patchwerkadams is offline patchwerkadams Post #1  October 7,2008, 7:50pm
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For a site that boasts so many success stories on their commercials I'd figure there'd be more than 15 threads in this topic.
 
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livinginomaha is offline livinginomaha Post #2  October 7,2008, 8:21pm
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Is this site a bunch of "hype?"
 
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intexgsxr,288459 wrote :

I think its bullshit
it's total bullshit! Seems to me like the only people that have any sort of success with this site are those that are attractive enough to get dates without the use of online dating sites. Warren is as deceptive as a Thai ladyboy but he's a friggen mastermind, I'll give him that much. I'd be willing to bet significant amounts of cash on the fact that at least 2/3 of the people who use this sight just wind up 100 bucks or so poorer with 90% of their matches on the "Closed" page. Oh well, I guess it's better to just count your losses and move on but I wouldn't mind seeing more people post their REAL stories about their experiences with eHarmony. This site seems like more of an "elaborate scam that couldn't be tried in court as a scam" than anything else.
 
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patchwerkadams,303337 wrote :

intexgsxr,288459 wrote :


I think its bullshit


it's total bullshit! Seems to me like the only people that have any sort of success with this site are those that are attractive enough to get dates without the use of online dating sites. Warren is as deceptive as a Thai ladyboy but he's a friggen mastermind, I'll give him that much. I'd be willing to bet significant amounts of cash on the fact that at least 2/3 of the people who use this sight just wind up 100 bucks or so poorer with 90% of their matches on the "Closed" page. Oh well, I guess it's better to just count your losses and move on but I wouldn't mind seeing more people post their REAL stories about their experiences with eHarmony. This site seems like more of an "elaborate scam that couldn't be tried in court as a scam" than anything else.
I am starting to feel the same way, considering going back to the old fashioned way of meeting people... Getting off the computer, getting out and havin some fun and being my true self. After all, im sure there are some decent people on here, but people can be who they want when sitting in a chair on a computer.
 
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AHS,304772 wrote :

it's total bullshit! Seems to me like the only people that have any sort of success with this site are those that are attractive enough to get dates without the use of online dating sites.
eHarmony offers introductions to simalarily like minded people... you still have to attract those matches to you and develop the relationship... eHarmony can't do everything... Spruce up your profile with new pictures and show a sense of humor... You don't have to be and won't be atractive to everyone out there...


90% of your matches closed leaves 10% open.I would not only consider that a success but an opportunity. If you go in with a negative attitude you have already blown it... be positive. You only get out of it what you put into it.
 
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Hi patchwerkadams and Everyone,


Like you, another member started a similar thread on this forum questioning the success of eHarmony based on the number of threads and topics posted here on "Success Stories." I invite you to read peachyteachy's and my two posts to that thread addressing comments similar to your own at the following link:


http://advice.eharmony.com/?view=discussions%2Fsuccess-stories%2Fdid-anybody-notice%2F20080611-075711&start=4


Also regarding claims that "only people that have any sort of success with this site are those that are attractive enough to get dates without the use of online dating sites," Whatever "attractive enough" might mean, I sincerely believe that, if someone were to take a look at the photos and videos of our Successful Members, they will see that individuals of varying levels of "attractiveness" have found the love of their life on eHarmony. Please take the time to view their photos or videos by clicking on the following links:


https://www.eharmony.com/success/stories


https://www.eharmony.com/success/videos


And thanks, DennisWisconsin, for your post, providing others with your perspective, suggestions, and encouragement to remain positive during their search.


