woozell is offline woozell Post #61  October 2,2008, 2:42pm
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I was begining to feel confident until I read all of your coments, wow, is this really worth the 60.00 a month?? I am getting replies, but I am still waiting to see what happens...
 
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eharmonyadvice,138922 wrote :

Hi all...


Your friendly eHarmony Advice Moderator here.


This discussion section was started as a repository for the Success Story Moderated threads that we started in January. We're just starting this feature back up next week, and over the coming months more and more of these success couple led discussions will be featured here.


This is NOT a thread that we promote on Singles as a place for successful couples to come and share their stories....though that would probably be a great idea.


As you can imagine, once two people find each other and fall in love, the last thing the usually think about is surfing around an eHarmony site. They are ready to move on with their lives. We do keep an archive with the thousands of couples we have, and we want as many as possible to share their entire eHarmony experience with you.
Hello Moderator,


We are a success story. I am posting it here because unfortunately we did not meet on EHarmony, but on EHarmony Advice. We met on one of the posts and fell in love and are moving in together in a week. Neither one of us had very much luck with the old matching thing, but being aware of what we were looking for and spending time getting to know people on EHA was a blessing. There are really so many kind wonderful people here that we are finding time and time again, there are more matches here than what we actually have paid for on EH.


All I can suggest to the rest of you is women, communicate.....men communicate.... get to know who is out here on the boards and let your feelings be known. There have been more couples matched on "What About the Good Guys" and 40 Something then I have seen on all of EH. Good luck to you all and EH...... You are right when you say we kinda dissapear after we found the loves of our lives.....but, we also appear back up to check on how are other friends are doing. We have met so many wonderful people here.


Thanks for creating EHA for us....
 
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Promise2 is offline Promise2 Post #63  October 4,2008, 1:37pm
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tishsuz, wrote :

Did anybody notice there are so many posts on the other topics, but only a handfull on "success stories"? Is eHarmony really as successful as they claim? Just something to think about.
Doubt is the most destructive influence one can exude; while hope and faith have been known to create worlds and move mountains. I would rather be known as one who exudes faith and hope. Nothing is perfect, there are not guarantees or fool proof remidies; just honest attempts to address life's challenges. I think EHarmony is an honest attempt at addressing one of life's challenges--finding the right partner. Since I have not come up with anything better; I will do my best to send out positive vibes that will inspire all participants to keep pursuing your dream; whether you find it through EHarmony or not is not really the point. The POWER of your positive energy that was activated by the ACT of begining to your search is the POWER that will move the universe to act in your favor and send you the ONE for you, perhaps at the gas station or on your next trip to the grocery store, or on EHarmony.


I believe thatIn most cases we attract what we give out--If we are giving out negative feelings (doubt) about EHarmony, then EHarmony will be spiritually compelled to send back negative results --- You've all heard the saying "YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW."


I am willing to assume thatno real HARM was intended in the seed of doubt posted; just a honest feeling expressed. But we should take care with words because they arevery powerful. WhenI begin to feel discouraged and doubtful about my own choices,I try to re-examine my motives and expectations at the time I made the choice, then make an effort to do what I need to do to reassure myself, make some adjustment to my original choice, orjustdeal with the results, as they come.Sometimespeoplefeel like giving up just when the prize is right around the corner. Up till now you may not have a match; but tomorrow is yet to come!


Whether or not I find a match on EHarmony, I can own up to the fact thatno one forced me to join EHarmony and I certainly am not limited to that one source. The more bait you put out, the better chance at catching a fish or the more pans you set out the more rain water you catch....OH you know what I mean....
 
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NextChapter is offline NextChapter Post #64  October 16,2008, 12:43pm
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pisces,138477 wrote :

I'm sick of looking at Shannon and Li when I sign on.
Me, too! And every time I see Jayson and Lisa (engaged in 2004) I wonder what happened to them...did they get married or call it quits? It's been 4 years now...
 
