Success Story...Nearly Gave Up!


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PrettyDAsh06 is offline PrettyDAsh06 Post #1  December 3,2010, 10:32pm
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Hey all! I'm not sure if I should be formal at all, but if you're skeptical about Eharmony, or down on your luck of no-good matches, like me, it took TIME! So I hope I can enlighten you of how I met my match, Richard.
I know some look at me and cannot believe that [I] would ever have a page on Eharmony, but my type of man I have yet to find in Louisiana where I am from. I'm 22, soon to be 23 (yes young, I know) But at even a much younger age, I was always very selective In my "Dream Guy". So, I've always held professional jobs since age 19 and never went out, so meeting guys was never an option, and even when I was 21, I did the clubbing thing as normal, but I knew these guys in the clubs weren't the knight in shinning armor i'd bring home to my mom & dad...sOooo I made a profile about a year or so ago...I never actually paid for a full account, though, just "browsed". Last year, I gave in. I was so sick of all these crappy guys I was dating, putting in sooo much effort to make a local relationship work all for a public heartbreak. I had some I liked, some never responded, some I didn't talk to at all. I actually ended up becoming really good friends with one match, we both mutually made this decision. After him, I closed out my account (Dec09'ish).
I finished my dental clinicals in Feb 2010, and in March 2010 I was planning to move to work for a Pediatric Dental Company in a small city in Louisiana, about an 1.5hrs from my hometown, when I decided to do another EH page. I did, with my new city, hoping for new matches, and did. Out of my matches (cannot remember the exact #), I found one, he was from Jackson, MS. We hit it off well, but it ended very harsh, Basically telling me he wasn't into the Long distance thing (we were 2 hrs away), we had about 3 dates, and endless phone calls, webcam etc, he also dropped to me he had a girlfriend, his co-worker...I never spoke to him again, I had really put my trust into what could of been a relationship, and I felt soooo stupid.
Bitter and heartbroken, I told my sister I was DONE period! No more! So I deactivated my page. I was "Through!" I shut off matches, email notifications...EVERYTHING! I felt as If I couldn't find a match/man online than I sure as heck would have no better luck finding one in Louisiana, esp in the area I live in where everyone pretty much knows everyone...UNLESS you move and/or venture out towards Texas, like Dallas (3hrs away), Houston (4hrs). I did all this around early Sept., i actually Took a "break" from serious relationships all of October-Mid November.
So the end of November my job opened a office back in my hometown, (I was ready to be back near family & friends anyways) so back home I moved. I don't know what got into me, and swore it off, but I RE-ACTIVATED my EH page! Lol Yes, i did it. But this time I opened my search range and changed my city, which made Texas be available to me...
First 3 or so days no luck then on November 27th I was matched with Richard. I clicked on his profile... HANDSOME! So good looking! So I check out the details, I was loving every bit of it from his faith, career (over-achiever), etc. 27, No kids, never married, from Houston? Great 4 hrs away...
so I send a Icebreaker then 2 days later Nov 29th he sends me Guided Communication (step1) we got through that then in comes a email request from him. I almost denied because I'm so gun-ho on following the rules, but I thought, what the heck, and he's cute
We hit it off so great through e-mail. I was making him laugh, he had me blushing and all giddy. The funny part is mid-way in the email he kept hinting on how wish the site had a IM or some sort because waiting for me to respond was killing him...I soon added it was killing me as well. So antsy I was, I didn't want to go to sleep not knowing If I'd ever talk to him again, I gave him my number ( after asking if I was being foward) he later on told me that he wanted to ask me for my number so bad, but wanted me to ask for it!! :P
We didn't talk on the phone that night, we just texted to make sure we had each other's numbers, but the next night, Sept 30, we talked on the phone from 8p-8am! We had so much to talk about, so much in common, and ever since that day we have been going strong! We text daily, talk, webcam, picture mail..everything.
Our first date was just recent, Nov19-21. I flew to Houston where he lives, and had the best weekend ever. He called it "my weekend". I had been working so hard at work, some nights, I could barely hold the phone up, but I'd fight sleep just to talk to him so he didn't feel neglected. Sweet the man he is, of course, let me go to bed.
He had everything so well-planned, of course we didn't do everything, but we did eat at some really good places, a seafood place, Papadeaux's (my new fav), we got for take-out fri, saturday we went to Kemah Boardwalk and ate a Sushi Hibachi Grill, went to a candy store and i got a bag of candy, then to end it, at a a Eat/Dine Movie Cinema (where I got slightly toasted off a fruity alcohol drink, btw he doesn't drink) headed home he informed me it was Spa Night, We get back to the condo, as I watch HGTV (my fav show) he was setting up this romantic spa theme for me. Candles everywhere, bubble bath, fruit trays, Champagne,followed by a massage. I felt like royalty. He even had spa music playing
Sunday was a lazy day we spent sleeping in and watching TV so much I barely made my flight back home!
All the details may seem a bit much in such short of time, but the most memorable moments were the mornings and nights we spent looking in each others eyes, just grateful and blessed we had found each other. I never once felt nervous around him, not even at first (thanks to skype) it felt like i knew him forever. And there were feelings that I had started to feel weeks before I flew to see him, never knew during those moments we spent gazing in each others' eyes he felt the same.
We spent Thanksgiving apart, he in Texas, me in Georgia. We have never argued, but hit some trying times, as any long-distance relationship would, ours more about our status, and when we will be together. That weekend he re-assured me by telling me he loved me, he thought he knew, and then the weekend I was with him, it all came together. Again, like I said, I knew the same feelings I was feeling, and I too, had them all sealed the weekend we spent together. I now know that, no matter how far apart we are he is always 1st in my heart. These are just the beginning stages, we're dedicated to each other and building this relationship. Who knew it be this way? Neither of us planned to be so captivated, it just...happened. We're def. aware of everything, and don't take the love thing lightly. We will continue to take the small steps we need.
We've already started to brainstorm our next date! With God, and eharmony, anything is possible! Don't give up give it time... I've been through A LOT esp. this year, and 2010 is ending so beautifully, and I am super blessed to have him to bring 2011 in with me! Happy Holidays to all reading my story, I will keep you posted on our journey!!! & Goodnight!
Ashley
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I FORGOT TO ADD, THE DAY HE PICKED ME UP FROM THE AIRPORT, HE WAS WEARING THE BUTTON DOWN SHIRT HE WORE IN HIS EH PROFILE PIC PAGE!
I HAD TOLD HIM THE 1ST WEEK OF TALKING I LOVE THAT SHIRT ON HIM, SO I THOUGHT IT WAS A SWEET GESTURE FOR HIM TO HAVE IT ON THE FIRST DAY!
 
