My first Valentines Day.. Please Help


Reply
  • Page 1 of 2
  • 1
  • 2
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Alicat83 is offline Alicat83 Post #1  February 7,2012, 5:44pm
Alicat83's Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Dec 2011

Posts: 30

See profile

I met a fantastic guy on EH in early November and we have been dating since then. We recently made our relationship exclusive and things have been great.
He recently told me that he has surprise plans for us on Valentines day, all I know is that it involves dinner.
I am super pleased that he has planned something special for us as this will be my first Valentines day ( I am 28, all my other relationships have never gotten this far and if they have I missed February for some reason)
I am nervous about what i should get him? I know he will spend lots of money on me that night ( he has a great job and loves to spend! lol) but I am on more of a budget, I want to get him something special but I am also still getting to know him in many ways and I think a serious gift like jewlery is way too much for 3 months of being together.

What is a good gift to give my boyfriend of 3 months??



thank you!!
 
  Reply With Quote
barbarella_42 is offline barbarella_42 Post #2  February 7,2012, 5:50pm
barbarella_42's Avatar

Quick Study

Joined: Nov 2011

Posts: 243

See profile

Mine of six months is getting a framed photo of us and some gumdrops (because he hates chocolate).
 
  Reply With Quote
Reverse_Dragon is offline Reverse_Dragon Post #3  February 7,2012, 6:35pm
Reverse_Drago…'s Avatar

w00t w00t! I is getting married! Success at last.

Enthusiast

Joined: Aug 2011

Louisville, KY

Posts: 693

See profile

I would recommend what I think of as a 'callback' gift. Think of something from your admitadly brief time together that has some kind of meaning for you both and get him that. One of the first dates my girlfriend and I had was to a sushi bar... it's the night we first kissed. So, among other things, I'm getting her a home sushi kit with a little tatami mat and various implements to make your own rolls.

These kinds of gifts are inexpensive but touching.
 
  Reply With Quote
notyet is offline notyet Post #4  February 7,2012, 9:56pm
notyet's Avatar

Power Poster

Joined: Nov 2008

Posts: 5,276

See profile

as a man, i would appreciate my lady dressing in a way that would be particularly pleasing to me and holding me extra closely. a card would be a nice touch. i would not be expecting anything else, except being appreciated.
 
  Reply With Quote
TryingHardToNotTrySoHard is offline TryingHardToNotTrySoHard Post #5  February 7,2012, 9:58pm
TryingHardToN…'s Avatar

is learning much, but why is there always much to learn?

Quick Study

Joined: May 2010

Posts: 70

See profile

I'm a big believer in the importance of the five love languages: physical touch, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and words of affirmation. If you know what either of his top two are, get him something that will naturally be used in that capacity. For example, quality time together might be tickets to a show or game he's wanted to go to or something like Reverse_Dragon's callback gift, where the assumed use is making dinner together. If his is gifts, something he can use that doesn't necessarily require you, such as a watch or cufflinks. You get the idea. Basically, I follow two rules in gift-giving: 1. Be creative, and 2. Be thoughtful. Follow those, and it's hard to go wrong.
 
  Reply With Quote
Wiseman2 is online now Wiseman2 Post #6  February 8,2012, 3:06am
Wiseman2's Avatar

Power Poster

Joined: May 2009

Posts: 6,316

See profile

Keep it simple...and..trying to "outshine him" or "match him" ...is somewhat creepy and unromantic for him.

Make sure at least it's a nice card with some words / thoughts of your own in it..... and make sure you truly enjoy /appreciate the evening /surprise he planned for you.....that is actually the best gift for him.....Good Luck...
Alicat83 wrote :
I am super pleased that he has planned something special for us as this will be my first Valentines day
I am nervous about what i should get him?
 
  Reply With Quote
suzyblueeyes is offline suzyblueeyes Post #7  February 8,2012, 4:48am
suzyblueeyes's Avatar

is engaged

Enthusiast

Joined: Dec 2008

USA

Posts: 855

See profile

I don't know if you're the cooking/baking type, but for our first vday, I made the boyfriend a multi-course dinner, baked his favorite dessert, and also made a special breakfast the next morning. I also got him a card. It sounds like you already have dinner plans, but you could always make his favorite dessert for afterwards!
 
