The Relationship Killers: 8 Things you Should Never Say

The Relationship Killers: 8 Things you Should Never Say

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justlove is offline justlove Post #481  March 20,2009, 2:52pm
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The problem I am having on dating right now.... I am over weight. Not really large but not healthy either. Now when I cruse the profiles, I look at the guys face pic and see if there is chemistry with the face. Then if there isI move on to the read the profile. With every typo I lose interest. Our profile is our foot in the door and should be presented some what well. At least 50% of the profiles I read are ironic. These guys are not physically fit but want women that are. Now ya, I would not mind a six pack on my man, but to require it is obserd! I would rather have a man that is overweight and treats me wellthat I click with, than a man that I know will leave me if I am skinny when I meet him and that will leave me if I gain weight. Talk about presure. With a skinny woman, there is a lot more temptation coming her way. So you had better have those six pack abs to keep that woman. Or else wise up andnot be so judgemental and loosen up you standards orget in shape yourself. So the moral to this story is: If you can't spell and don't have a six pack good luck.
Ann. Did you check your own posting here for typos/misspellings?
I think her point was very clear, Not skinny, not typo correct. By the way sir, how is your six pack holding up these days?
 
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Another phrase to avoid saying is:





''I don't love you, but I do like you alot. This is as close as to love as I will get''.


My b/f of 9 mos. said this to me once. I would rather die instead of hearing this.
 
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I worked in advnaced patient care . . . and then an hour+ drive home. How was your day . . . well, someone barfed on me, then I treated someone who hand dry gangrene, but it stilled smelled awfull. Someone had to pass gas, whilst they were getting scanned, and another had a small bladder and couldn't wait. The scan in the emergency room was bloody and quite messy, and I was snagged to scan a man who had foil wrapped around his head. He wouldn't let me scan him because he thought I was going to suck out his energy waves . . . Yeah - A GREAT DAY! How was yours. Ladies . . . give your guy a moment when he comes home . . . Please. Sometimes we REALLY DID HAVE a tough day.
Its the tough days we really need to know about to understand the feelings you bring to the home. Yes we can laugh about the good days but when my guy tells me about the tough days he's had, its then that i can sympathise and comfort him and give him the feel good love that he needs. (it is true though that i give him at least half an hour to unwind.)
 
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How about the term, "It is what it is." This phrase is a staple of my vocabulary diet. I use the term when I reailze there is a situation that is upsetting me but I know I either do not have the right to, can not, and/or am unwilling to invest the time to change it. Unfortunately, I have been accused of seeming cold and unemotional when I use the phrase, but that is my way of disconnecting cleanly from the problem. Essentially, what I am thinking is, I can't influence this so I choose not to be upset by it anymore. Most of the time it works, when it doesn't I find it's because I didn't talk about it enough. How do I communicate my real feelings instead of being labled cold hearted or unemotional?
 
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I have to say, I have said something that was not good at all.... My boyfriend asked me if he was the best one time after a love making session....Im an honest person so I told him no, and told him who was. From then on he never let me forget what I said. Personally I feel its his own fault for even asking a question like that. But if it EVER comes up again....I'll just say " Ask me no questions and I'll tell you no lies."
Okay, wow! How incredibly insensitive you are. I wonder just what you intended to do with that comment. You had to have at least weighed it in your mind for a second or two before blurting that one out. What were you thinking? Just because he asks that doesn't mean you have to cut him like a knife. Geeeeesh. I wouldn't let you live that one down, neither. I bet you he doesn't let you know half of his world anymore...
OH so now she should lie to boost his ego, what happened to truth and honesty that you all crave so much.Pleeeese give us a break. If the truth hurts Dont ask
 
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justlove,540195 wrote :

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I worked in advnaced patient care . . . and then an hour+ drive home. How was your day . . . well, someone barfed on me, then I treated someone who hand dry gangrene, but it stilled smelled awfull. Someone had to pass gas, whilst they were getting scanned, and another had a small bladder and couldn't wait. The scan in the emergency room was bloody and quite messy, and I was snagged to scan a man who had foil wrapped around his head. He wouldn't let me scan him because he thought I was going to suck out his energy waves . . . Yeah - A GREAT DAY! How was yours. Ladies . . . give your guy a moment when he comes home . . . Please. Sometimes we REALLY DID HAVE a tough day.


