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Two and half years ago when I joined, my husband was my first match. He was the only one I had communication with, and I literally got him as a match the day I signed up. A week after we started going through the process we talked on the phone and met in person. It was absolutely wonderful.

I do think it was unusual to meet him that quickly. His brother has tried eHarmony twice and unfortunately both times didn't meet someone at all. I think it also depends on how open you are to trying to meet someone this way.
- July 1st, 2009, 07:11 am
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I was on EH for the better part of a year when I was matched with my fiance. I'd tried other sites, but none of those matches were even remotely close to what I was looking for, so I came back to EH. At first, I wasn't blown away by his profile, but something just made me keep coming back to read what he wrote. I initiated communication with him and after about 2 weeks, we exchanged phone numbers. I didn't have too high of hopes, as I'd talked to two other gentlemen (and I use that word in it's fullest capacity, some of the best men I've ever talked to are on this site) but nothing ever came from it. Any way, he called when I was in Wal Mart, we talked for so long I went to the shoe aisle to sit down. The call ended (with a plan to talk again the next day) after an hour and 15 minutes. The next call (when we set up our first date) was about equal in length. He was the first I met from the site. I was astounded going in, because I've never had such an interactive conversation (both of us talking, not just one or the other) in a very long time. Our first date was 11/3/07. He proposed 05/01/08 and we'll be getting married on 08/08/09!

Magic can happen in the first match or make take more time. My biggest piece of advice is to go in mentally and emotionally prepared to meet "the one" right away, but also mentally and emotionally prepared to take your time. Remember you are looking for the person who you will spend the rest of your life with, who will be the mother/father of your children (if that's the path you want your life to take), the person that many will name as your soul mate. Whether it takes a mintue, a month or a year, give yourself the time to make sure it's right! And you MUST TRUST YOUR GUT!
- July 1st, 2009, 08:41 am
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I'm waiting for my actual post to go through, but it applies to this one as well. My father met his fiance on one of eHarmony's free communication weekends. They've dated for 2 years and are getting married in September. I would not by any means consider that the typical scenerio...but there you have it! I love her, he is really happy...it's a great ending.
- July 30th, 2009, 06:28 pm
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BriarRoseBuffy wrote :
I was on EH for the better part of a year when I was matched with my fiance. I'd tried other sites, but none of those matches were even remotely close to what I was looking for, so I came back to EH. At first, I wasn't blown away by his profile, but something just made me keep coming back to read what he wrote. I initiated communication with him and after about 2 weeks, we exchanged phone numbers. I didn't have too high of hopes, as I'd talked to two other gentlemen (and I use that word in it's fullest capacity, some of the best men I've ever talked to are on this site) but nothing ever came from it. Any way, he called when I was in Wal Mart, we talked for so long I went to the shoe aisle to sit down. The call ended (with a plan to talk again the next day) after an hour and 15 minutes. The next call (when we set up our first date) was about equal in length. He was the first I met from the site. I was astounded going in, because I've never had such an interactive conversation (both of us talking, not just one or the other) in a very long time. Our first date was 11/3/07. He proposed 05/01/08 and we'll be getting married on 08/08/09!

Magic can happen in the first match or make take more time. My biggest piece of advice is to go in mentally and emotionally prepared to meet "the one" right away, but also mentally and emotionally prepared to take your time. Remember you are looking for the person who you will spend the rest of your life with, who will be the mother/father of your children (if that's the path you want your life to take), the person that many will name as your soul mate. Whether it takes a mintue, a month or a year, give yourself the time to make sure it's right! And you MUST TRUST YOUR GUT!
Dear BriarRoseBuffy,

What wonderful news about your upcoming marriage! I wish I had come across your post earlier, but want to send my best wishes to you and your eHarmony match for a lovely wedding this Saturday!

Also, thank you so much for sharing about your eHarmony experience. It would be truly wonderful if members could met their soul mate after being on the site for a few days, but reality is that most successful members dedicate 3-6 months to their search; so your experience is closer to the norm. But as you have so wonderfully proved, the time is well-spent when you consider that you are seeking your life partner!

Your willingness to give your husband-to-be a chance even though you weren't "blown away" by his profile is the approach that has allowed many members discover their special someone. I hope your story will inspire others not to discount someone solely based on their profile/photos, and do some communicating before concluding that they aren't The One.

I really appreciate the advice you give to eHarmony members currently looking for their life partner. While we encourage members to approach their search in this way, hearing it from a successful eHarmony member can often help someone who is discouraged about their search to have a change of attitude and approach it in a more positive, realistic way.

I know you will be busy in the days to come, but it would be great to hear how your wedding (and honeymoon?) went. So, if you get a minute or two to update us, that would be great.

Also, if you haven't yet contacted our Success Stories team, they would love to hear about your eHarmony experience and wedding! You can contact them by clicking here: http://www.eharmony.com/singles/servlet/about/tellus.

Congratulations again! I wish you and your Special Match all the best now and in your life together.