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I joined and quit and rejoined eharmony over the course of a year and a half. I was scared out of my mind to reach "open communication" with anyone and was really nervous about online dating. I did get over my nerves and from last Fall thru this past March met about 5 guys in person. Although all but one went past one date, I can see how eHarmony would have matched me with these guys. There were certainly great traits in all of them, just not exactly whatI was looking for.
This past March,I had once again cancelled my membership and was taking a break from the whole internet dating thing. I was paid through for a while so I did continue to receive matches. I got matched with Mike on March 16th and for whatever reason, I decided to pursue this one! Within 3 days Mike and I were openly communicating. We talked for days and I finally got over my nerves and we met. Our first date lasted 14 hrs and we were a "couple" from that moment, on. He's my best friend and I can't imagine my life without him, which sounds so lame, but it's true! We were recently contacted to se if we'd consider being in an eHarmony commercial!!
I think with eHarmony, it's not a perfect science, but it's safe to say that it can and does work. There is no perfect way to meet who you are supposed to be with, but if nothing else, it should help you consider a lot about yourself and what you're looking for! The profile questions took me forever but really made me stop and think about myself so that was a plus.


Give it time, and patience, and walk away for a bit if you have too.
 
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DennisWisconsin,355295 wrote :

AHS,304772 wrote :


it's total bullshit! Seems to me like the only people that have any sort of success with this site are those that are attractive enough to get dates without the use of online dating sites.


eHarmony offers introductions to simalarily like minded people... you still have to attract those matches to you and develop the relationship... eHarmony can't do everything... Spruce up your profile with new pictures and show a sense of humor... You don't have to be and won't be atractive to everyone out there...


90% of your matches closed leaves 10% open.I would not only consider that a success but an opportunity. If you go in with a negative attitude you have already blown it... be positive. You only get out of it what you put into it.
I agree with Dennis. I meet scores of women in a week and sometimes I am physically attracted. However, there is age difference, wrong or lack-of personality, no sense of humor, dumb as a rock or lack of social skills.


I am charming, not bad looking and I can easily make women laugh. I have dated a lot of females. However, I never meet the kind of woman I really want to be with. Do you want just anyone or do you want someone who fits who you are? Just get on Myspace or Craigslists and you can hook you up with "anyone".


Just like the real world, if you want to meet someone special it takes effort. You have to put your best foot forward and be willing to accept rejection... or sit through a totally boring conversation!
 
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I don't have trouble meeting people, its the kind of people that I meet that are the problem, lol. I joined eHarmony to meet someone whose interests more closely mirror my own. I think you have to be open and dump the ideas that you have of who is "right" for you. If those ideas were right on, you wouldn't be on eHarmony.
 
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Hi! I thought I'd pop in with my success story too.


Before I do that, I wanted to add that I think the reason we see so few posts about success stories is that those who are successful (who are pursuing a relationship with someone they met on E-Harmony) are no longer logging into the site! I was logging in today because there were a few old matches requesting communication and I wanted to close those out politely (I stopped receiving matches months ago). And then it occurred to me to pop in here and share my positive experience.


Online dating is a different animal from meeting in person, no question. But it has pros and cons over the traditional method. For me, as a single woman in my 30s, online dating is now the norm! Meeting a single man with a similar lifestyle, age, and background is hard to come by in my city. Using E-Harmony helped me to accelerate the search!


What I liked about E-Harmony (compared to Match which I'd tried before) is the privacy it offers. The only people who will see my profile are those within the matching parameters I set. So I don't have to worry about nosey neighbors or co-workers finding me. It's not a public directory the way Match is. I also like the guided communication whereby I am not being bombarded by pick-up lines in emails from random men (again as with Match). Lastly, I liked the slow process of learning about the other person through the series of questions and answers.


I'd gone out on several dates that I met online in the last year. A couple lasted a few months but no one that clicked. A few months ago, I saw one of my new matches, Bob, and I just had a great feeling. We started communicating and then sending emails and I loved everything he had to say. We had lots in common and a similar way of seeing the world. Eventually we spoke on the phone and it went so well that I felt genuinely excited for the first time in ages! Finally we had our first date and I felt the attraction immediately. The best part? By the time we had our first date, I already knew so much about him and that just deepened the attraction.


Now we've been dating a couple of months and Bob always says he wishes we hadn't met online (its not a fun "how we met" story) but I always say its the outcome that matters! Besides, isn't that the reason we all signed up in the first place?


Keep the faith, it's worth kissing a few frogs first.


Jessica
 
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