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jazzz is offline jazzz Post #1  February 4,2012, 6:18pm
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Hi,

I have been in a relationship for a year and a half now. It's been an up and down relationship.

My main issue has been being lied to.

Anyway, we were at a social gathering a couple of days ago. He was taking pics of his friends. He asked me to see if the phone/camera was working ok. When I did, I saw 3 pics of nude women on his phone.
He quickly tried to change the screen, but i already had seen them, and asked what they were.

What concerns me is one of them was a blurry nude pic. If it was a professional pawn site, you don't normally see blurry pics.
He had told me early on in the relationship he doesn't look at porn. I told him as long as he is honest with me in the relationship (general) I am a very understanding person.

What do you all think is with the blurry nude pic? I am thinking that is not just downloaded from the internet? maybe he took it himself? of course, he will never admit to that.

I wanted to go home after I saw those, and in the car, we were arguing. He started putting on the brakes really hard, to where I felt I coudl get whiplash. Then when we got back to his place, I got my things together to leave, but he closed his room door and grabbed my stuff. Then he threw the bag at me, and pushed me all the way out the door. i actually felt scared, like he could get even more violent with me.

Then when i got home he was texting and calling me, and saying he wanted to come over. I had to threaten him with the police, so he wouldn't come over, and he was saying i am over reacting to what happened???

Thoughts anyone please???
 
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I'd say he's on an Internet Dating site and was sent nude pics by women. Unfortunately some women use these hoping to attract. What concerns me is him throwing the bag at you and pushing you out the door. He got caught and he resorts to physical violence? Nothing to think about. End it with this guy.
 
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You should be so done with this guy ..... braking so hard, throwing your stuff at you, pushing you and you are only worried about the picture ?

Move on while you can and never see him and never talk to him again ... you dodged a bullet and you are lucky !
 
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Thank you.

I felt like he was going to do more than that. I was really afraid for my safety.

We were arguingin the car on the way back to his place, but he didnt have to resort to
putting his hands on me.

Yes, I think I dodged a bullet

Some men don't seem to realize it's more the lack of honesty, that hurts the most, than telling the truth to
their girlfriend

he tried to explain as being art. one was art, it was a painting of a nude woman. the other two were not. There was one of a blonde and a brunette.

Do you think the blurry nude pic of the brunette, was one that was sent to him by a woman, rather than
him just downloading it from a pron site???

He is one very silly man. He was onto a good thing with me.
 
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This guy is extremely bad news start to finish. Liar ,cheater, abuser....Run...fast now!...Good Luck..
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You should be so done with this guy ..... braking so hard, throwing your stuff at you, pushing you and you are only worried about the picture ?

Move on while you can and never see him and never talk to him again ... you dodged a bullet and you are lucky !
 
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I agree with Goomph. The first time people show you who they are, believe them (Maya Angelou). If this his his "normal" response, you need to RUN.
 
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The pictures are irrelevant at this point. He crossed a line when he pushed you...

Game Over!
 
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I have to mention this, you might want to consider having him charged ....
 
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jazzz is offline jazzz Post #9  February 5,2012, 5:56am
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For pushing me???'

I got lucky. He had smoked pot that night, and drinking. I got lucky he didnt do more than that.
 
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jazzz wrote :
For pushing me???'

I got lucky. He had smoked pot that night, and drinking. I got lucky he didnt do more than that.
If you believe what you just wrote, then get out now.

If you believe it, and you still want to stay with him, seek counseling.
 
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