olneyjeeps is offline olneyjeeps Post #101  October 26,2009, 9:43am
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honeygirl33 wrote :
I have been on this site for only 3days and I don't know. I sent questions to guys and I am still waiting for a reply. How long should I wait before calling it quits.
A lot longer than 3 days

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Yeah I know what you mean, I'm still waiting for my replys too, been over 15 days for me. :/
UMMMMM, longer than 15 days

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my husband and i were matched on 1/23/07 and married on 8/26/07. I obviously haven't been freqenting eharmony and didn't even know there was a discussion board...much less a success story discussion board. I joined in July of 06 and didn't get a lot of matches right away. I quit in August and then renewed in December because I was bored over the holiday. I got a lot more matches the second time. Even though it can be discouraging when you don't meet your soul mate in the first hour of signing up....it is way less discouraging that speed dating or match.com in my personal experience!!!! I am 35 and a doctor. The only men I met before eharmony worked at the hospital and the last thing I wanted was to try to havea relationship at work! It is hard to meet people anywhere else when you work 60-80 hours a week!


Seriously, give it time.
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It's easy to get discouraged, especially with all the upbeat tv commercials and online advertising.

To be truthful, it (the eH matching service) is only as good as the pool of clients.
*********** as relative to your propensity to invest your time/emotional commitment / learn and adapt and love beyond faults ***********
n certain geographical areas and demographics, the possible matches are rather thin on the ground (I'd venture that over-fifty males are pretty well under-represented relative to females). I think I had to wait two months for any matches at all.
**********if / when this happens, broaden your acceptable attributes, you (like I was ) may be pleasantly surprised ********

It's a numbers game, and if you have the money to pay for a long enough subscription, you might eventually win.
*********IMHO beats the he77 out of "shotgun" (no idea what they are like) dating **************
Being open-minded but retaining some standards is a tricky balancing act, but patience (and money) can deliver some quality matches (along with the "what were they thinking?" ones).
****I think those are inserted just to keep us laughing******

For me: six months, around 100 matches, two contacts, one in-person meeting.

******* 4 months, several hundred matches, dozens of OC, 3 actual meetings/dates: For dates/meetings, I was very particular. This does not mean that I did not enjoy the heck/ learn incredibly about myself by going through so many GC's.

As for not posting in "Success Stories", a good guess is that many are having soooo much fun / love they overlook this part.

Been dating Laura about 5 months (closed to new matches after 3 weeks, closed completely after 2 months and a 13 day trip with my girls to Alaska).

Although it seems like a match made in heaven, it was made on EH.

As is with life, it is a function of what you put into it.

EH is just one venue for finding possible dates/matches/partners. It works better for some than for others.
 
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test_pattern is offline test_pattern Post #102  November 5,2009, 7:41pm
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It's hard to say how many people who use the service are successful, I have a feeling the ones who are probably don't need to use the service long b/c of the extreme amount of requests they get.
 
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test_pattern wrote :
It's hard to say how many people who use the service are successful, I have a feeling the ones who are probably don't need to use the service long b/c of the extreme amount of requests they get.
Oh please don't say that ... means I will be in for a loooong time!

I'd like to see more "success" people posting in the other forums ... make them more balanced. If you've succeeded with eH, tell people who are having problems with it what worked for you! Please!
 
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I'd like to see more "success" people posting in the other forums ... make them more balanced. If you've succeeded with eH, tell people who are having problems with it what worked for you! Please!
Well, I do. But actually, I believe that it's a matter of luck.
 
