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OctoberRust,
I'll start by saying I think you're catching a lot of heat that you don't deserve! And depending on where you live there are more never-married 30 year olds than divorced ones.
To help you move past this, I'd say you should ask yourself a few things:
- can you respect the reasons he got married and divorced? If you understand how he found himself in this circumstance and can accept is as being reasonable, this will be easier to cope with. If you think his logic around the whole thing was lacking or that he acted stupidly (by getting married and/or divorced) then it might speak to a deeper issue in your relationship (ie, you don't respect him)
- Ask him more about his first marriage- Maybe your image of how things were between the two of them is very different than the reality. The reality may be eaiser for you to accept.

Since his divorce is not a new fact (I'm assuming you knew when the two of you began dating) I think you owe it to both of you to figure out if it's something you can live with sooner rather than later. And if you do decide to get past it, make sure your family knows that you are firmly in his corner just in case they may be a big factor in your current feelings.
I wish you the best!
 
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