sking is offline sking Post #1  November 25,2009, 8:39pm
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I was very reluctant to post anything. I've been on EH for over a year and after closing out over close to 400 matches - he found me!
I've turned off my matches every so often - after being so frustrated with: no replies, slow replies, false positives, over weight guys taking pic eating an overloading plate of food and in their profile "looking for a woman to take care of me and my kids...." and of course the guys who are dating someone, but they're on EH (God has a way of showing you :-), etc., etc.

Sometimes I would go months without turning it on; and after seeing those "you'll find love too - EH commer on TV...," I'll turn it back on only to be disgusted again. And, let's not forget all those "flexible matches." At one point I even expanded my matches for the "entire world...." It's very sad to have days without a match - NO one in the World?

On my last ditch effort - I turned it on again and I had one match - him! When I saw his pic I knew there was something special about him. His profile spoke to my heart - and after a few days, we sent ice breakers - no word, I closed him, and I turned off my matches. About 3 weeks later, I went back on - just surfing and he asked me to re-open. I did, and 5 days later we were talking in person! His first words were "You have no idea how sick I was when you closed me!!!" "I prayed and hoped you would reopen...."

Needless to say, the rest is history! It's been absolutely wonderful to have someone in your life with so much in common - and a man who respects, honors, adores me, and Thanks God I'm in his life. There's no pretenses, no games, no drama - we connect. He closed out all his other matches and told them "I'm pursuing another relationship..." Now, that's gotta make a girl feel special!

Keep the faith - keep your focus on where your "help and peace comes from..." And, put your trust in God. I can't promise the same outcome for everyone else - However, I know God used this "vehicle," to send me - him!

Happy Thanksgiving - signed
"So thankful, blessed and after 400 matches - he found me! "
 
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LivingBetterLonger2009 is offline LivingBetterLonger2009 Post #2  November 25,2009, 9:11pm
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sking,
Your story is inspiring:
On my last ditch effort - I turned it on again and I had one match - him!...His profile spoke to my heart - and after a few days, we sent ice breakers - no word, I closed him, and I turned off my matches. About 3 weeks later, I went back on - just surfing and he asked me to re-open. I did, and 5 days later we were talking in person!

Somehow I still hope for something like this to happen on eH. However, right now I'm hoping in the future someone who gives really sound advice will ask me.

When you posted your story, I was elated. I am elated to hear there is still hope on eHarmony. It is not easy not receiving any communication. And you are right, when you find a relationship that is genuine, seeks to communicate, it is awesome!

Thanks for sharing!

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dnnmllr is offline dnnmllr Post #3  November 28,2009, 7:37am
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sking wrote :
I was very reluctant to post anything. I've been on EH for over a year and after closing out over close to 400 matches - he found me!
I've turned off my matches every so often - after being so frustrated with: no replies, slow replies, false positives, over weight guys taking pic eating an overloading plate of food and in their profile "looking for a woman to take care of me and my kids...." and of course the guys who are dating someone, but they're on EH (God has a way of showing you :-), etc., etc.

Sometimes I would go months without turning it on; and after seeing those "you'll find love too - EH commer on TV...," I'll turn it back on only to be disgusted again. And, let's not forget all those "flexible matches." At one point I even expanded my matches for the "entire world...." It's very sad to have days without a match - NO one in the World?

On my last ditch effort - I turned it on again and I had one match - him! When I saw his pic I knew there was something special about him. His profile spoke to my heart - and after a few days, we sent ice breakers - no word, I closed him, and I turned off my matches. About 3 weeks later, I went back on - just surfing and he asked me to re-open. I did, and 5 days later we were talking in person! His first words were "You have no idea how sick I was when you closed me!!!" "I prayed and hoped you would reopen...."

Needless to say, the rest is history! It's been absolutely wonderful to have someone in your life with so much in common - and a man who respects, honors, adores me, and Thanks God I'm in his life. There's no pretenses, no games, no drama - we connect. He closed out all his other matches and told them "I'm pursuing another relationship..." Now, that's gotta make a girl feel special!

Keep the faith - keep your focus on where your "help and peace comes from..." And, put your trust in God. I can't promise the same outcome for everyone else - However, I know God used this "vehicle," to send me - him!

Happy Thanksgiving - signed
"So thankful, blessed and after 400 matches - he found me! "
Thank you so much for sharing your "words" of inspiration and encouragement. I am strengthened because of your "sowing" this thread.....and share in your joy. Congratulations.
 
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HappyandLight is offline HappyandLight Post #4  November 28,2009, 8:30am
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That's wonderful!!! I am happy for you!

The moral of your story for everyone else is to not give up!

I relate the picture thing. When I received first looked at the profile of my now bf...I stared and stared at the pictures. I felt like I knew him before. The thought came up "it's a different face, a new face, but the same person". It was weird but riveting. I knew he was special by the way I felt looking at his pics...I looked and looked and felt some sort of recognition.
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #5  November 30,2009, 2:34pm
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*Debbie Downer saunters in*

So, how long exactly have you been dating?
 
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Deb I think she's busy lol
 
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lol I guess that's a good thing. No one usually likes to hear from Ms. Downer.
 
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I did this just about the same as looking for a job. I did lots of interviews. I was interviewing for the position of girlfriend and wanted it to be with the best "company". There might not be a lot of matches out there for you, but like a job, you only need one at a time.
 
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Dear sking and Everyone,

sking, so very happy for you and your match! Congrats!

I am sure that along with, dnnmllr, other members will also get inspiration, encouragement, and be strengthened by your success.

On other threads, members sometimes question whether it is really effective to send a re-open communication request to a match who has closed you. Well, your story surely shows that it can be VERY effective! If your match hadn't sent the request, you would not have had the opportunity to reconsider him, decide to give him a chance, and discover that he's your special match!

We know it is difficult to always remain patient while searching for The One! It only makes sense that a member would want to find that special match a.s.a.p. But the truth is that it is a process that takes time, even on eHarmony. Like you, most of our successful members closed many, many matches before being successfully matched.

To help our members be patient and stay postive, we provide this Advice thread along with our Success Stories page. So we thank you, sking, for sharing your story, especially since you were initially reluctant to do so.

Please let us know how our relationship progresses. Also, when you are ready to do so, our Success Stories team would love to hear from you:
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