Nice Guys Finish Last!!!!

I was not "b*tching" about stuff that went on in high school -- I was sort of going throughmy experiences with counselors, starting with the first one I had in high school. Some have been successful, like the one I had in high school, others were less than successful, like the last one I had.


I could give you tons of things that happened to me in college, or MUCH worse, since getting out, that has drug me down even further -- the entire thing was pretty much a non-stop downward spiral.


You know what's really bullflop about this argument? There are black people that still gripe about being victims of slavery, which has ended for nearly 150 years, and yet I could mention something that happened very recently - such as getting fired from a job for not turning off a coffee burner, which happened just 11 months ago, or a very recent rejection (say in the last three months) and people like you would still gripe.


There's a saying: "if you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem", and my attitude is actually the product of attempting to deal with people likethis for the better part of threedecades, whichhas been the EXACT problem I've had. If I'm not being verbally or physically abused, or teasedby someone, I get ridiculous catch-alls that are a process, not a solution. It's not like you can wake up one day and say "Gee whiz! Life is peachy!". I've tried that. I even tried having a rosary in my pocket -- the first day I had it, my boss spilled coffee on those pants, actually, yes,on the outside of that pocket.

One of the things you have to do to "Take responsibility" for your life is to get out ALL the demons of your past so you can purge every single one of them, be they recent or a quarter of a century old.


And my experiences have been that having a positive attitude about negative events that have happenedin my life has only opened the door to having more negative events happen. How many times have you gone up to a boss that has fired you or a lady who has rejected you and said "Thank you so much. Fire/slap me again, please!"? I didn't think so.


"Maybe it's your whining and self pity that has turned women off. Nothing more unattractive in a man, than a man who is a drama queen. Get over it! Pull your head out of ye arse, and start living! Get out there and get active ... get your blood flowing ... it does wonders for your emotions! When women see you are having a good time, then maybe someone will approach you! When you have decided to rejoin the living, then maybe you will have luck. Fool ..."


This is a wonderful spiral, much like the person hunting for a job and has no experience. "Oh, well, he's miserable because he can't get a date, but he can't get a date because he's miserable". It's a Catch-22, and when a solution is handy, that is PRACTICAL, and not a PROCESS, then I and this guy and everybody who's had bad luck in dating will freakin' do it. Again with the processes and not the practical answers.


And notice her level of security... MAYBE someone will approach you.Honestly, "Maybe" is a word that the lottery would use. Maybe could mean 1 shot in 2 or 1 shot in 154,000,000. How about a little more certainty? I honestly think that word should only apply if the odds are better than 50/50 that it will happen. 35-50%should be "Conceivably", andat 20-35%, the phrase should be "perhaps",10 to 20% is "perchance", 5 to 10% chance should be "possibly", 1% to less than 5% is "It could be..." and below 1% is "Impractically speaking...", instead of using the word "Maybe" as a catch-all which only sells people a false illusion of hope.

I was not "b*tching" about stuff that went on in high school -- I was sort of going throughmy experiences with counselors, starting with the first one I had in high school. Some have been successful, like the one I had in high school, others were less than successful, like the last one I had.


I could give you tons of things that happened to me in college, or MUCH worse, since getting out, that has drug me down even further -- the entire thing was pretty much a non-stop downward spiral.


You know what's really bullflop about this argument? There are black people that still gripe about being victims of slavery, which has ended for nearly 150 years, and yet I could mention something that happened very recently - such as getting fired from a job for not turning off a coffee burner, which happened just 11 months ago, or a very recent rejection (say in the last three months) and people like you would still gripe.


There's a saying: "if you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem", and my attitude is actually the product of attempting to deal with people likethis for the better part of threedecades, whichhas been the EXACT problem I've had. If I'm not being verbally or physically abused, or teasedby someone, I get ridiculous catch-alls that are a process, not a solution. It's not like you can wake up one day and say "Gee whiz! Life is peachy!". I've tried that. I even tried having a rosary in my pocket -- the first day I had it, my boss spilled coffee on those pants, actually, yes,on the outside of that pocket.

One of the things you have to do to "Take responsibility" for your life is to get out ALL the demons of your past so you can purge every single one of them, be they recent or a quarter of a century old.


And my experiences have been that having a positive attitude about negative events that have happenedin my life has only opened the door to having more negative events happen. How many times have you gone up to a boss that has fired you or a lady who has rejected you and said "Thank you so much. Fire/slap me again, please!"? I didn't think so.


"Maybe it's your whining and self pity that has turned women off. Nothing more unattractive in a man, than a man who is a drama queen. Get over it! Pull your head out of ye arse, and start living! Get out there and get active ... get your blood flowing ... it does wonders for your emotions! When women see you are having a good time, then maybe someone will approach you! When you have decided to rejoin the living, then maybe you will have luck. Fool ..."


This is a wonderful spiral, much like the person hunting for a job and has no experience. "Oh, well, he's miserable because he can't get a date, but he can't get a date because he's miserable". It's a Catch-22, and when a solution is handy, that is PRACTICAL, and not a PROCESS, then I and this guy and everybody who's had bad luck in dating will freakin' do it. Again with the processes and not the practical answers.


And notice her level of security... MAYBE someone will approach you.Honestly, "Maybe" is a word that the lottery would use. Maybe could mean 1 shot in 2 or 1 shot in 154,000,000. How about a little more certainty? I honestly think that word should only apply if the odds are better than 50/50 that it will happen. 35-50%should be "Conceivably", andat 20-35%, the phrase should be "perhaps",10 to 20% is "perchance", 5 to 10% chance should be "possibly", 1% to less than 5% is "It could be..." and below 1% is "Impractically speaking...", instead of using the word "Maybe" as a catch-all which only sells people a false illusion of hope.

