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Hi, I'm new to this forum.


I had a couple of sets of "new matches" come through in the first 3 days of joining this site. Not one was anyone I would consider, until someone initiated communication - and bam! This person is wonderful. I felt something special there, that intangible connection, and a lot of physical attraction! I didn't even think it was possible. I joined this site very lightheartedly, skeptically even, and after seeing some of the first few matches I thought there would be no one here for me... But this man happens to be beautiful, intelligent, and we have so much in common...


Is this typical? Has anyone ever found "the one" within a couple of days of joining eH?


For a while, my intuition told me to join this site... Perhaps it was because the right person was waiting for me here. I wasn't that keen, it doesn't seem very romantic to me... but who can argue with fate, I suppose.


Curious about whether others have had similar things happen to them. Thanks!
- January 1st, 2009, 05:46 pm
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My girlfriend was one of the first four matches I received through eHarmony. She also initiated communication with me, and when she did it convinced me to subscribe so that I could communicate with her.





I honestly didn't expect anything to come out of it. I looked at her profile and didn't believe she would want to be with a guy like me. I eventually came to realize that my expectations were dead wrong about this woman. Every time I though I had her figured out, she would surprise me in the most wonderful way.





I don't think our experience is typical. I've read plenty of posts from people on this forum who have spent months, even years, trying to find someone special through eHarmony but to no avail. It certainly makes me feel fortunate to have met someone like her immediately.





Oh, and for the record, she had been a member for a while before being matched with me. She had been a member a couple years earlier but quit and came back to it. I guess it just goes to show that a little perseverance can pay off sometimes.
- January 7th, 2009, 09:35 pm
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Great topic. It took me about three weeks on eHarmony. I'd been on a differnt board for several months and I've been dating for several years. But never met someone that was what I would consider that perfect match. Anyway, after less than a month we both closed all our other matches. I'm in the East Bay, CA. Lot's of people within a ten mile radius. So that helps. And the eHarmony system really helped also.


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- January 9th, 2009, 01:58 pm
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Hi In_Bloom!


I joined eHarmony after deciding that I didn't want to date men I'd met at, or through, my workplace, and was done dating men my friends set me up with. I'd never tried online dating and was skeptical until a friend told me about her success with a different dating site. Being the "nothing ventured, nothing gained" person that I am, I grabbed my laptop, signed up with eHarmony, and filled out my profile. Long story short, my currentboyfriend was the first, and only, man I met in person through eHarmony. I joined at the end of July '07, and within a week was emailing (through eHarmony's site) back and forth with 4 men who seemed like good guys. One of those men really stood out, and I felt as though we were well matched. He agreed andasked me out for dinner. Our first date was on 8/13/07, and we've been a couple ever since. I honestly don't know whether or not my results are typical. I was happy and content with my life before I met my boyfriend, but I consider his presence to be the icing on my cake
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I did not "connect" as they say on the first match but I did on my second match-up. I think eHarmony does a fansatic job on matching up couples with similiar likes/dislikes and I promote eHarmony to anyone who listen long enough, LOL. I do not miss one opportunity to tell people of mine and my wifes success story on meeting on eHarmony and the wonderful job they do.


There, I think, is no standard number of matches one has to go through to meet that special soulmate; it is really teh geniuine feelings that you have and what kind of effort you put into that match.


I was having cable modem problems where the signal was coming and going due to some technical problems with my provider, so Iwaited for the signal to come back on, staying up to 3am in the morning so I could get the response for the eHarmony essay open-ended questions back to my future wife. Granted, I only slept only two or three hours past that for sleep to work that same morning, but I felt a strong connection going on and it turned out to be right!!


Four months later we were married and have been getting much stronger each day that goes by!!
- January 12th, 2009, 06:18 am
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Hi!


I'm new to these forums too. I just found out about them and have been enjoying reading the stories of so many other couples!


I did meet 'the one' - my husband of just over a year - as one of my first matches.


