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FriendofGod is offline FriendofGod Post #1  February 27,2009, 11:18am
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I have been on EH for about 1 month now. Initially, I planned to just sign up for a month to see if it would work for me. My membership is up in 2 days...but I just met someone really special. He seems to feel the same way about me. We were matched and he immediately initiated communication with me about 6 days ago and we arenow entering the open communication stage. Should I renew my membership or should we just exchange emails at this point?


This guy has all the major qualities I am looking for in a partner. The major issue is I live in Canada and he lives in the US. I understand that the major mode of communication in a long-distance relationship is the phone and email, but how long should we wait to set up the first meeting? How often would you see each other? Who decides who moves where? Do long-distance relationships have a lower success rate than local ones? Looking forward to your thoughts on this. Thanks and stay blessed!
 
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TrixiPooch is offline TrixiPooch Post #2  February 27,2009, 11:42am
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You don't need to renew your eH membership just to continue talking with this fellow. Exchange emails. As far as the logistics of a long distance relationship, I'd cross that bridge when you come to it. However, try to meet as soon as possible - before becoming too emotionally invested in this person.
 
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BE COOL -DON'T GO OFF PREMATURELY-MAINTAIN YOUR COMPOSURE. LET'S DO STEP 4 BEFORE YOU DO STEP 6. DON'T PUT ANY UNDUE PRESSURE ON THIS NEW AQUAINTANCE. IT DOESN'T MATTER WHO DOES WHAT FIRST OR WHO GOES WHERE FIRST WHAT MATTERS IS THAT YOU ARE BOTH HAPPY WITH THE DECISION. TRED CAREFULLY THE ICE MAY NOT BE AS THICK AS IT LOOKS.


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FriendofGod, wrote :


I have been on EH for about 1 month now. Initially, I planned to just sign up for a month to see if it would work for me. My membership is up in 2 days...but I just met someone really special. He seems to feel the same way about me. We were matched and he immediately initiated communication with me about 6 days ago and we arenow entering the open communication stage. Should I renew my membership or should we just exchange emails at this point?


This guy has all the major qualities I am looking for in a partner. The major issue is I live in Canada and he lives in the US. I understand that the major mode of communication in a long-distance relationship is the phone and email, but how long should we wait to set up the first meeting? How often would you see each other? Who decides who moves where? Do long-distance relationships have a lower success rate than local ones? Looking forward to your thoughts on this. Thanks and stay blessed!


If you think that EHis a big help for you to communicate this person that you've matched with.... then renew your membership.


But if you think that you don't need the EH forany reason...... So that means NO reason for you to renew your membership and you can exchange emails to this person.


Use your best instinct and judgement!!!!
 
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MaMaLuna is offline MaMaLuna Post #5  February 27,2009, 12:54pm
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Make up a "disposable email address" through your email provider and go into personal, outside communications with him. It isn't like he's going to end up at your front door, as I'm sure you have already sized him up for absence of that kind of person. If you decide that things aren't going well, and you decide to end the relationship,block him from that email address, then don't use it anymore and it will just go away in 30 days - as long as you DON'T MESS with it. Perhaps with some carriers, you can just cancel that address. When you sign up for that disposable email address, or even on your most used one, DO NOT even give your carrier your street address, phone number or anything that you can avoid. Anything that you enter, can be hacked.


Good luck, good love, and be safe!
 
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thBigham is offline thBigham Post #6  April 19,2009, 11:10am
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Just remember you don't have a relationship long distance.





Until chemistry is established (and maintained to the exclusive influence of outsiders) you have no relationship - just interest and hope.





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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #7  April 23,2009, 6:45pm
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FriendofGod, wrote :




but how long should we wait to set up the first meeting? How often would you see each other? Who decides who moves where? Do long-distance relationships have a lower success rate than local ones? Looking forward to your thoughts on this. Thanks and stay blessed!
I would not wait long to meet.





I met my ex husband on eharmony and we were long distance (CA to NM) and it was extremely difficult and expensive! We did not have sex before marriage, so it was always two hotel rooms (we would often meet halfway). This might not impact you as much, but it gets expensive.


We married before we lived together (lots of stuff logistically and career wise that hindered the move together) and I think it contirbuted to the fact that we divorced two years later. Take the marriage commitment out of it and you still can see that anything long distance will be very, very difficult.
 
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saltndlight is offline saltndlight Post #8  April 25,2009, 1:40pm
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Hello, i tried long distance last year.I agree with some posts here: you don't have a real relationship until you start to sepnd time face to face.It is extremely expensive and takes a lot of effort.And if in the end it doesn't work out, you might feel discouraged why you invested so much time and money for nothing...i'd say that you need to pray a lot but also i think the sooner you meet face to face the best...i know some realtionships that worked out but i believe it must be with strong God's confirmation for you and him.


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