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I met Honey on EH about a year and 9 months ago...and we're moving in together!!!

This is honestly THE best relationship I've ever had! We both talk about how we never knew it could be THIS good! We're older (40's) and we've both been married before which ended in divorce...so we're not young and inexperienced...and we totally never knew it could be THIS wonderful!!!

I am beyond happy and am so excited to share this bit of news with others from EH!!!
- September 14th, 2009, 05:19 pm
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Wow, it looks like I get to be the first to say congratulations and best wishes for a long and happy relationship!!

And thank you for sharing... I think there are a lot of us out here who really need to read these success stories.
- September 14th, 2009, 05:35 pm
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nothing wrong with being beyond happy.. good for you.. always nice to hear a success story
- September 14th, 2009, 05:37 pm
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Thanks! I'm glad to offer some hope to those who are still looking. It took quite a while to find Honey....however, he was worth the wait!

Don't give up...enjoy yourself...BE yourself and eventually love will come knocking. Good luck to all of you!
- September 14th, 2009, 09:41 pm
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Dear mnsnowflake,

We truly appreciate you sharing your wonderful news so that other's may be inspired by it.

You mentioned that you were on the site for quite a while before you met Honey. If you don't mind sharing, I was wondering just how long you'd been searching before you received him as a match? Also, I was wondering how long he'd been searching.

If there are any other details about your eHarmony experience which may inspire matches to keep positive or tips you'd like to suggest, I encourage you to share them. Many times it's those extra bits of information which are just what a member needs to hear to help them also find the "best relationship" of their life!

Lastly, if you haven't been in contact with our Success Stories team, they would love to hear about your wonderful relationship and how it'sprogressing: http://tr.im/xXW3

All the best to the two of you!

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- September 19th, 2009, 03:35 pm
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Congratulations!
The Sweetie and I are in our mid-fifties, and also met on EH. Both divorced (twice for him, once for me), so we were very cautious as well. We've been living together now for about a year, and it's like we've known each other forever. I have to remind myself that I was married to someone else for 30 years.

I do think that older, more mature and experienced couples, can have an advantage in making relationship decisions. We definitely know what not to do.

Best of luck to you and your Honey.
- October 10th, 2009, 07:13 pm
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Thanks Spider! Best of luck to you and Sweety too! I do think being a bit older helps. We've lived our lives, raised our kids (mostly, Honey's youngest is 16), we've made mistakes and learned from them...we also have lived enough to know who we are. We were both gun shy...afraid to let ourselves get hurt...but we took a chance and are very happy together! Looking forward to whatever the future holds for us!

As for our story. I'd been on and off EH and other sites for a few years. I enjoyed my life, but occasionally wanted to find someone to share it with. I met quite a few nice guys...a couple of wierd ones. Mostly nice guys...nothing wrong with them or me...just no spark.

Honey and I were matched after I had been on EH for about 6-8 weeks. I think Honey had just signed up. After spending time going through the EH process, then emailing and talking on the phone (about 2 months) we finally met. Usually I set up first meetings for coffee...nothing that will take up too much time if it's not going well...come on, y'all do it! Honey and I lived a little over an hour apart, so we met for lunch. Our first meeting "date" lasted 6 hours!!! We talked, ate, went to a nearby outdoor store (we're both nature lovers)...next thing we knew, it was HOURS later. We both said we'd love to get together again...and we did. Once we both wrapped up plans we had made previously, we spent every weekend together. We talk every single night. We send text messages during the day, when we can. We talk about *everything*.

We share many interests and qualities, but we are also still our own person. We accept each other for who we are, not who we may need that person to be.

It may take some time to find the right person...it may take a frustratingly long time to find him/her...but it's worth the wait! I'd suggest NOT to look for that "perfect" someone...instead, enjoy your life, meet different people, even someone you might not typically be drawn to. Everyone has a story, and if given the chance, you might find the love of your life...

Good luck to everyone! Your love match is out there...you might just need to expand your horizons a bit, and give someone a chance to shine in your life!
- October 21st, 2009, 12:28 pm
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Dear mnsnowflake,

Thanks so much for taking time to come back to this thread to share more about your experience and suggestions on how others can make the most of their eHarmony experience!

I am certainly glad to hear that you gave eHarmony another chance though you weren't successfully matched during your previous try/tries on our site. Many successfully-matched members have had the same experience and found The One after taking a break from our site!

Your decision to have "coffee dates" when you were meeting a match for the first time is right in line with our Safety Tips. We recommend that the first "date" be casual, during the day, and at a public place, and we wish everyone would do so! Not only for safety and privacy reasons, but if things aren't going as well as you hoped, it is easier to end the date gracefully.

I think your statment -- "We share many interests and qualities, but we are also still our own person." -- really exemplifies the value of our matching system. Some have a preconceived idea that members receive matches who are just like they are! This may not always be the best fit, and our goal is to provide members with matches who can complement them.

I sincerely hope that members will take your suggestion to give "even someone you might not typically be drawn to" a chance. Many members will only communicate with a member if their About Me page and photos are "perfect." There is a reason that members receive each and every match; so we encourage them to do some communicating and give most, if not all, their matches "a chance to shine in their life!"

All the best, and please let us know how you and Honey are doing from time to time.

Sincerely,

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- October 21st, 2009, 01:30 pm
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