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ccbean99 is offline ccbean99 Post #105  November 27,2009, 10:37pm
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Ok, I typically dont ever post on forums but after reading the first page of everyones negative comments I thought I would chime in. After being single for a year and my date stats still being a big fat donut, I decided "what the heck" I will join EHarmony. Ive only been a member for exactly 20 days, and have great success already. I am very clear about what I want in a partner and have had many successful matches so far. Matches 60, 10 open communication, and 1 date so far (working on my second date fingers crossed). I have gotten farther in this short amount of time being on EH, than I ever have in the "real world." I must say that many are actually great matches and most have been clear at what they are looking for in a "real relationship." So whoever is reading these, dont give up just yet...there maybe someone special about to walk into your life so open up your mind and heart and roll with it. It maybe the first date or it may be the 235th- the end result may be a success and with each non successful match, you learn just a little bit more about yourself. So CHEERS to EH, meeting people, and discovering the possiblities
 
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marksgirl is offline marksgirl Post #106  December 3,2009, 11:58am
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Well, speaking from personal experience, I have found eharmony to be very successful! I was a member for 3 months and got really frustrated not finding anyone worth even talking to on the phone, let alone meet in person or really get to know them. But then, one day, I got request for communication from a guy I had requested communication from a couple of weeks earlier (and had, frankly, forgotten about).

We went through guided communication, everything matched up with what I wanted (same with him). When we got into open communication (which was very quickly, it took us 2 to 3 days to get through guided), we hit it off immediately. We started talking on the phone 3-4 weeks after we began communication (the conversations lasting 3 hours at a minimum, most being a 4 hour average).

We met for the first time just over a month after we started communication, and we hit it off just as well in person as we had in open communication and on the phone. He was who he said he was, no hidden agendas, no hidden quirks; as was I. We are now engaged to be married in on June 12, and couldn't be happier or more in love

I don't know about other success stories, but I know from experience that eharmony can and does work with persistence! From reading some of the success stories where members were on 2+ years before finding "the one" I feel pretty lucky that I found my man after only 3 months Yes, it can get frustrating waiting for a good match to come along, or waiting for one to respond to your communication request, but "the one" can send you communication when you least expect it!

I think that the lack of posts in this section more likely has to do with the fact that once you find a match on here, you often times leave e-harmony because you don't need it any more, and, therefore, would not bother with the forum. I hadn't been to eharmony since I started talking to my honey on the phone until now, and the only reason I'm back is because I still get ads from them in my e-mails and discussions piqued my interest, lol! Anyway, that's my story and 2 cents.

Good luck to those still searching! Be patient! Eharmony does work from my experience
 
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ccbean99 wrote :
a big fat donut
Ah drats, now I crave for Krispy Kreme!
 
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MrMike33325 is offline MrMike33325 Post #108  December 7,2009, 8:21pm
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I think it's sort of human nature to kind of forget to thank eHarmony for the match, by forgetting to post on this message board. Have you ever worked in a place dealing with people, like a restaurant? Notice how the angry customer goes around throwing a fit because he hates his meal, but the happy customer doesn't go around town shouting "THIS PLACE IS AWESOME" it's just the way people are, I suppose.
 
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This may be way late but here it goes...

As far as getting matched up with someone far away, the other person (your match) may have their setting in such a way where distance doesn't matter to them. I'm open to some distance, but also open to relocation. I've been open to relocating even way before I joined EH.

There was some other things I wanted to add, but can't remember them. Too much going on in my head right now.
 
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Not everyone has time to sit at their computer all day and respond. Sometimes matches take longer than others or have more or less time than others.

I signed up and had matching turned on and off for about a month depending on how many people I was currently exchanging guided questions because it takes time to answer everyone thoughtfully. I went to open communication with probably 10 different guys and went on multiple dates with several men from eH in that span of time. My current boyfriend was the last man I met in real life and he was the one for me. We've been together ever since and have a very solid relationship.

I live in a metropolitan area where there are lots of matches so I know that helped. But please be patient. 3 days isn't very long to wait, especially if someone doesn't log in every day or wants to take time to write back with meaningful and thought out answers.

I think many success stories aren't posting here because we are so busy with our significant other. I know I much rather be spending time with him than on here writing about him. He's amazing in every way
 
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