eHarmony Success Story - GONE WRONG!

Mine isnt that bad. I just keep getting matched with my ex on every site that I have gone to.

Mine isnt that bad. I just keep getting matched with my ex on every site that I have gone to.

Mine isnt that bad. I just keep getting matched with my ex on every site that I have gone to.

Long story short - I met a wonderful lady on EH and we fell madly in love! Married a few months later and I was blissfully happy for more than a year. She was everything I had ever wished for and more. I was excited to be another living and breathing testimonial to the wonders of the EH phenomenon. As we were preparing to leave on a trip to celebrate our first anniversary there was a change in her demeanor - major shift - but she was reluctant to talk about it and became withdrawn and distant. When the truth came out - she said she had "accidentally" discovered that her ex BF had been killed in a motorcycle accident within a few days from the last time she spoke with him. This had happened a couple of years earlier, but she only just learned of it. He had seemed to disappear, and she never found out why or what had become of him. I tried to be understanding and supportive, but she refused to talk about it and remained distant and disconnected from me for months afterward. She seemed to be "going through the motions" with me, but it was very obvious that the spark and emotional connection we had always seemed to share was missing. I tried to talk with her, wrote her long letters reminding her how much I loved her and how would always be there for her, and trying to remind her that while tragic, he was in her past and was gone, never to return, and that meanwhile, she had a husband who was very much alive and wanting his beloved wife back. She eventually decided to take a trip across the country to San Francisco to visit a friend and take a sabbatical; a "mental health" holiday, which I supported. I agreed to stay behind to take care of her daughter and to "hold down the fort." The night before she was to leave, I found an email thread on our computer that revealed that the friend she told me she was visiting had actually moved away from the Bay Area, and in reality she was going to spend a week with the ex-BF's best buddy. I dug deeper into her email and found that, even though they had never actually met, they had been chatting on-line for quite a while and were planning a romantic holiday - a tour of the wine country, overnight stays in B&B's and both were pretty graphic about being open to - and actually expecting that the trip would include - sex. I confronted her with what I had found but she was angry with me for "snooping" and went anyway, leaving me behind to care for her daughter. (From a previous relationship.) Needless to say, we ended things shortly after she returned. I was crushed, and disappointed to say the least. She admitted that they had sex, and even had the audacity to tell me that she expected to see him again in the future, and that if I wanted to keep our marriage going, I was going to have to accept that. (I couldn't believe it either!) So it was OVER.... Moral of the story - don't be fooled into thinking that EH - or any other site - can insure that you will have a good outcome. Take time to really, really get to know someone, and be sure you have worked through the issues with your ex before trying to committ yourself to a new relationship. Any other stories of folks who have had your eHarmony fairy tale imploded and incinerated?