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eHarmony Parenting contributor Hal Edward Runkel looks at the challenge of single parenting and what their strength can teach us all.
- August 21st, 2007, 03:14 pm
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being the single, custodial parent means being the repsonsible one, careful planning for a date so the "kids don't know"...we have to protect them ( the children) we are already the super-mom or super-dad, and if they find out we aren't so "super" their whole world is off kilter, it's never easy, it is always rewarding to find out that they want me to be happy too...
- September 11th, 2007, 12:05 am
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Met a nice woman who had a daughter and she was very interesting. Learned all about her life and what her day to day activities were. Difficulties of raising her child alone and how difficult it is to find a date. Interesting tangible stories of a single parent.

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- September 16th, 2007, 08:05 pm
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As a single parent you have to do it all. Fitting dating into an already overcrowded schedule seems daunting. It's taken me some time to realize I have to make time for me. Single parents, particularly custodial, tend to give all to their kids and not have much leftover for themselves let alone another person. So dating requires a great desire to be able ti fit it into their lives.
- September 17th, 2007, 12:07 am
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Being a single parent of three Teens has been hard, imagen all in high school and one ready to graduate, I can't find my self looking for someone to fit in the schedule, Like debbie said i find myself giving more to my kids than to myself. Sometime I gather with family or friend but maybe its once or twice a month, or special occasions
- September 17th, 2007, 11:33 pm
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I am a single Mum to a great little boy, hsi Dad gave up custody of him but I believe he gave up more. While it is harder for me to get out on my own I wouldn't change it for the world. I get one chance to raise him and I will do what is best for him and I will take a backseat for now. I do however get out to meet a few people but so far, I have been disappointed so I am getting alot more picky. I would love to share my life with someone but it would seem for now, it is not meant to be.
- September 18th, 2007, 10:43 pm
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I am a single parent to an 11 year old daughter. I have to say this whole dating thing is a nightmare. You must find time to schedule the date in. Between parenting, work and being the cook, maid, and running errands not to mention homework and support of the little one. There is no time for me much less a date. I find I am having a hard time balancing dating with my life. I do not want people around my daughter but trying to make the date feel like you have time for them becomes challenging. I do want to find that special someone but the people I find understand about being a parent first are not the ones I want around me much less my kid. I know there is hope though. My mom was a single parent to 4 kids when she married the man that is my dad. Men who are good, caring and normal do exist they are just hard to find. Then again when you find one they are definately worth the time you took to find them and the effort you give.
- September 19th, 2007, 04:08 pm
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I'm a single parent having diff time dating and keeping someone around....

I'm just gone from f/t to p/t work in the last three years left my full time job to go part time to be there more for my son and my current boyfriend whom just broke up with me after 3 years and we met on here.

Why is it so hard to be accepted as a package deal can anyone answer this>>> I still live at home becuase It's convient for me since sitter's are expensive and that's the way I was brought up. Till your married. Is that so bad? Plus live in grandparents to help out is great in my opinion. Single parenting and dating help are there any good men out there left that dont' mind mom's with kids?
- September 22nd, 2007, 12:57 am
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Wow, Dena hit the nail on the head! I am a single mom of two children. There are so many times I wish I had someone to share my life with, but the kids have to come first. When a parent dates, they are bringing a stranger into their children’s lives. I am sure there are times when this works out wonderfully for all involved, but it is a scary situation for me. And to find time for dating is impossible! Any free time is saved for family time. After all, they will be grown and on their own soon. I wonder if eHarmony can help us in that situation, or if it is just for typical singles... I do wish they would take parenting and children at home, not just “wants children”, more into consideration when “matching”.
- September 22nd, 2007, 05:35 pm
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I Love being a single parent. I have a 11 and 4 year old. I am able to stay at home in a 2 bedroom apartment. I dont have much and child support is very little but get me by, I also moved my 84 year old grandfather in w/ to take care of. I wouldnt trade it for the world or a man or stay in a relationship that the other party wouldnt try. I am 43 years old and i made a choice to put my life on hold right now NOT for my kids and grandfather. Its for me. my grandfather has maybe 4 years left w/ us and by then my kids will have friends and not need me as much. (they grow fast) Iam enjoying being there for them, plus its not fair to get in a relationship if i cant commit fully. stop and smell the roses. It does get better, you don.t need a man to make you.!!!! I learned that the hard way, my kids are my life and i love looking threw there eyes and learning from them. i know one thing i may have failed as a mate but i am a great mother and person and i have 3 people to stand behind me on that.
- September 23rd, 2007, 04:03 am
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