  Reply With Quote
boschimsp is offline boschimsp — Advice Member-Moderator Post #8  February 8,2012, 7:26am
boschimsp's Avatar

Starting to acknowledge that my single life is actually fantastic.

Volunteer Community Leader

Joined: Sep 2010

Posts: 2,116

See profile

I'm all about doing things that are thoughtful. I agree with gestures like that. They don't have to cost a ridiculous amount of money, but generally mean a lot. In my long term relationship usually that meant I'd go all out making him a homemade meal, like suzyblueeyes mentions, but if that's not your style do something that is. Last year I was dating someone and he referenced liking chocolate ice cream early on as well as loving stout so I made some homemade chocolate stout ice cream for him.
 
  Reply With Quote
MW77009 is offline MW77009 Post #9  February 10,2012, 9:08am
MW77009's Avatar

Back at work

Pacesetter

Joined: Nov 2007

Houston TX

Posts: 421

See profile

I am getting my gf of four months chocolates and a mix cd of my own making; plus of course, a nice dinner.
 
  Reply With Quote
Tipitina is offline Tipitina Post #10  February 10,2012, 9:28am
Tipitina's Avatar

repents for her good behavior.

Veteran

Joined: Dec 2007

New Jersey

Posts: 1,318

See profile

boschimsp wrote :
I'm all about doing things that are thoughtful. I agree with gestures like that. They don't have to cost a ridiculous amount of money, but generally mean a lot. In my long term relationship usually that meant I'd go all out making him a homemade meal, like suzyblueeyes mentions, but if that's not your style do something that is. Last year I was dating someone and he referenced liking chocolate ice cream early on as well as loving stout so I made some homemade chocolate stout ice cream for him.
Do you have a recipe for that???
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply
  • Page 1 of 2
  • 1
  • 2


« Challenge in a relationship | Relationships | Found Rude Pics on Boyfriend's Phone »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
Valentines gift for men Kat72 Relationships 47 January 31,2012 9:15am
Your Best Valentine's Day singinggirl About You 8 February 7,2011 4:44am
Is it too early to talk about Valentine's? Want to suggest we stay in. scully98 Dating 16 January 12,2011 8:25am
Happy Valentines Day Can_I_just_be_Jo Love in the Fast Lane 12 February 14,2010 3:43pm
Ideas for Valentine's Day gift? NiceGuysFinishFirst Dating 22 February 1,2010 12:37pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“ ^This is the better plan.. My experience has been that love usually comes along when you least expect it, and when your heart is open enough to let it in. If you try to put a set time table on when ... ” –  TheThinker

Join the “Transition from dating to relationship” discussion

“ As Ingy mentions ...he's good with the lines and multitasking relationships.. All anyone can say is: don't get played again...especially by the same guy twice... Move on to someone who is decisive ... ” –  lynntlb78

Join the “Reuniting with EX” discussion

“This varies based on your age, gender, location, settings, and 29 dimensions. My settings are fairly narrow and I've always gotten a steady stream of matches. But, my location seems to have a lot ... ” –  dmi

Join the “Different Strategy” discussion

“I'm extremely allergic to cats, plus I just don't like 'em. So I won't date someone with cats. Dogs, I love. But I'm attracted to certain types of dogs. A guy with a little yorkie turns me off. ... ” –  ZisaGirl

Join the “What about a "PET BOX" ?? again this sounds simple or??” discussion

“If you get the opportunity, yes.” –  ThePriestess

Join the “Should I ever date in college?” discussion

“...and since you're Shaun Cassidy fan mitchell...this song is just for you! "Da Doo Ron Ron" I met her on a Monday And my heart stood still Da doo ron ron ron Da doo ron ron Somebody told me That ... ” –  legend29

Join the “Robin Gibbs Dead at 62...How Deep is Your Love?” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 10:35am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0