"friending" during a relationship


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bonzi is offline bonzi Post #1  January 23,2012, 12:11pm
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What does "friend-zoned" ( as in dating) look like in the terms of timetables? Can one be "friend-zoned" over time within a relationship? And again what does that look like? I'm looking back at my past relationship and seeing some of these elements. Where I'm lost is in the timetable part.
And, what does it mean when a woman says she needs to find herself?
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Huh???
 
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bonzi wrote :
And, what does it mean when a woman says she needs to find herself?
It means she needs to find herself....with someone else, not you.
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
Huh???
Yep, that was my reaction, too.

eharmonyjc wrote :
It means she needs to find herself....with someone else, not you.
Ha! Yes, that's what it means.
 
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" Friend-zoned" as in; you date someone a little while and could only see yourself as a friend with them.
Because my relationship went backwards, started w/spark and passion; to good times; to un-settled experiences;
to less sex to no sex to lets just be friends. Thus friend-zoned within a 1.5yr. relation.
 
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bonzi wrote :
" Friend-zoned" as in; you date someone a little while and could only see yourself as a friend with them.
Because my relationship went backwards, started w/spark and passion; to good times; to un-settled experiences;
to less sex to no sex to lets just be friends. Thus friend-zoned within a 1.5yr. relation.

Based on the title, I thought this was another thread about Facebook...

I always thought that "friend-zoning" was a process that took place at the initial stages of a relationship -- someone, usually the woman, makes a decision as to whether the other person will be a prospective intimate partner, or a friend. What you describe -- the transition from passion to friction over the course of a year and a half -- is the unfortunate lifecycle of a romantic relationship.
 
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bonzi wrote :
" Friend-zoned" as in; you date someone a little while and could only see yourself as a friend with them.
Because my relationship went backwards, started w/spark and passion; to good times; to un-settled experiences;
to less sex to no sex to lets just be friends. Thus friend-zoned within a 1.5yr. relation.
You're still difficult to understand, but from what I can gather you sound like you're trying to find some universal theory to explain why a woman is no longer interested in you. That's a rather pointless endeavor. What exactly are you really wanting to know from us?
 
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"Friending" and "friendzone" may be misnomers here. What you mean is the relationship is over, romantically...but limping along with attachments, nostalgia,etc......

Some people want to remain "friends" when a relationship is over, because they can not accept it is over / haven't found anyone else, etc.....Good Luck....
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" Friend-zoned" my relationship went backwards, started w/spark and passion; to good times; to un-settled experiences;
to less sex to no sex to lets just be friends. Thus friend-zoned within a 1.5yr. relation.
 
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bonzi wrote :
" Friend-zoned" as in; you date someone a little while and could only see yourself as a friend with them.
Because my relationship went backwards, started w/spark and passion; to good times; to un-settled experiences;
to less sex to no sex to lets just be friends. Thus friend-zoned within a 1.5yr. relation.
It unfortunately means that it's over. There is no more relationship.

It's been going downhill for the last 8 months. She is trying to do everything to tell you that she is not interested anymore...When someone does not want you to touch them.....it can't get anymore obvious than that...

It's quite shocking that you have to even ask this question....as well some of the things over the last months...That is why I keep suggesting to go back to counseling as you have trouble accepting the truth in front of you.

You want to cling on to any speck of a person when they are moving farther and farther away from you.

Counseling will help you build up your self esteem again so that when someone starts to treat you badly, you don't accept this and end things immediately.

Putting up with this woman's behavior over the last 8 months has shown that you have lost who you are and how to care for yourself.

So...hopefully this time you will actually hear her saying that she is not interested in you...she doesn't have romantic love for you...and I don't even think a friendship love either based on how awful she has treated you. This would be a person I would never have in my life....partner or friend...

I wish you luck..
 
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She is telling you the relationship is over. Move on, bonzi. You deserve better. Best of luck!
 
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