thBigham is offline thBigham Post #1  May 13,2009, 7:05pm
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Interesting topic. I met my wife here on eharmony in 2005. I got many dates during the time I was on the service, many open communications, and had lots of fun. Met some nuts, met some decent serous people. I was the first open communication for my wife - what luck! I'm white and a very successful investor and educator. My wife is Cambodian and an educator as well. I dated people of every race, including mine. I was not interested in dating a Cambodian at first and had some resistance when she contacted me. (I did some research about the culture and saw lots of problems of violence and family turmoil) I took a leap of faith and am glad I did. We hit it off well the first date and by the third date I knew I needed to either stop seeing her or I'm going to marry her. Why? She came real with it. Each step. No insincerity, and when I met the family members they made it clear they were sincere people as well and wanted only sincere people of integrity with her. I returned the favor with a grilling by my family and friends I could scare up so the premise was sincere, not booty calls. We have our first baby due in about a month. There are cultural differences which pop up from time to time. Occasionally we need to stop and explain. I used to think it important and more fun would come from someone who thoroughly knows my culture, history, etc. No, that's stuff we can share. What's really important and fun is watching someone grow with you, succeed in common plans, share real committment - the stuff marriage is supposed to be about. I found interracially we are stronger than if we came from the same culture because we each have perspective the other misses and are I believe wiser and more tolerant because of it.
 
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DDjr is offline DDjr Post #2  May 14,2009, 7:28am
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Congratulations!

Was she living in the U.S. when you were matched?
 
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thBigham is offline thBigham Post #3  May 14,2009, 4:15pm
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She was raised here.
 
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UKOK is offline UKOK Post #4  June 22,2009, 6:43am
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Fantastic news and congratulations from the UK and great things will happen for you all and new baby...
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Interesting topic. I met my wife here on eharmony in 2005. I got many dates during the time I was on the service, many open communications, and had lots of fun. Met some nuts, met some decent serous people. I was the first open communication for my wife - what luck! I'm white and a very successful investor and educator. My wife is Cambodian and an educator as well. I dated people of every race, including mine. I was not interested in dating a Cambodian at first and had some resistance when she contacted me. (I did some research about the culture and saw lots of problems of violence and family turmoil) I took a leap of faith and am glad I did. We hit it off well the first date and by the third date I knew I needed to either stop seeing her or I'm going to marry her. Why? She came real with it. Each step. No insincerity, and when I met the family members they made it clear they were sincere people as well and wanted only sincere people of integrity with her. I returned the favor with a grilling by my family and friends I could scare up so the premise was sincere, not booty calls. We have our first baby due in about a month. There are cultural differences which pop up from time to time. Occasionally we need to stop and explain. I used to think it important and more fun would come from someone who thoroughly knows my culture, history, etc. No, that's stuff we can share. What's really important and fun is watching someone grow with you, succeed in common plans, share real committment - the stuff marriage is supposed to be about. I found interracially we are stronger than if we came from the same culture because we each have perspective the other misses and are I believe wiser and more tolerant because of it.
That's really cool and I'm glad it worked out.

I've dated all races and ethnicities.....

In the end, it's more about how the two you get along most of the time, beyond the highs and lows and whether you genuinely enjoy each other's company.

Good luck with this.
 
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