The Dark Knight is offline The Dark Knight Post #81  February 11,2009, 12:40pm
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maybe the successful couples are too busy BEING INTO EACH OTHER to bother posting their success stories?


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LifeRebuilder,138681 wrote :

StChasJim,138081 wrote :


I can't speak for anyone but myself, but I've been a member almost 8 months and here's my stats: 8 months, 1700+ matches, 8 matches made to open communication, no dates I thought that people at eHarmony would be more serious about getting to know people and ultimately meeting a few. When it takes 200 matches to get to open communication with 1, you kinda wonder if it's not all about the advertising.


I am having the same problem. I have had almost 200 matches and only one open communication which started off with communicating everyday and now I am left to wonder is this is going anywhere. When I call eHarmony they just keep telling me be patient we have 240 marriages a day and it usually takes at least three months before you will find your perfect match. I do not think I could take 8 months of this and then when I read the success stories they provide most of the people state they were on the site for three years. I only signed up for one month to see what it would be like and I already sound like everyone else on here.


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WOW,I guess I'm actually doing pretty good, 3 bad first dates in 5 months!


On the bright side my 6month membership was cheaper than a couple trips to the bar!
 
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I wish somebody would tell the secret to using EH. I've had 75 to 100 matches in (give or take) the last 6 months. I have had 3 get to open communication. The 1st, just up and stopped talking to me, even after providing me her personal email. The second, we actually made it through the guided communication in 2 days, and she ended up with her ex. The 3rd, well, actually the third fell short at the point where she was reading my finalquestions before Dr. Warren's message. Seems to me, I only get some interest on free communication weekends, but a weekend (by EH's own admission) is generally not enough to make it through their process.


I wastruely hoping this site would have people who are more serious, but it seems as if it isbecoming the next "friends" site. Most of the girls I don't even get my profiled viewed, let alone any communication. I'mbeginning to thinkpeople on here aren't very committed at all. I wish they would adopt some type of "buy6 months, get 6 months free" like Match.com doesbecuase they are so certainyou'll find your match.
 
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SFD241,495340 wrote :

I wish somebody would tell the secret to using EH. I've had 75 to 100 matches in (give or take) the last 6 months. I have had 3 get to open communication. The 1st, just up and stopped talking to me, even after providing me her personal email. The second, we actually made it through the guided communication in 2 days, and she ended up with her ex. The 3rd, well, actually the third fell short at the point where she was reading my finalquestions before Dr. Warren's message. Seems to me, I only get some interest on free communication weekends, but a weekend (by EH's own admission) is generally not enough to make it through their process.


I wastruely hoping this site would have people who are more serious, but it seems as if it isbecoming the next "friends" site. Most of the girls I don't even get my profiled viewed, let alone any communication. I'mbeginning to thinkpeople on here aren't very committed at all. I wish they would adopt some type of "buy6 months, get 6 months free" like Match.com doesbecuase they are so certainyou'll find your match.
HAVE YOU TRIED TO COMMUNICATE WITH ALL YOUR MATCHES?


I would say one in ten will communicate in my experiance


YOU should try FAST TRACK


OFFER UP YOUR EMAIL TO THE cheepskates!


you should havemore than 100 matches in six months


I think I hit 100 in two months not that they were very good matches!


maybe you can rethink a few things, don't give up man!


BUT don't rely on eh soley either!
 
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LifeRebuilder,138681 wrote :

StChasJim,138081 wrote :


I can't speak for anyone but myself, but I've been a member almost 8 months and here's my stats: 8 months, 1700+ matches, 8 matches made to open communication, no dates I thought that people at eHarmony would be more serious about getting to know people and ultimately meeting a few. When it takes 200 matches to get to open communication with 1, you kinda wonder if it's not all about the advertising.


I am having the same problem. I have had almost 200 matches and only one open communication which started off with communicating everyday and now I am left to wonder is this is going anywhere. When I call eHarmony they just keep telling me be patient we have 240 marriages a day and it usually takes at least three months before you will find your perfect match. I do not think I could take 8 months of this and then when I read the success stories they provide most of the people state they were on the site for three years. I only signed up for one month to see what it would be like and I already sound like everyone else on here.


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Since you asked, ya ... I'll give my 2 cents worth of advise ... no matter what your true goal is about a match, redo your about me as you would write it if you had only one goal in mind, .. Marriage.


Tell you why. EH's whole guided program is obviously providing questions that indicate they are focused on people who want to be married,else why would they include "moving closer" decisions,


"do you want children" / "Will you accept my children" questions, and all the obvious rest of them that surely would be laughable if your intention is a quick summer fling. The problem here I think, is that EH needs several sub divisions of this match game outline ... I'm a newbie so maybe in fact they do ... if not, they should because people with lesser,lighter goals than marriage will tend I think, to skim the 'about me' page rapidly with 6 word sentences instead of the filling of the entire individual statement cells ...


when a seeker has 1 lifelong lover or wife/husband in mind, those little cells get more than 6 word sentences ... we in fact wish we could pull them down like virtual venetian blinds to continue our tirade of needs and hopes till it reads with no less complexity then Mein Kampf.
 
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The more I read, the more terrified I get! Where is the slim, funny, good natured guy I was promised? Well, I've only been here for a day, but like I said I've read so many negative things that I'm losing hope--fast
 
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I've been here for almost three months; this is my second try at EHarmony, the first time I didn't pay for the service; this time I signed up for a three month special and it is almost over; not sure if I will sign up again, it has been mixed.


I have gotten to open communication with a couple of people and I actually met one ver nice guy but we didn't click in person, so the search goes on.


I send icebreakers and/or communication reqeust to about 1/4 of my matches the rest I need to close out due to one simple statement in their profile PETS!!! EHarmony's system accounts for kids, smokers and drinking prefences but not pets; I happen to have allergies to the usual and yes I have it listed in my profile but it would be nice to not get matches that have a dog or cat.


the last customer service rep I spoke to told me to add that would eliminate too many matches; uh huh this I understand it still does!!! and I have to read thru the profile looking to see if they own a cat or a dog and close it out "based on statements in their profile".
 
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I think the main problem with eHarmony is how many seemingly inactive accounts there are. They should stop matching people that haven't logged on in a long period of time. Maybe people just aren't taking this seriously. I signed up to actually meet people, but apparently other people aren't so interested in that...


The best I managed to do was get one person to open communication, but it turned out where they were living wasn't accurately listed in their profile, so that was a bust. Pretty much all of my other matches never even looked at my profile, never answered questions, nothing nothing nothing. I would very much prefer rejection to just complete indifference. After a few weeks of checking my new matches as they arrived and spending time sending out questions, etc., with no response whatsoever, I just had to quit. The other problem was how many of my matches weren't even close to me.


Maybe I'll come back if other sites prove equally useless, but I don't much feel like paying for a site where I just talk to myself.
 
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maybe its because the ONLY posts on the success story threads are the success stories? whereas other threads there is a lot of conversation happening?
 
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Not sure if I have posted on this thread, but as far as I am concerned, for what you actually get I think eharmony is waaayyy too expensive.
 
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