The Relationship Killers: 8 Things you Should Never Say

The Relationship Killers: 8 Things you Should Never Say

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CJJACKS is offline CJJACKS Post #201  May 3,2008, 7:49pm
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I'M SORRY YOU FEEL THAT WAY!
 
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beloved0000,62625 wrote :
The infamous..."I didn't know what I was doing when I was persuing you. Can't we just be friends?" Didn't know what you were doing? I think you knew exactly what you were doing. You were getting your needs met and I was getting used to meet those needs. I was being driven like a used car, blindsided because I believed you! It's happened so many times now, I just kinda expect it. It's really hard to believe someone in a relationship when you know this is coming. Or better yet, "I want to keep my options open." Well honey, I ain't nobody's option. I was your one and only until you decided you couldn't take the heat. Responsibilty in a relationship is what it's all about. Too many looking for a way out on their way in and not enough serious about really making it work.
I guess people don't like to ask the right questions when getting to know someone in fear of scaring them off , well I do . Better now than later, through these rough questions, give the other person some time to think about it and let they know that their honesty will make them a friend sort of. That the payoff for both parties.Smile and be charming through the relationship process, you will be find people most people can't help but give you a good answer.
 
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justlikeyou,82740 wrote :
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The problem I am having on dating right now.... I am over weight. Not really large but not healthy either. Now when I cruse the profiles, I look at the guys face pic and see if there is chemistry with the face. Then if there isI move on to the read the profile. With every typo I lose interest. Our profile is our foot in the door and should be presented some what well. At least 50% of the profiles I read are ironic. These guys are not physically fit but want women that are. Now ya, I would not mind a six pack on my man, but to require it is obserd! I would rather have a man that is overweight and treats me wellthat I click with, than a man that I know will leave me if I am skinny when I meet him and that will leave me if I gain weight. Talk about presure. With a skinny woman, there is a lot more temptation coming her way. So you had better have those six pack abs to keep that woman. Or else wise up andnot be so judgemental and loosen up you standards orget in shape yourself. So the moral to this story is: If you can't spell and don't have a six pack good luck.
Ann. Did you check your own posting here for typos/misspellings?
widowdad - thanks! My red pen is back in its holster![img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-sealed.gif[/img]
Well my comment is to myself "if you want a tropy you are going to get to buy it". These people who will go their entire life worrying about another person stepping in their place because it will happen. Or better have a breakdown. (females) Or men with these ideas of themselves the yellow pages post tropies purchases. People get real your heart depends on it. I'm 53 and body looks better than some high school girl but this is not what a relationship is about. Good luck in you pursuits and don't give up.
 
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nicole5,62664 wrote :
The phrase that my boyfriend says that really bothers me is his response to my daily question when he returns from work, "How was your day sweetie", I say? To which he always replys, "loooooong". That's it that is all he says, long, no details, no interesting interactions, nothing. Surely something went on during his day that he could elaborate on. I come home and I have an overload of information to tell him and I never understand why he has nothing?
It seems like it was a boring day. I don't think he is enjoying his work. Therefore, you should acknowlege that by paraphrasing what he said. Uh it seems like work is boring. What would like to see happening that isnn't? or What is making it so boring?
 
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whatever,that one just should be banned,

never criticise your partners ex, most likely thier not proud of that past relationship eithor, don't remind your partner.
 
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One of the things I most hate hearing my husband sayis, "People shouldn't have to work this hard in a relationship" everytime we have a 'discussion.' To me, it's a cop out. What he's really saying is, "Shut up and quit bothering me." Myresponse to his perennial comment is, "If you aren't willing to work in this relationship, why did you pursue it in the first place, and more importantly, why are you still here?" After being dished that comment by him so many times over the years, and I have to admit I think he's very lazy anyway, I should be asking myself 'Why am I still here?' "People shouldn't have to work this hard in a relationship my a--!" Just read the blogs! Relationships ARE a lot of work.
 
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youll all die alone!!!!!!!
 
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youll all die alone!!!!!
 
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The phrases stated a vital
 
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notsoquietobserver,99023 wrote :
One of the things I most hate hearing my husband sayis, "People shouldn't have to work this hard in a relationship" everytime we have a 'discussion.' To me, it's a cop out. What he's really saying is, "Shut up and quit bothering me." Myresponse to his perennial comment is, "If you aren't willing to work in this relationship, why did you pursue it in the first place, and more importantly, why are you still here?" After being dished that comment by him so many times over the years, and I have to admit I think he's very lazy anyway, I should be asking myself 'Why am I still here?' "People shouldn't have to work this hard in a relationship my a--!" Just read the blogs! Relationships ARE a lot of work.
I once dated a guy who said to me that relationships shouldn't be work.

Now this same guy would spend almost all of his free time practicing his craft (he was an electric bass player). He worked hard on his instrument and expected the relationship to just "happen'.

I think that is the single most cause of destruction in relationship with men having that attitude. That relationships don't take work. Relationships consists of living beings how is it supposed to stay healthy and strong if it isn't nourished?
 
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