Ingytravel is offline Ingytravel Post #11  January 26,2012, 6:43am
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DancingFool wrote :
Are you serious?!

You really need to work on developing some self respect and dignity and making better choices when it comes to relationships. Trying to contact someone you went out on a few dates with two years ago is not it. Doing it because you just got out of a terrible relationship is even worse. That kind of desperation to be with someone, anyone at all is what gets you into bad spots. You need to take some time to work on yourself and develop personal interests and a social life where you don't feel lonely just because you are not dating anyone. Only when you do that will you be attractive to the right woman and start having happy, healthy relationships.
Could not agree more!

Bonzi....you JUST wrote that you are in a terrible place right now...why in the world are you so desperate to have a girlfriend?

You seem to not want to hear anything sensible that people have to say and avoiding counseling at all costs....The sad part is you will keep going from bad relationship to bad relationship until you actually work on yourself...You are the common denominator in all of this...

(Shakes head in utter confusion)
 
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SteveManchesterEngland is offline SteveManchesterEngland Post #12  January 26,2012, 7:54am
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bonzi wrote :
Is it a bad idea to text an ex (5 week connection 2 yrs ago) to meet for food. There has been no contact sence split. It seems like there's nothing to lose...
I'd say plenty to lost. Her response might be sufficiently negative that it will just put you back even further regarding your rebuilding of your self confidence.

Are these the only 2 women in the world?
 
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The ex has an ulterior motive. Probably lonely. It's easier to return to something familar than to step out and brave something new.
 
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brokensmile76 wrote :
It's easier to return to something familar than to step out and brave something new.
Isn't this why so many people always come back and put up with so much crap? It's more common than one thinks. Sad, really.
 
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nick222 is offline nick222 Post #15  January 26,2012, 2:09pm
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bonzi wrote :
Is it a bad idea to text an ex (5 week connection 2 yrs ago) to meet for food. There has been no contact sence split. It seems like there's nothing to lose...
Do you want to maintain a connection with her of some kind? If so, do it; if not, don't. Sorry if this seems like an obvious or unhelpful response, but you're the only person who knows if this is someone you want in your life or not.
 
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I personally wouldn't. Generally things don't work out for a reason. Not to mention if it's been 2 years and I were your ex my response would probably be "Who is this?" as I don't keep numbers of guys gone by in my phone.
 
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