Has anyone met "the one" in the first couple of days of joining eH?


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ChCkBzk is offline ChCkBzk Post #61  March 29,2010, 3:57pm
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I had to sign up just to post my own success story!

I honestly can't remember when my boyfriend and I were matched, but it was sometime within the first two weeks of signing up for me. It was a bit longer for him I believe.

As someone previously mentioned there was just "something" about him that drew me in. I'll have to say it was probably his picture, he had such an amazing smile. His profile was informative, but it did not reflect his personality as well as it could. However, the answers he gave during guided communication, especially during the open ended questions are what really allowed his personality to shine!

My boyfriend (and all his friends) told me that I was the one profile that he was most interested in. His friends dubbed me "little miss perfect" even before he met me based on his description of my profile. (They know him well enough to know what he's looking for!) I had spent time and effort making sure my profile reflected my true personality and it paid off.

By the time we met up, both of us had met and were each going on dates with three other people from eh. I knew right away he was the one for me and he did as well. We only had one more "official" date and a night to meet my friends before we decided to only see each other. We both let everyone else know that we decided to get into an exclusive relationship and turned off matching.

Both of us are still amazed at what we have been able to find on eh because it was beyond our wildest expectations. My boyfriend and I are both in our 30's and know exactly what we are looking for, luckily eh was able to match us!

We have only been together since December, but the relationship is very strong due to all the levels of compatibility that we have. I'm sure it will continue to be strong for a long time (hopefully forever, but only time will tell!)
 
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eH_Advice_Host_Renee is offline eH_Advice_Host_Renee Post #62  April 1,2010, 1:06pm

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Hi ChCkBzk,

It is always great when someone decides to join eHarmony Advice, but it's especially so when it's because they want to share a success story!

Ah, a great smile! That is so appealing and why we always encourage members to post photos with them smiling.

To support their own success, it is really important that members dedicate time and energy in creating the best profile possible, and kudos to you for putting forth that effort!

I think it's so great that your boyfriend's friends were supporting his search and pegged you right off the bat as being perfect for him! That being said, as was the case with your boyfriend, a match's About Me page may not always do them complete justice, and that's why taking advantage of the communication process is the best way to determine a match's soul mate potential.

Yes, finding someone on eHarmony is partly luck, but there are things members can do to increase their chances of finding that special match, and I hope that other members will be inspired by your example and really work on their profile and be open to communicating with matches.

I'm so glad you can feel the compatiblity with your boyfriend that our matching system is all about! I hope you will let us know how your relationship progresses and invite you to check out our Facebook page in case you'd also like to share your experience there or meet other successful couples: eHarmony | Facebook

All the best,

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jammaster29 is offline jammaster29 Post #63  August 9,2010, 10:27pm
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Jeez, I read some of these and I start wondering what I'm doing wrong, though I am having a little trouble seeing errors in my ways.

I tried my best for a great site, good pics (close up shot, one dressed up, one more sporting etc). And I think I am good, good-looking guy. And all the women that go to stage four with me either A. stop communicating altogether or B. I'll ask to meet and they will either stop communicating altogether or be like 'sure!' and I'll suggest a place and then I don't hear back. And what I suggest is normally just coffee/tea (occasionally dinner), something easy, and hopefully harmless and comfortable setting that puts her at ease.

I'm a bit old-fashioned, that I appreciate phone-human-even-letter interaction over computers, especially since my full-time job is with computers...I can only do so much on a computer per day before I am totally done with them and have to have human interaction. Maybe I am pushing it a tad on meeting in person, but I was hoping just setting up a coffee-talk would make it easier. At the same time, I think if they wanted to meet, they'd find the time out of their busy schedule (which is ironic because that is a question I'm normally asked on the eHarmony short questions is on 'meeting people with busy schedules' and I always answer "If somebody wants to see someone, it will be important enough for them to find the time out of their schedule to meet them").
 
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burgene is offline burgene Post #64  October 25,2010, 8:24am
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"I have! I have!
I was a new member and he was one of the 2 or three firsts I started communicating with last March. We followed the first steps and skipped to Skype. Just in case- there are thousands of miles and, at least 4 or 5 airports between us but they did not avoid us to be together for fifteen days last August. I will be returning next November to spend more 20 days and he will be joining me and my family in December for more fifteen days. We have been very happy!!!! I am sure he is the " one". I hope to be back later to tell you more about our beautiful love story. Thank you eHarmony! It really surprised me.
 
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I have, I have too! YAY!

Not only did we meet very soon after joining. We were 1500 miles apart. So we could only communicate by email and phone for three months. (I was in the process of moving from SC to central TX.) I am here now, met him two weeks ago. On day 12 he took me to Zales! We will be getting married November 27th.
I typed out my success story but it isn't displayed yet. I hope I did it right since it was lengthy!!
 