I was not "b*tching" about stuff that went on in high school -- I was sort of going throughmy experiences with counselors, starting with the first one I had in high school. Some have been successful, like the one I had in high school, others were less than successful, like the last one I had.


I could give you tons of things that happened to me in college, or MUCH worse, since getting out, that has drug me down even further -- the entire thing was pretty much a non-stop downward spiral.


You know what's really bullflop about this argument? There are black people that still gripe about being victims of slavery, which has ended for nearly 150 years, and yet I could mention something that happened very recently - such as getting fired from a job for not turning off a coffee burner, which happened just 11 months ago, or a very recent rejection (say in the last three months) and people like you would still gripe.


There's a saying: "if you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem", and my attitude is actually the product of attempting to deal with people likethis for the better part of threedecades, whichhas been the EXACT problem I've had. If I'm not being verbally or physically abused, or teasedby someone, I get ridiculous catch-alls that are a process, not a solution. It's not like you can wake up one day and say "Gee whiz! Life is peachy!". I've tried that. I even tried having a rosary in my pocket -- the first day I had it, my boss spilled coffee on those pants, actually, yes,on the outside of that pocket.

One of the things you have to do to "Take responsibility" for your life is to get out ALL the demons of your past so you can purge every single one of them, be they recent or a quarter of a century old.


And my experiences have been that having a positive attitude about negative events that have happenedin my life has only opened the door to having more negative events happen. How many times have you gone up to a boss that has fired you or a lady who has rejected you and said "Thank you so much. Fire/slap me again, please!"? I didn't think so.


"Maybe it's your whining and self pity that has turned women off. Nothing more unattractive in a man, than a man who is a drama queen. Get over it! Pull your head out of ye arse, and start living! Get out there and get active ... get your blood flowing ... it does wonders for your emotions! When women see you are having a good time, then maybe someone will approach you! When you have decided to rejoin the living, then maybe you will have luck. Fool ..."


This is a wonderful spiral, much like the person hunting for a job and has no experience. "Oh, well, he's miserable because he can't get a date, but he can't get a date because he's miserable". It's a Catch-22, and when a solution is handy, that is PRACTICAL, and not a PROCESS, then I and this guy and everybody who's had bad luck in dating will freakin' do it. Again with the processes and not the practical answers.


And notice her level of security... MAYBE someone will approach you.Honestly, "Maybe" is a word that the lottery would use. Maybe could mean 1 shot in 2 or 1 shot in 154,000,000. How about a little more certainty? I honestly think that word should only apply if the odds are better than 50/50 that it will happen. 35-50%should be "Conceivably", andat 20-35%, the phrase should be "perhaps",10 to 20% is "perchance", 5 to 10% chance should be "possibly", 1% to less than 5% is "It could be..." and below 1% is "Impractically speaking...", instead of using the word "Maybe" as a catch-all which only sells people a false illusion of hope.

1. a little off topic here? I thought this was about the problem ofnice guys finishing last. Also dont even try to tie this whole sad life story of yours to being a nice guy and not getting some.


2. All you're doing here is making up excuses and whining. Isnt this the exact reason why you are so unattractive to the opposite sex? Yet you keep going on and on about it. Dudeyou're already unattractive in a website,I cant even imaginehow you are in real life.


3. My advice to you? Forget about relationships and finding yourself a woman. Thats the last thing you should think about. Work on yourself first. Prioritize your issues. It seems like you have an employment problem. If you dont then thats good if you do then get a job. I dont care what you have to do or your sorry excuses. As crappy as America is today, its still a land full of opportunities.


4. Once you're financially sustained, then you work on your inner self. Be independently happy. I dont care about your excuses just do it! There is bound to be something you like to do and there is bound to be people who likes the same things. Women like independent guys. That includes being independently happy.


5. Someone already said it, women like happy men not pathetic ones.


6. Relationships are suppose to make you happiER. Be happy by yourself, be happier with someone. If thats not the case, then dont bother being in that relationship. I say do the things you enjoy, there is bound to be someone with similar tastes. Be friends, dont look for a relationship. It'll just happen. Someone enjoys the same things you do, and find yous attractive, next thing you know things get better.


7. A good thing about having a bad past? When women hear about it and see how happy you are, and how you triumped over it, you just notice their eyes sparkle with admiration haha. I speak from experience.


Good luck.


Oh btw if you're gonna reply to my comment with another excuse or whine about how/why you cant do it? Just STFU and give up. Otherwise hearing any positive progress would be nice.

1. The only time I get enraged is when people give phoney baloney catch-all "solutions" like saying "Get a better attitude". at you're saying -- that you don't know how to deal with someone who is unafraid of the truth.


2. A "good moment" for me would be getting a high score on a video game or finding out I had enough money to afford a new game or try to find someone online, compared to the bad things like being in multiple auto accidents or having to be subject to a perfectionist's criticisms on a constant basis.


3. II work my butt off and never complain largely because every time I've stood up for myself, it's led to me being shown the door. It's humiliating but I do it.


4. Why is it okay for you to not do something you don't know how to do but it's not okay for me? in case you're wondering why I'm bringing this point up,I'm working on an interruption of hypocrisy...


5. Honestly, is sitting down and taking it like a female doghow women got the right to vote in 1920? No. Is this how Civil Rights came to be in the '60s?


6. SoI am to assumethat "pathetic" people actually choose this route instead of having it forced upon them?