-Renee
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- August 6th, 2009, 04:38 pm
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I can say yes. My sister Cindy, just married Chad a few weeks ago and they met on EH. She had been on EH for over a year but he met her within the first few days of registering. They his it off and 3 months later they were married, and doing well. I guess it all just depends on timing some days. Her a year him less than a week. Go figure.
- August 16th, 2009, 09:28 pm
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None of my first 40 matches were even active.

I can't believe I'm actually happy summer is over and classes are starting again. I have Eharmony to thank for this! Yes!

I've met more girls on World of Warcraft than this site. In fact, I got my friend married from someone I knew from the game. So technically I've had more success when I played World of Warcraft than through Eharmony.

It really depends on what you are looking for. Truthfully, I'm into both physical attraction and a nice girl, so my search will be much longer than those looking for just "personality". And it really depends on where your "standards" bar is set.
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- August 21st, 2009, 01:40 am
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I was a member of eHarmony for about eight months when my now husband came up as a match for me in August 2004. I hadn't been using the service to the fullest because I was sifting through a pretty large group of dates on another dating site, so I didn't immediately respond when he requested communication. He, on the other hand, had only subscribed to eHarmony for one month on something of a dare from a friend of his, and I was one of his first batch of matches.

After about a dozen first dates from the other site that ranged in quality from fun but no chemistry to OMG! How soon can I escape?, I logged back into eHarmony and began communicating with any match who:

a) had photos posted
b) could write reasonably well
c) sounded interestimg

I reached open communication with a few of my matches over the next two weeks, but the process went a lot faster with my husband. Our interactions just had a lot more momentum than the others, and we barreled right through to open comms in just a few days. After a week of phone calls and emails, we met for our first date--brunch and a local art show.

He was the only eH match I actually met in person, and he says I was also his only face-to-face eH meeting as well, though he did communicate with another match before I responded to his communication request. I'm NOT a sentimental person at all, but I have to admit that I've never been in a relationship so comfortable, natural, and right before.

So while I had to wait a while and shop around to get my perma-match, my husband lucked out and got just what he was looking for in almost no time flat.

He claims this is a metaphor for our real life shopping styles since it takes me five times longer than him to make a decision on what to buy.
- September 4th, 2009, 11:35 am
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tom1385 wrote :
None of my first 40 matches were even active.

I can't believe I'm actually happy summer is over and classes are starting again. I have Eharmony to thank for this! Yes!

I've met more girls on World of Warcraft than this site. In fact, I got my friend married from someone I knew from the game. So technically I've had more success when I played World of Warcraft than through Eharmony.

It really depends on what you are looking for. Truthfully, I'm into both physical attraction and a nice girl, so my search will be much longer than those looking for just "personality". And it really depends on where your "standards" bar is set.

Let me just say you are right about saying it has to do with where your standards are set and, hmmm how to put it, if they are realistic. I have an Uncle who is 47 and educated with a great job and money etc. However, he has never had a serious relationship and lives through my mother. Inviting himself over when ever because he never had a family of his own. This is because his standards are out of proportion for reality. Or at least his reality. I think he was brain washed by tv or something.
Anyway, this question was about success stories and I was enjoying reading some positive peoples stories, untill I came to your post. I've seen your negitive posts on other boards and think maybe they should stick to a board about failure stories not success stories. Everyone will get old and looks will fade, it's the rest of the stuff that makes for a long lasting relationships and strong bonds. I'm not giving up on Eharmony just yet, and I've had a fairly large portion never respond, but I've also had some potentional people respond. All good things in time. Patience. I've opend up my search to a larger area to help. Maybe you should try it or quit whinning. It's so childish. I work with 6 year olds and they get over disapointment quicker than you.
- September 5th, 2009, 02:52 pm
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I have to say I agree. My little brother met his wife on EH. They went out a couple times and he was smitten. She was not. After the third date - something happened and she looked at him in a different way.

I had various matches for me when I first registered. None of them really connected until I started up with the second person through e-mail outside of EH. He just blew me away with his realness. I thought this was too good to be true but he asked me for my number and we started talking right away. It was so awesome. I too was feeling doubtful - that this guy was too awesome and would fizzle out soon but here I am still talking to him and we had 4 dates - all were amazing. I finally met someone I can connect with and has the same walk with God as I do. I am hoping this will continue to grow into something spectacular or permanent. It has only been a month but we talk every day and he has a lot of children but that comes with the age and well, kids are great. I feel very happy with this match and EH has done a great job bringing someone that from first view - made my heart leap. I feel like he is "the one" but time will tell. I have plenty of it! We are so compatible it is scary

Good luck and don't dishearten. You never know when the Lord will place your soulmate at your finger tips. I know I will be forever grateful because for the first time in a long time - I am falling in love and feel like he is falling in love too. This is a rarity.

Good luck and don't give up hope.
- September 8th, 2009, 09:39 am
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krasimps wrote :
Two and half years ago when I joined, my husband was my first match. He was the only one I had communication with, and I literally got him as a match the day I signed up. A week after we started going through the process we talked on the phone and met in person. It was absolutely wonderful.

I do think it was unusual to meet him that quickly. His brother has tried eHarmony twice and unfortunately both times didn't meet someone at all. I think it also depends on how open you are to trying to meet someone this way.
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