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Dugl - Experience...it allows you to recognize a mistake when you make it again

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Stranger than truth.....

1. On a 1st date with a woman, she proceded to tell me about the 15 guys she had sex with over the previous year...in great detail......not cool

2. A friend of mine told a girl at a bar about the bet he made with his buddies that he could get in her pants. They got married this past Spring.

3. A guy I work with actually had sex with his gf's Mother...and came to me for advice on confessing ?
- September 12th, 2009, 12:20 pm
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I was talking to this guy through the eharmony online communication and now he stopped talking. I know I read the book he's not that into you and frankly I sick of it! I want complete honesty not the excuse man.

- September 20th, 2009, 01:48 pm
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Sarah wrote :
Nicole5Maybe your boyfriend just needs a minute to get home and relax. Maybe he isn't always ready to quickly talk about his day yet just because you're asking. Men can be like sometimes. Also maybe he needs time to himself before he hears you overload information on him. When in a relationship, both people involved need to attuned in to how their partners act in the relationship. Maybe ifyou wait andlet him volunteer andtell you how his day went before asking, he may be more open to responding. Next time he comes home, try something different, prepare a nice soothing drink for him, coffee hot chocolate whatever, help him relax in other ways, massage his shoulders, then after you do him, sit and let him massage you. Let physical touches and deeds do the talking and you may find that you may get a different response.
Oh how true this is. I fly helicopters and drive fuel tanker trucks 14 hours a day. Although I love both, when I get home the last thing I want is to disseminate each minute verbally to anyone. Even if it's a good day. Often the day will be good, but the stress of the traffic-clogged drive home is enough to make me want to slit my wrists. Which of course would be self defeating, but you get my point.
- October 3rd, 2009, 12:57 am
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don't sweat the small stuff.

- November 9th, 2009, 10:39 pm
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timing wrote :
I was talking to this guy through the eharmony online communication and now he stopped talking. I know I read the book he's not that into you and frankly I sick of it! I want complete honesty not the excuse man.
You should introduce him to my ex-date. She read that book also.
- November 10th, 2009, 11:23 am
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At least this article is for both males and females.  I've read too many dating books and they all say in someway that everything rests in the woman's choices.  Gagg me!!  I'm so tired of people telling me I'm wrong and to watch what I say or what topics I should or shouldn't discuss so I don't scare him off.  Men are supposed to be these chest pounding hunter types, but I have to walk on eggshells or they'll get "scared away".  Did I mention that they get to do and say whatever they want (well maybe it was implied since it's supposedly all about them). All the doo's and don'ts are really getting to me.  I'm still single so I can't tell you if any of it is right or wrong as none of it has worked for me and believe me I've tried.

- November 10th, 2009, 03:56 pm
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"stock phrases said that eventually led to a breakup?" Whew!... yeah, I mentioned wanting a divorce to my husband during a heated discussion, and he took me literally.  Now, he throws it back in my face.  Its been several years now and we haven't been able to move on with eachother or with anyone else?  I am still in love with him, and he refuses to discuss his feelings with me, so..  I feel as though he set out to teach me a lesson and just never came back!  I wish that I'd read your article in time to make a difference.  How I would love to go back in time.  : )

- November 12th, 2009, 08:55 am
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I quess I have the most wonderful date,,, we have been going together 10 months,, and he lives almost 2 hrs. from me and works 3 jobs but we talk each night and see each other for about 3 days at a time, . about 6 weeks when he comes.. But we never argue and we just like to make each other happy when we are together... HE  just takes time off and comes and stays 3 to 4 days and we go out and fun together.  

- November 18th, 2009, 12:44 pm
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Dear Nicole5...to ad to Sydneys list read the total pop psych book by John Gray, and encourage your partner to read it BTW, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus".

Then allow your partner space to decompress with the TV or a punching bag in the basement or, as my husband did, an hour pounding on his drums after work.

Women talk situations out/men go in their caves and do whatever they do there.

this can become a fun interpersonal thing....when I'd come home and gripe about someone, husband would pound his chest and say "Me Fix". When he came home looking grouchy I'd point to the music room and say "To your cave"

Of course I didn't want him to fix it, just to listen, but men fix things- thats what they do and we have to love them just for that.....it became a joke between us. It can for you also.
- November 19th, 2009, 05:57 pm
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Words can be killers.So I lost my husband trough words in letters.Now we are divorced and I am unable to help myself:to speak true,to use words without reservation,refusing to be in all heat...I am sorry to be unable to go stright...And the most fighting words from me  written to my husband were:you forced me to go to other men...It was true,but maybe to cruel to be spoken or written for spouse...And he respond with killing words too:you never come back to me,I am seriuos...Words ,that broke our relationship are simple,but killing...I can never be back,now 10 years,when ended this relationship,but there is some thing wrong,what cant be repeared...I cant go over it.And more,I am afraid to write openhearty letters.Just that...

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