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charmed59 is online now charmed59 Post #1  July 16,2011, 10:25am
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My sweetie proposed yesterday, with a ring and roses and chocolates and my favorite wine and oddly, a marine mug that turns camoulflage when you put a hot beverage in it. So we are now officially engaged.

For those following these boards, we didn't do anything close to what to what passes as conventional wisdom on these boards.

We were matched May 25th 2010. (Two days after I joined, two weeks after he joined.) I'm not sure when the first questions went out (and I might even have sent them, but neither of us remembers...), but on May 29th he sent the request to skip from over MHCS to email. (Yes, we did NOT go through GC.)

We then emailed for a almost a month, 30 emails before we set up a date and time for our first meet. We sent another 10 emails before actually got together. Meanwhile we were both dating other people, and yes, we each had one more date after we met before we shut all the others down. So yeah, we didn't follow protocol and sent tons of email. Yes we didn't go directly to the first meet. Yes we were both multi-dating.

Our first date was June 22nd 2010. It was golf, and then extended to lunch, at my country club. I paid, as it's a country club. They don't bring out checks, there is no way for a non-member to pay. (Yes, the girl paid! On the first date! ) He loves telling people that story. That was the first time in his life his date paid.

It pretty much flowed from there. After a year, when we were looking at moving across country together, it occurred to us that since we were planning on spending forever together we should make it official.

As I sit here typing with my sparkly ring, I just wanted to give those still looking some hope. And remember, as much as we try and give good advice here, sometimes all the conventional wisdom can get thrown out the window.
 
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LongLocks is offline LongLocks Post #2  July 16,2011, 10:46am
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How charming! Congrats to you both!
 
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mitchell175 is offline mitchell175 Post #3  July 16,2011, 10:48am
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charmed59 wrote :
As I sit here typing with my sparkly ring, I just wanted to give those still looking some hope. And remember, as much as we try and give good advice here, sometimes all the conventional wisdom can get thrown out the window.
Congratulations, Charmed! This is my favorite part of your post. So many people seem to have all of these "rules" and "regulations" about dating - and yet they're still single. (And, I am not immune to this phenomenon. But, I am constantly reevaluating).

It is so nice to hear something positive for a change! Good luck to you and your sweetie!
 
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Congratulations Charmed! So happy for you both!
 
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charmed59 wrote :
As I sit here typing with my sparkly ring, I just wanted to give those still looking some hope. And remember, as much as we try and give good advice here, sometimes all the conventional wisdom can get thrown out the window.
How cute! And such a wonderful story.
 
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Congratulations!

You mean that being yourself actually works? That's great to hear!
 
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Congratulations! That is awesome. Thanks for sharing and giving us hope!
 
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charmed59 wrote :
as much as we try and give good advice here, sometimes all the conventional wisdom can get thrown out the window.
 
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Congrats Charmed..
 
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Congratulations and thanks for sharing your story!

As the saying goes, ignore the rules and follow your instinct. Do what feels right as long as you remain true to yourself. Some of us get so hung up on games and things that don't matter, that we miss out on many great opportunities.
 
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