christians. Go figure. I read the book "how to get a date worth keeping", by Dr. Henry Cloud. Good book. But the whole reality of the book is in chapter 22, "where is the testosterone?" I followed the book, worked it's guidelines, but atlas, if you men can't work chapter 22, we women are doomed....
 
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I am 42 and have been having a huge dry spell on EH. I have had luck with it before, but not recently.
I have better luck on other sites, but would rather meet someone on EH who might be a bit more serious about a relationship.
 
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I'm having bad luck also. I haven't gotten anywhere with any of my matches.
 
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No luck either. I thought the people who come here are serious about dating but it seems the majority of them are here to just have fun and play games. Boooo...
 
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pailin wrote :
No luck either. I thought the people who come here are serious about dating but it seems the majority of them are here to just have fun and play games. Boooo...
If that's a recent picture, your problem is that you look fun. It's not a bad thing, but you'll have to wade through more players because they will be attracted to you. Don't give up. It's better than being too plain to generate any interest at all.
 
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If that's a recent picture, your problem is that you look fun. It's not a bad thing, but you'll have to wade through more players because they will be attracted to you. Don't give up. It's better than being too plain to generate any interest at all.

@Harnomygirl= I look fun? lol Oh no! I thought I looked pretty normal compared to some other girls out there with their bra and panties showing. Is it the make up?
 
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@Harnomygirl= I look fun? lol Oh no! I thought I looked pretty normal compared to some other girls out there with their bra and panties showing. Is it the make up?
The make up (lipstick, etc.) and you have flirty eyes. You probably can't help those.

I've actually tried to make my eyes look flirtier with make up but I haven't been successful yet. Still trying though.
 
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