Its the tough days we really need to know about to understand the feelings you bring to the home. Yes we can laugh about the good days but when my guy tells me about the tough days he's had, its then that i can sympathise and comfort him and give him the feel good love that he needs. (it is true though that i give him at least half an hour to unwind.)






I absolutely love your response and I SWEAR that you are nearly exact in describing what we need in a situation like that. And by WE I mean us mature adult males who understand how to provide. Sometimes we need to be by ourselves. It does not mean we dislike you in anyway. We need to be alone for a few minutes; maybe even a couple of hours before we are ready to engage in the type of dialogue you are able to provide for us. And you are right we absolutely need that type of communication with each other to have a loving and emotionally connected relationship. But what you may not understand is that we typically react to stressful situations, ESPECIALLY like the type described above, in an aggressive manner. We put our war faces on and channel that energy to make the proper decisions, actions, etc. we need to make during the day. All we are asking is for a few moments to return to our home and calm down after the days battles so we can enjoy your loving presents in a calmer state.
 
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justlove,540240 wrote :

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nuttin2no1,65106 wrote :
I have to say, I have said something that was not good at all.... My boyfriend asked me if he was the best one time after a love making session....Im an honest person so I told him no, and told him who was. From then on he never let me forget what I said. Personally I feel its his own fault for even asking a question like that. But if it EVER comes up again....I'll just say " Ask me no questions and I'll tell you no lies."
Okay, wow! How incredibly insensitive you are. I wonder just what you intended to do with that comment. You had to have at least weighed it in your mind for a second or two before blurting that one out. What were you thinking? Just because he asks that doesn't mean you have to cut him like a knife. Geeeeesh. I wouldn't let you live that one down, neither. I bet you he doesn't let you know half of his world anymore...


OH so now she should lie to boost his ego, what happened to truth and honesty that you all crave so much.Pleeeese give us a break. If the truth hurts Dont ask
She doesnt have to lie, but use her brain and be tactful not tacky. It would amase me to see either of you with any man long.
 
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It's not always necessary to be truthful to the point of inflicting hurt. IMHO when in that sort of situation diplomacy is best. If we're talking about someone who you love and loves you in a moment of shared passion a response might be something like, "baby, you know you rock my world". Ego's can be delicate. Geesh I can't imagine how inadequate I would feel if my partner said no so and so was much better. Oooowwie!
 
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It's not always necessary to be truthful to the point of inflicting hurt. IMHO when in that sort of situation diplomacy is best. If we're talking about someone who you love and loves you in a moment of shared passion a response might be something like, "baby, you know you rock my world". Ego's can be delicate. Geesh I can't imagine how inadequate I would feel if my partner said no so and so was much better. Oooowwie!
 
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justlove,540240 wrote :

daiseysamson,65859 wrote :


nuttin2no1,65106 wrote :
I have to say, I have said something that was not good at all.... My boyfriend asked me if he was the best one time after a love making session....Im an honest person so I told him no, and told him who was. From then on he never let me forget what I said. Personally I feel its his own fault for even asking a question like that. But if it EVER comes up again....I'll just say " Ask me no questions and I'll tell you no lies."
Okay, wow! How incredibly insensitive you are. I wonder just what you intended to do with that comment. You had to have at least weighed it in your mind for a second or two before blurting that one out. What were you thinking? Just because he asks that doesn't mean you have to cut him like a knife. Geeeeesh. I wouldn't let you live that one down, neither. I bet you he doesn't let you know half of his world anymore...


OH so now she should lie to boost his ego, what happened to truth and honesty that you all crave so much.Pleeeese give us a break. If the truth hurts Dont ask
I would suspect the authours of the first story and then the second comment were quite young and thus lacking in what most would say wisdom. If you continue to behave in such a manner I assure you that one day you will end up pushing everyone close to you away and most likely never experience a close and personal relationship with someone.
 
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