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burgene wrote :
"I have! I have!
I was a new member and he was one of the 2 or three firsts I started communicating with last March. We followed the first steps and skipped to Skype. Just in case- there are thousands of miles and, at least 4 or 5 airports between us but they did not avoid us to be together for fifteen days last August. I will be returning next November to spend more 20 days and he will be joining me and my family in December for more fifteen days. We have been very happy!!!! I am sure he is the " one". I hope to be back later to tell you more about our beautiful love story. Thank you eHarmony! It really surprised me.
inHisHand wrote :
I have, I have too! YAY!

Not only did we meet very soon after joining. We were 1500 miles apart. So we could only communicate by email and phone for three months. (I was in the process of moving from SC to central TX.) I am here now, met him two weeks ago. On day 12 he took me to Zales! We will be getting married November 27th.
I typed out my success story but it isn't displayed yet. I hope I did it right since it was lengthy!!
Congratulations to you both!

While I know it isn't the only reason the two of you had success so soon, allowing us to search for your matches over thousands of miles surely didn't hurt.

E-mailing, texting, Skyping, phone calls, and even good old fashioned letters are all ways members who can't be with each other physically can build a relationship together! And, often, overcoming the challenge of a long-distance relathionship can bring a couple even closer together!

I hope both your stories encourage members to be as open-minded as possible when it comes to their matches' location. Even if a member isn't open to moving, that doesn't mean their match won't be!

burgene, best wishes for a wonderful trip in November! Please le us know how it goes!

inHisHand, best wishes for a beautiful wedding in November!When you get a chance, I hope that you will share details of your special day with us and maybe even post some photos! Also, your thread was successfully posted: http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...ally-fast.html

Thank you both for taking the time to share your success! Your stories may be just what a member needs to continue their search with a hopeful and positvie attitude.

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ChCkBzk is offline ChCkBzk Post #67  December 5,2010, 10:09am
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I'm back!

After a year together we are still going strong. We have moved in together and share a wonderful home. We talk about getting engaged in the spring and having babies sometime next year.

I'm still amazed that this man existed in the world and that he's mine! I know he feels likewise.
 
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tinaroonie is offline tinaroonie Post #68  December 5,2010, 6:15pm
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I hope my story turns into a success story. It's too soon to tell yet, but this guy and I share a lot in common. I post here only because he is the first (and hopefully only) guy I have met in person through eharmony (this time around), and I have already turned off new matches (did this even before we met in person, because his was the only one I could think about once we'd started communicating). I did do eharmony years ago, I think it was 2004 or 2005, and did go on a few dates with a few guys, but they were only one or two dates and that's it. Nothing felt like this. And it almost didn't happen for me. I mean, I liked his profile, but he didn't appeal to me in his photos, so I was on the fence about contacting him. Luckily he contacted me, and I have a policy of at least replying to every guy that contacts me. So glad I did. I responded here because I'd only been matched less than a week when I got his profile sent to me. So it was pretty quick. My mom got me a 6 month membership, and now I'm beginning to think that 3 months would have been enough. LOL! Though it's too early in our relationship to say if he's the one, it does feel different, and I have the security of knowing if he's not the one, I have time to get back on eharmony and restart my matching. But I sure hope I don't have to.
 
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iblvnow is offline iblvnow Post #69  January 4,2011, 1:05pm
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Although very skeptical about the whole "love" thing, not truly believing it could really happen to me, (and I had already started writing my book on how dating in your 40's is a lot like Jr. High, just with better technology -you can get dumped on facebook, by text, by email, heck, they can even just *poof* disappear after a year*- and more money, no curfew, and MUCH better hair) I hesitantly joined eHarmony after a "free trial" weekend, figuring, what the heck, can't hurt, right? Plus, I heard from everyone that this one was for people looking for real relationships, not just to see how many notches..... well you know where I'm going with that... (but in the back of my mind, I really WAS afraid of being hurt again) and within the first few days, had several "matches"and "icebreakers"...but only really communicated by email with three....then the texting started with "the one", and within a week of joining, I had my first eH date....and my last, since my first eH date is now the man I love (and who love me too!!, what a novel idea, we may even go to the prom together)...I was the LAST person to believe that I could find what I have been searching for my entire life in any way, let alone online dating, but it happened....I am still amazed that somehow it all works, the "baggage" of the past, kids, dogs, life....but it does, I found someone who loves me for who I am, and I love him the same way.
So, thank you eH, in all seriousness
~skeptic turned believer (still gonna write that book, you know, to help other hapless 40 somethings.....)
 
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