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I FORGOT TO ADD, THE DAY HE PICKED ME UP FROM THE AIRPORT, HE WAS WEARING THE BUTTON DOWN SHIRT HE WORE IN HIS EH PROFILE PIC PAGE!
I HAD TOLD HIM THE 1ST WEEK OF TALKING I LOVE THAT SHIRT ON HIM, SO I THOUGHT IT WAS A SWEET GESTURE FOR HIM TO HAVE IT ON THE FIRST DAY!
 
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What a wonderful and inspiring story! I normally only skim really long post, but I started reading yours word for word and couldn't stop until I reached the end.

Thanks so much for sharing this and I truly hope things work out for the two of you!
 
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Thanks much Diana!
Truly blessed and grateful for eharmony!
 
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Thanks much Diana!
Truly blessed and grateful for eharmony!
 
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Sunshine87 is offline Sunshine87 Post #7  December 30,2010, 2:31pm
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This was so nice to read! I'm 23 and like you I did the whole club thing.. and still do for the random girls night out weekends but I never seem to meet the "right" guy on those nights. I work full time and am a recent college grad so meeting guys my age is a bit difficult, which is why I decided to try eHarmony. I've had lots of matches and its been pretty fun so far communicating with people. So reading your story definitely gives me hope!!

Thanks so much!
 
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this is a good story. just joined EH and i intend to keep going.
 
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Great story hope to find that special someone
 
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PDA,

The great news is we only need to be right for one !


Best of luck to the two of you .

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