I had heard a radio commercial about eHarmony and joined because I was interested in the personality profile. After I began receiving matches, I decided to check things out while I was still within my initial trial period... Shortly thereafter I was matched with my husband
- January 13th, 2009, 09:42 am
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I've been on and off many online dating sites since my divorce almost 3 years ago. I heard so many success stories from people I knew that themselves or someone they knew found their person on eharmony, so after years of putting it off I joined Dec 1rst 08. I have mine set for anywhere in the world because you just never know and I am not getting any younger! I am fortunate enough to be able to retire in 5 years and 10 months at 49 years old - SO I can relocate then. Anyhow, on Dec 9th I was matched with someone that really caught my eye both pictures and profile. Now to date I have had hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of matches (I don't know if there is a place we can get the total count?) And he is the only one I have gotten to open communication with, and we blew through the process quickly. I beleive I requested communication with him. We started talking on the phone by the end of Dec after he got home from a vacation. Then he left for another but called as soon as he got home. It's progressed to talking almost every day now and it's not unusual to talk for 5 hours w/o blinking an eye. Probably at 30 hours plus of conversation and we couldn't be better match in that regard! We just love talking to each other and have so much in common. The reason we have to talk so much? There is a 1655 mile issue. But I am flying out there next month to meet him and that gives us that much longer to get ot know each other, and we can not WAIT to meet in person, we both are very excited Have no idea what will happen, but I have learned to live in the moment because tomorrow my not come.
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In_Bloom, wrote :

Hi, I'm new to this forum.


I had a couple of sets of "new matches" come through in the first 3 days of joining this site. Not one was anyone I would consider, until someone initiated communication - and bam! This person is wonderful. I felt something special there, that intangible connection, and a lot of physical attraction! I didn't even think it was possible. I joined this site very lightheartedly, skeptically even, and after seeing some of the first few matches I thought there would be no one here for me... But this man happens to be beautiful, intelligent, and we have so much in common...


Is this typical? Has anyone ever found "the one" within a couple of days of joining eH?


For a while, my intuition told me to join this site... Perhaps it was because the right person was waiting for me here. I wasn't that keen, it doesn't seem very romantic to me... but who can argue with fate, I suppose.


Curious about whether others have had similar things happen to them. Thanks!
My boyfried got a free month subscription and met me! Figures it was easy for him and not for me!! But it all worked out in the end!


Crazy but true, it can work! I was on eHarmony on and off for 2 years. I would quit out of frustration for no matches, or I'd quick because when I would finally get to open communication with someone, they'd end up being blah or a creeper! I had cancelled my membership, once again, but was paid through a month when I receive the email that introduced me to Mike. We were matched on 3/16/2008 and were openly communicating by that week. We talked on the phone the following week and I was wondering what the catch was with this guy that seemed way too good to be true. We met on 3/28/2008 and had about a 14 hour first date, talking about everything and nothing! We're coming up on our year anniversary and are planning to be engaged in the next few months! I have no idea how it happened, but eHarmony can work.


They matched me with someone who had qualities that I didn't even know I wanted and now I couldn't live without them. He's the best and I'm very lucky! I can also say that the commercials are legit too! Mike and I logged onto the success story portion of the website and sent in our story. Probably 4 months later we were contacted to see if we'd be interested in submitting a video for commercail consideration!


I know it's frustrating, and I know it's not a perfect science, but know that it can work! And at the very least, it's a learning experience! Give it some time and see how it goes!
- February 1st, 2009, 06:07 pm
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I actually married one of my original 8 E/H matches. She was not the first lady I met through E/H nor was she my first OPEN match. She is a wonderful Christian Lady~! We were married almost 2 years to the day after we first met.
- April 2nd, 2009, 10:24 am
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Add two more to the quick success group. I was a member for about 4 days and my now "boyfriend" one day when we were matched. He was the second I reached OC with and the only one I went out with. No need for more....he is terrific! 8 months now and looks like it will only be getting better....
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