bonzi is offline bonzi Post #1  January 25,2012, 4:53pm
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Is it a bad idea to text an ex (5 week connection 2 yrs ago) to meet for food. There has been no contact sence split. It seems like there's nothing to lose...
 
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It's been two years since the two of you have spoken? If it were me, I might find that a little odd, but that's just me. As you say though, there's probably nothing to lose. Are you still interested in this person, or is this just a friendly, "Let's go out for food and catch up," sort of thing? Based on anything I've ever read on these boards, just don't be surprised if your ex has some questions about your motives.
 
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Try to remember why they're an ex, before you get yourself entangled in another doomed relationship. You would have time / money / feelings at stake.

As far as, "What if she says no?", you're right, I wouldn't worry.
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bonzi wrote :
Is it a bad idea to text an ex (5 week connection 2 yrs ago) to meet for food. There has been no contact sence split. It seems like there's nothing to lose...
Nothing to lose but what is there to gain?

Time is a very tricky animal. Once you lose it, it can't be reclaimed.
 
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Probably depends on what caused them to be an ex. Figure out exactly why it didn't work out last time, then ask yourself if it is likely that has changed. If you can honestly answer yes, than I don't see why not.
 
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Been 2 years and no contact since? I'd say avoid it. For all you know they're already married with kids and you'd never know if you start issues in their household.

So, what's wrong with just going out with your friends or meeting new people?

Speaking from experience; my ex (it's been about 7 years) texted me (I've had the same number for a long, long time) and when my boyfriend asked I told him who he was and although it wasn't a full blown out fight, he was curious as to why he was texting me. I felt the same way. I don't want anyone to text me after so long, and especially under the circumstances? Oh no! Avoid the drama!!
 
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I guess you could but I'm not sure why you would.

I was selling these chairs on Craigslist and this guy I had gone out with a few times a few years before emailed me, not knowing it was me of course since the ad didn't have my name in it. I emailed him back about the chairs, told him they were sold, and added a "hope you are doing well" line to the message. He wrote back and asked if I was single and if I had a new picture I could send him. My reaction was "double-u tee eff, why is this guy trying to talk to me after I haven't heard from him for over 2 years?" I suspect that would be your exes reaction as well. Oh, and I didn't respond to his request.
 
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A five week thing two years ago? Backtracking out of desperation rarely works. If she even remembers you... it will most likely be seen as creepy..Move on to fresh new matches...Good Luck...
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Are you serious?!

You really need to work on developing some self respect and dignity and making better choices when it comes to relationships. Trying to contact someone you went out on a few dates with two years ago is not it. Doing it because you just got out of a terrible relationship is even worse. That kind of desperation to be with someone, anyone at all is what gets you into bad spots. You need to take some time to work on yourself and develop personal interests and a social life where you don't feel lonely just because you are not dating anyone. Only when you do that will you be attractive to the right woman and start having happy, healthy relationships.
 
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Wiseman2 wrote :
A five week thing two years ago? Backtracking out of desperation rarely works. If she even remembers you... it will most likely be seen as creepy..Move on to fresh new matches...Good Luck...
This^^^^

I would leave the past in the past in this instance.
 
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