inthevagueschemeofthings is offline inthevagueschemeofthings Post #1  January 31,2012, 3:23pm
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I was wondering, what exactly constitutes a relationship? Is it enough to be exclusively dating, or is there a certain intimacy threshold that needs to be crossed first?
 
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I deem a relationship to have begun when I have a sexually intimate partner, and we are each other's only intimate partner (in fact and by choice.)
 
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Technically speaking, a relationship just means a connection, association, or involvement. You have a relationship with your chair... you're on top of it. (presumably)

In my experience there are basically three types of romantic relationships.

Casual: You hang out, joke, fool around in bed, and generally enjoy each others company. It's not really going anywhere in particular, but it's quite fun while you are not going there.

BF/GF: You date regularly, have real feelings for each other, and hopefully are moving towards a deeper and more meaningful connection. You may be dating other people, possibly even having sex with other people, but there is one person you keep coming back to.

Exclusive: You want her and only her. (or him) She's the shade of your heart... the cat's meow, the bee's knees and elbows. You have moved past infatuation to geniune respect and admiration, and feel like the other person is an essential part of your life. This is the ultimate goal of dating to me.
 
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Reverse_Dragon wrote :
Technically speaking, a relationship just means a connection, association, or involvement. You have a relationship with your chair... you're on top of it. (presumably)

In my experience there are basically three types of romantic relationships.

Casual: You hang out, joke, fool around in bed, and generally enjoy each others company. It's not really going anywhere in particular, but it's quite fun while you are not going there.

BF/GF: You date regularly, have real feelings for each other, and hopefully are moving towards a deeper and more meaningful connection. You may be dating other people, possibly even having sex with other people, but there is one person you keep coming back to.

Exclusive: You want her and only her. (or him) She's the shade of your heart... the cat's meow, the bee's knees and elbows. You have moved past infatuation to geniune respect and admiration, and feel like the other person is an essential part of your life. This is the ultimate goal of dating to me.
Aren't you suppose to be exclusive once you get pass that your my gf/bf stage?
 
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Aren't you suppose to be exclusive once you get pass that your my gf/bf stage?
Preferably yes. For me, definately. But it's not universal. I've had GF's where both of us occasionally saw other people at first. As the relationship progresses exclusivity usually occurs. If it doesn't, things tend to degrade to the point where they can't be salvaged.
 
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Reverse_Dragon wrote :

BF/GF: You date regularly, have real feelings for each other, and hopefully are moving towards a deeper and more meaningful connection. You may be dating other people, possibly even having sex with other people, but there is one person you keep coming back to.
???? In my world (and everybody else's I know) my "Girlfriend" would not be going out with other people and having sex.
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This has been debated on the boards on this strange emergence of people saying that being boyfriend/girlfriend and having sex does not equal being exclusive...

In my world, at 43, when we become a "couple" or bf/gf, it's at the same time we become exclusive....(This also is usually discussed by the two of us and close to the time of having sex as I don't ever like to 'assume' that someone is not sleeping with others...

But I agree...I have never known a couple/bf/gf who are sleeping with or dating others....

It goes from casually dating (this includes possibly dating/sleeping with others), to exclusive bf/gf to getting engaged/married. Those are the steps I have always gone through with relationships.
 
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Relationship. When 2 people relate to each other until they hate each other!
 
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SteveManchesterEngland wrote :
Relationship. When 2 people relate to each other until they hate each other!

Ouch!

But more to the point, do you think it is exclusive when you are bf/gf?

I always confirm, but still, to me it is a given.
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skitermon wrote :
???? In my world (and everybody else's I know) my "Girlfriend" would not be going out with other people and having sex.
Yup! In my world, when you define the relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend it means exclusiveness! No more dating other people, no more chatting with other people, no more looking at online profiles (in fact your dating profiles are hidden or deleted at this point) and definitely no sex with anyone else!
 
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