PY is offline PY Post #141  October 21,2008, 9:26am

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richp is offline richp Post #142  October 22,2008, 11:24am
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Oh, where to start? I think the whole "nice guys finish last" and "why do women love jerks" debate completely misses the point. Women need to be women, and men need to be men. Period. It's a primal thing. It's inescapable. Women who love jerks are showing us that they are willing to put up with almost anything to be with masculine energy. They don't love the jerk...they probably hate him. They are attracted to the man. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being nice. You've noticed in the movies that nice guys get the girl in the end. But if you have really studied his actions, there's no mistaking that the nice guy is a man. Too many nice guys are doormats...they carry a feminine energy. Why would a heterosexual woman be attracted to that? Be confident. Be assertive. Take charge. Show direction. Maintain control. That's what makes women feel protected, safe, secure and loved. That's the man that women are attracted too. If you can do that, being nice will net you an incredible package that will drive women crazy. But just being nice isn't going to attract a woman to be anything more than your friend.
 
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Nice guys attract the women that need you. I met my ex in Jan 07. She was getting her home repoed cause her ex husband didn't pay the house while her and her 2 kids were living in it. She tried to get an apartment but couldn't qualify. Her Expedition she was driving was repoed too. Her ex husband did some bad stuff to her and her ex boyfriend before me treated her bad. i fell for her and her kids so i decided to buy a house in a different city. Now I commute 45 minutes to work. i bought a nice house so we could all live together. She was still dealing with issues with her ex, but since the nice guy that I am I helped her with picking up the kids and being a father figure. We moved in April 07. Nice house, 3 bedrooms, 2 bath, swimming pool, hot tub, in a cul de sac where her kids could play in the street. In July 07 we find out she's pregnant. We had our child in March 08. She moved out Sept 08. During our relationship we had normal arguements due to her not understanding me. It got so heated I ended up calling her the B word a few times, saying this is my house and used the C word once. I know it was wrong but her issues that she hasn't handled came out. The nice guy that I am I should have realized it before we moved in togehter. The things I said to her were things that was said to her from her ex. I never hit or or treated her kids bad. She told me today that I am no different than the rest. I still take her kids to school twice a week. She talks to me like I'm her ex. I did alot for her and she doesn't see that. So now I live in my house alone. I see my daughter 5 times a week. I can't do anything for her because she has to deal with her issues. what's sad is she'll never learn to deal with it or appreciate the nice guy that I am.
 
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Nice guys attract the women that need you. I met my ex in Jan 07. She was getting her home repoed cause her ex husband didn't pay the house while her and her 2 kids were living in it. She tried to get an apartment but couldn't qualify. Her Expedition she was driving was repoed too. Her ex husband did some bad stuff to her and her ex boyfriend before me treated her bad. i fell for her and her kids so i decided to buy a house in a different city. Now I commute 45 minutes to work. i bought a nice house so we could all live together. She was still dealing with issues with her ex, but since the nice guy that I am I helped her with picking up the kids and being a father figure. We moved in April 07. Nice house, 3 bedrooms, 2 bath, swimming pool, hot tub, in a cul de sac where her kids could play in the street. In July 07 we find out she's pregnant. We had our child in March 08. She moved out Sept 08. During our relationship we had normal arguements due to her not understanding me. It got so heated I ended up calling her the B word a few times, saying this is my house and used the C word once. I know it was wrong but her issues that she hasn't handled came out. The nice guy that I am I should have realized it before we moved in togehter. The things I said to her were things that was said to her from her ex. I never hit or or treated her kids bad. She told me today that I am no different than the rest. I still take her kids to school twice a week. She talks to me like I'm her ex. I did alot for her and she doesn't see that. So now I live in my house alone. I see my daughter 5 times a week. I can't do anything for her because she has to deal with her issues. what's sad is she'll never learn to deal with it or appreciate the nice guy that I am.
Pal, Are you sure you're a nice guy? What I mean is, are you sure you aren't simply a "Mr. Nice Guy"? Your behavior would hint that you might be part of the latter.


Nice guys typically won't use the language towards a partner that you did. "Mr. Nice Guys", however, will blow up every now and again due to deep-seeded resentments caused by unidentified and/or unfulfilled needs.


Should you care to learn more, you can visit http://www.nomoremrniceguy.com/


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