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roadrunnerp is offline roadrunnerp Post #65  October 22,2008, 3:41pm
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I started on EH in Nov of 07. In July of 08 I had given up and I mean really given up. Met a few guys - all were scammers or were not honest in their profiles. I did matched with an old friend which was kind of cool as we had lost touch. Too bad I was not interested in dating him. Then I got matched with this guy that intrigued me. I found his pictures attractive and I really liked how he sounded in his profile. We made it to open communication, had some really great exchanges and then WHAM! He closed the match because he was "pursuing another relationship". I felt, for a moment, like I had been betrayed but then I stepped outside the "pity me box" and thought, I've talked to more than one person and even gone on a couple of dates with different men in a matter of weeks. No reason to feel "betrayed". Told myself to "get over myself" and I actually send him a "Final Message" that said "Good luck with your search" but also "I'd like you to reconsider, I feel we have potential." My reasoning was that we obviously clicked on some level, worst case is I have a new friend. The next day he reopened communication and called me "an interesting woman" because I was not "butt hurt" that he closed the match. Turns out he was just getting overwhelmed, that he is truly a monogomous guy and was further in communication with another woman but it actually hadn't worked out, no chemistry in person. We emailed a bit more, then IM'd a bit, then talked on the phone. Finally I asked him to meet for coffee. Tried not to get my hopes up and approached it very openly. It was the best meeting I'd ever had. We ended up going to dinner and talking for hours. We have been together 3 and 1/2 months and while some may think that is not very long, it's been the best 3 and 1/2 months of my life. So my advice is this, "get over yourselves", "stay open", "think positive" and "don't give up". Yes, there are scammers, there are jerks and such, but those exist regardless of how you meet them. This is not a site to order your perfect significant other but a site that gives you the chance to meet someone with potential and just like at a bar, some potential just will not be there. BTW, my guy was only on EH for a month and couln't believe his "luck" at how quickly he found me.
 
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callirun is offline callirun Post #66  October 24,2008, 4:36pm
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I'm exploring eH, after some frustrations on another site...but it sounds more complex and frustrating here! As well as much more expensive. Sure do appreciate the honest dialogue on these forums, though...plenty of good hearted and well intentioned folks around.
 
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Wow...I am feeling really discouraged. I'm only trying the free weekend thing, but now I don't know if I will pay to be an actual member....
 
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CaptainMaim is offline CaptainMaim Post #68  November 12,2008, 8:03am
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honeygirl33,138469 wrote :

I have been on this site for only 3days and I don't know. I sent questions to guys and I am still waiting for a reply. How long should I wait before calling it quits.

There's a lot of inactive accounts on this site- people allow their membership to expire and the system doesn't delete them, people get a steady SO and don't turn off matching, etc. Everyone I've spoken to on eHarmony says that their best success if with people who contact them first... which is predictable because that means the other person is already interested.


Don't give up, diversify! If you think eHarmony sucks, try match.com or plentyoffish.com. I've found eHarmony works great for me, but that might be because I'm in a better geographical area or something. You might wanna have someone look over your profile.
 
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I recently found out that an ex is on EHarmony. We met on the internet and he sounded so great, we got along fine, while emailing and to make a long story short. I moved and turns out he left out quite a bit of important facts. Now tell me I was wrong to move, I was, more to it than just a few emails,too long to explain. Finding out he is back on again and meeting other women concerns me. I think if he uses the same lines, well, my concern is for those women. I think you have to be honest on these sites and now, I would say, how do you trust anyone:
 
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I just logged on to post my success story and saw this blog.I have heard many people, both on this site and in person, say that people you meet online are not who they say they are." However, that can be said about people online or in person. Don't give up on eHarmony because of a bad experience or two. This site is great because they already match you based on compatibility of personality and relationship pet peeves and requirements. You sure don't get that when you meet someone in a bar...


I recieved numerous matches per day and gave each person who requested communication a fair shot, regardless of what their profile said or what they looked like. I think that this was beneficial because you can't get to know someone JUST by their initial page.


I dated a few men in my area who I met on eHarmony. I didn't feel chemistry with them but remain friends with both. I recieved my (now) boyfriend's match at the beginning of 2008 and after seeing that he worked in sports (I am extremely non-sporty! ) and lived in a different time zone, I felt that he may not give me a chance. Luckily, he requested communication. After whizzing through the guided communication and e-mailing back and forth for a week or so, we began talking on the phone. We would have long conversations every night, putting everything on the table which may make the person run away...but we both stayed put. A few weeks later, he came to visit me in Chicago, where we really hit it off. We have been dating exclusively from that day on, and I have since moved to Florida (where we both now live).


I recently found out from my family friend that my boyfriend had contacted her (as a jewelry designer) to make a custom enagement ring for me. I cannot imagine having missed out on the opportunity to meet this man. I was only on eHarmony for a month, but my boyfriend was on it for nearly a year before we met. My best advice is be patient and open-minded. Don't give up on love...I truly believe that there is a wonderful person out there for everyone! Good luck and happy searching!
 
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