The Relationship Killers: 8 Things you Should Never Say

The Relationship Killers: 8 Things you Should Never Say

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LuckyLindaLou is offline LuckyLindaLou Post #621  December 31,2010, 5:28pm
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How about this one....."I'll call you later!" Not knowing at the time that his "later" and your "later" was not the same later word!
 
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I have done a lot of reading through this post and found a lot of information provided by women as insightful, and I have even found something’s that I do and not even realize it.  I’m going to make some changes to what I do now lol.  One thing that really turns me off of a woman is when she uses sex to get what she wants out of a relationship! Sex is something done between 2 people who care about each other not to get a new pair of shoes, or a shopping spree at Macy's.  And I don’t approve of men who are only looking for a booty call... Some of us here and on other online sites are looking to find someone to have a long and meaningful relationship and guys like that make it extremely hard to find a girl who will open up to us and let us in.  I have been on my share of first dates after my divorce and common problems most of the women I have talked to either the guy was only looking for sex, or he was verbally or physically abusive... Again I DO NOT APPROVE THAT TYPE OF BEHAVIOR.  How am I going to get a shot with a nice girl if all she is thinking about is he here because he only wants sex? Or is he going to get violent with me? Eharmony has some great advice on first dates you definitely want to check it out.Another thing that bothers me about some women is when you do finally decide to meet and before we meet she has already decided that we live to far apart or she really doesn’t have the time in her life right now for a relationship... If you knew this before hand don’t agree to go out it makes you look like a gold digger! In this economy wasting money is not something most people want to do, I Have never let a woman pay for anything on dates, if we are in a relationship it is different, but knowing you are not interested before hand and still accepting an Invitation to go out on a date is wrong, one party is looking for love and the other is looking to have hang out and get a free meal. After a First date if your not interested don’t avoid phone calls or texts, Grow up act like a Lady and pick up the phone and say " After meeting you in person I don’t feel any chemistry between us" Or if the guy did something  that really turned you off let him know, it might be who he is or it might have been first date jitter's, I hear all the time I want a guy who will not lie to me, and yet if you turn around and lie to a guy why would you expect anyone to tell you the truth. It goes back to the golden rule "Treat other's how you want to be treated".  
 
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I have done a lot of reading through this post and found a lot of information provided by women as insightful, and I have even found something’s that I do and not even realize it.  I’m going to make some changes to what I do now lol.  One thing that really turns me off of a woman is when she uses sex to get what she wants out of a relationship! Sex is something done between 2 people who care about each other not to get a new pair of shoes, or a shopping spree at Macy's.  And I don’t approve of men who are only looking for a booty call... Some of us here and on other online sites are looking to find someone to have a long and meaningful relationship and guys like that make it extremely hard to find a girl who will open up to us and let us in.  I have been on my share of first dates after my divorce and common problems most of the women I have talked to either the guy was only looking for sex, or he was verbally or physically abusive... Again I DO NOT APPROVE THAT TYPE OF BEHAVIOR.  How am I going to get a shot with a nice girl if all she is thinking about is he here because he only wants sex? Or is he going to get violent with me? Eharmony has some great advice on first dates you definitely want to check it out.Another thing that bothers me about some women is when you do finally decide to meet and before we meet she has already decided that we live to far apart or she really doesn’t have the time in her life right now for a relationship... If you knew this before hand don’t agree to go out it makes you look like a gold digger! In this economy wasting money is not something most people want to do, I Have never let a woman pay for anything on dates, if we are in a relationship it is different, but knowing you are not interested before hand and still accepting an Invitation to go out on a date is wrong, one party is looking for love and the other is looking to have hang out and get a free meal. After a First date if your not interested don’t avoid phone calls or texts, Grow up act like a Lady and pick up the phone and say " After meeting you in person I don’t feel any chemistry between us" Or if the guy did something  that really turned you off let him know, it might be who he is or it might have been first date jitter's, I hear all the time I want a guy who will not lie to me, and yet if you turn around and lie to a guy why would you expect anyone to tell you the truth. It goes back to the golden rule "Treat other's how you want to be treated".  
 
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re: Nicole5

Play John Prine's "Angel from Montgomery" for your boyfriend. Bonnie Raitt also has a good version of the song. And there is a CD of the Prine and Raitt singing it. Sounds like he stepped out of the song...............Peace
 
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What do you think of these phrases? My ex used to say:  that is your problem and to each his own. no wonder we are divorced!
 
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Not only did my ex use the "You knew what you were getting into when we started dating" phrase, but he also told me, "You should have basement level expectations." he was so concerned that I would have all these expectations of a boyfriend that he wouldnt be able to fill, so he told me point blank so he wouldn't have to do any work! Another one, "it is what it is" during emotional talks. Next time I will find a mate who will be more compatible with me and want to do things to exceed expectations!
 
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nicole5 wrote :
The phrase that my boyfriend says that really bothers me is his response to my daily question when he returns from work, "How was your day sweetie", I say? To which he always replys, "loooooong". That's it that is all he says, long, no details, no interesting interactions, nothing. Surely something went on during his day that he could elaborate on. I come home and I have an overload of information to tell him and I never understand why he has nothing?
Becaue he's been beaten around all day. Unless you're the owner of the business, all day long you have people looking over you, telling you what to do, telling you where to go, yelling at you, with seldom praise. He has to put up with this all day while trying to maintain his pride and manhood. He comes home every day with dents in his armor. The last thing he wants to do when he comes through the door is talk about it. He wants to relax. Have a beer. Watch TV. Think about everything EXCEPT his crappy job and how he was treated that day.
 
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