The Relationship Killers: 8 Things you Should Never Say

The Relationship Killers: 8 Things you Should Never Say

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nuttin2no1 is offline nuttin2no1 Post #81  February 29,2008, 5:11am
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I have to say, I have said something that was not good at all.... My boyfriend asked me if he was the best one time after a love making session....Im an honest person so I told him no, and told him who was. From then on he never let me forget what I said. Personally I feel its his own fault for even asking a question like that. But if it EVER comes up again....I'll just say " Ask me no questions and I'll tell you no lies."
 
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AnnaMay is offline AnnaMay Post #82  February 29,2008, 6:23am
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de_zeye_ner,62965 wrote :
"Do you think you could do something about your breath?" seems to be another relationship-killer. For some reason there are a lot of people who are not in the habit of flossing their teeth regularly. And it's true...you can't change a man. If a person in their 40s is not in the habit of taking care of their teeth, they probably never WILL be. I've had potential relationships "SOUR" because of this more than once.
Honey, before we go to bed tonight, lets BOTH brush our teeth, ok, sweet??

Some folks from med, or body chemistry, just have this situation.

My husband does, and we have been married for 22 yrs. He is NOT on drugs, but it is the

chemistry in the body, plus he is on med. So, this is the major factor.

Be nice, sweet, and calm..and most of all, positive and calm. Reactions all depends on our words and calmness.

Bless you as you try these words, it does work, believe me.

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fatimaobando is offline fatimaobando Post #83  February 29,2008, 6:24am
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wow, well the infamous " you knew i was this way when you met me" always comes to play, when someone asks me to stop smoking! i know that smoking is not the best habit, but i cant help it, and if someone doesnt like it, and asks me to stop, then i cant help but get defensive on the issue at hand! i know it's wrong now, but it has some truth, if you met me this way, it doesnt mean that im not going to change, but if you saw me smoking aroudn you when we first met, or when we were, "talking" about having a relationship in the first place, then why get involved with me if you "dont like women who smoke"!?! answer me that, and i wont say the infamous " you knew i was this way when you met me"!
 
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mad1 is offline mad1 Post #84  February 29,2008, 6:58am
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here one it me not you!!! it over dead give away. some women are so mean that they won't give you the time of the day!!!! and if you with your other only for sex you sux!!!! you come from a women so you should treat them right and not hurt the one you love!!!!



some men are dog's slaping the one they love to show they are mensick punks!!!!
 
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LeftFoot is offline LeftFoot Post #85  February 29,2008, 8:09am
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everlastingsearcher,64315 wrote :
The worst thing anyone I've dated ever said to me..... After 3 months of dating, friendship, passion, companionship, and just plain feeling close enough to my boyfriend to make me feel like " Thank you! My search is finally over!" He says... " Well, I'm still deeply in love with my ex, and your really the first woman I've dated since we split up 2 yrs ago". Talk about devastating.... then the clincher that made me want to puke, he says... " I still want to hang out with you and your my best friend". " I should have never let it go this far" Killers huh folks?
I know how you feel! Someone I 'thought' I was very close to and loved told me out of the blue "I am in love with my ex, and always will be. Do you have a problem with that?" I was devastated and heartbroken. He continually talked about how he loved his ex and was not the one who wanted to end the relationship. I would never want someone i cared deeply about or that I was in love with to think they were second best or would always come behind someone else. It really crushed me, looking back at it now, I could almost slap myself for not saying anything. Of course I was more concerned with his feelings than my own, so I said "No problem". It created all sorts of doubts and ill feelings in me, not to mention how painful it all was to go through.

Anyways, to make along story short, we are now friends, and that is all we will ever be. But I learned a good lesson from it, when the opportunity arises to speak up for yourself, you owe it to yourself to do so. And don't never get involved with someone who has not grieved or resolved their previous relationship -- someone always puts themselves up for getting hurt. Not an easy lesson to learn.

 
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nicole5,62664 wrote :
The phrase that my boyfriend says that really bothers me is his response to my daily question when he returns from work, "How was your day sweetie", I say? To which he always replys, "loooooong". That's it that is all he says, long, no details, no interesting interactions, nothing. Surely something went on during his day that he could elaborate on. I come home and I have an overload of information to tell him and I never understand why he has nothing?
It sounds like he is not happy with somethig in his life. It might be his job, the people that he works with/for or it might be you. Try to talk with him and see whats bugging him. You migt be surprised.*
 
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My husband and I have complete role reversal...he always wants to offer up every little detail about his day and I am notorious for one word answers. I don't love my job and all I want to do is leave it at work at the end of the day and not give it anymore thought until the next work day. After almost 6 years, he is finally starting to understand this. Also, I work and go to graduate school FT...I am almost never home. All I want is a few minutes of peace and quiet when I get home.
 
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My boyfriend knows that i taught myself to tell time when I was 16 because I never learned when I was younger. The other night we were figuring out how much time we would need to get to our dinner reservation, I read the clock wrong and he said "well its a good thing one of us knows how to tell time." It just hurt that he was rubbing my faults in my face, simply because I didnt learn things the way he did.
 
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nicole5,62664 wrote :
The phrase that my boyfriend says that really bothers me is his response to my daily question when he returns from work, "How was your day sweetie", I say? To which he always replys, "loooooong". That's it that is all he says, long, no details, no interesting interactions, nothing. Surely something went on during his day that he could elaborate on. I come home and I have an overload of information to tell him and I never understand why he has nothing?
Nicole:

That is just a common difference between men and women. As men, we feel that "loooooong" is the perfect answer. Other men understand that it means, "It was a crappy day, but I would like to put it behind me and move on." Unfortunately, many women don't understand that and feel that the male isn't communicating. It stinks that males and females don't speak the same language, but, it iswhat it is. For example, have you ever been at a socialfunction where the men and the women split up into different rooms? From the female room there will be laughter, voices, and no doubt that the room is occupied. From themale room, you may hear a cheer now and then when a team scores or hear the TV get turned up because the women are "so loud". At the end of the night, when the couples get back together to leave,both people had a good time and decided who they really liked and who they would rather not see again, and many times, it is the same people.Men and women communicate differently, but our differences are what attracts us to each other.
 
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I have to say you know when it's time to go...........either during or after the fight when he turns around and tells you "well if you don't like it, there's the door"! You know if you stay it's nothing but down hill from there on.
 
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