Ask a Success Couple Anything: Shonna and Dan

Hi onicande,


First off, I completely understand the hesitation to start meeting people online. It took me a long time and I only really came around when I started seeing close friends taking the plunge online. But logically speaking, I think it is always better to keep all options open. Friends of friends run out pretty quickly, as do coworkers or church, when you narrow your pool by physical attraction, similar interests, availability etc.


Regarding interracial relationships, I don't think there's anything wrong with looking within your own race, but be sure to ask yourself why this is important. My mother was hoping I would marry someone within our race because she wanted someone with the same values that we have, but as she found out, Shonna's backgroundis very similar to ours, and despite her being a different race and religion, her valuesare the same as ours. I personally have found that people are more similar than they are different, regardless of race or religion.


In terms of getting started with eHarmony, there are ways you can limit your matches by race or religion, but I would suggest leaving these options unfiltered, and you can decide for yourself whose values do or do not match yours.


Best of luck!


Dan